Sorry if this seems inappropriate but its
serious. I just tried to have sex for the
first time and it was the biggest
disappointment of my life. Not only could
I not keep it ...Up but it really wasnt
doing it for me. I was horribly nervous
and just seemed a little tense. Is this a
normal thing in guys or what?
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Shadow_Saint
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 21 Oct 2003 Posts: 13
Posted: 10-31-03 17:37pm
Oh and im only 19 for the love of god...
Funny thing is we can be sitting together
rubbing eachother and I could be full
staff ready to screw the world, but then
when I went to put that condom on (which
was a health forum and ever second more it
took the limper I got) I just wouldnt stay
excited so to speak......Maybe I just need
a few drinks...
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LAWRENCE
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 31 Oct 2003 Posts: 14 Location: NEW JERSEY
Happened to Me But... Posted: 11-01-03 03:53am
The same thing happened to me the first
time I tried to have sex with this chick.
Everything was going well, but when I
whipped it out to put it in, it went limp.
Because we were in my mom's converted
basement, I played it off like I did not
want to get caught. The real reason is
that I have really strong religious
convictions, and when I wanted to go the
extra mile and do that which I knew was
wrong, my conscious kicked in and I
couldn't...At least not that time I
couldn't. Because of being 18 at the
time and still a virgin, the pressure for
me to have sex was great...I eventually
had sex over and over again. The key I
found to staying aroused was to think of
something that I used to masturbate to,
like a black tail magizine picture that
stuck in my head...So while getting ready,
i'd think of that picture of the chick in
the magizine and that worked fine for me,
can't say that it will work for you but it
might...Also, now that I am a pro at sex
now, I find that when I am tired of
screwing and I just want to nut and get it
over with, I have my chick rub my nipples
while I am hitting it...Does it every
time.
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Moparpowered426
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 15 Nov 2003 Posts: 1 Location: The North Pole
Posted: 11-15-03 17:14pm
I have the same problem..When it comes
time to rock and roll... The guy just
decides to laydown on the job.
..My g/f and I were going to have sex for
the first time last night...I was ready
til I put on the rubber..Er..Latex..And I
just lost it...She's convinced that its
her fault..She got really hung up on it
too...I felt absolutly horrible letting
her down like that and that she thinks its
her ...In
the end tho I did manage to get up and
running again..From hearing her...*ahem
apreciating me going down on her..The more
into it she was...The more into it I
got...Next time tho im going for the ultra
thin kind...Because normal and ribbed do
nothing for me
..I'm 18 btw..
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philasheo
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 22 Nov 2003 Posts: 12 Location: vbva
Posted: 11-22-03 17:18pm
Relax yur not a freak. First time for
guys isnt always what we have planned out.
Happened to me first time also. As for
the alcohol I wouldnt recommend it.
Alcohol could cause even more problems.
Main thing to remember is relax. One
opportunity knocks again take yr time with
her preopen the condom but leave in
package. Make sure yuour girl is
stimulated and moist. If she is willing
have her do some oral to the point where
you feel you cant handle it then slip the
condom on. But of course make sure you
partner is satisfied too. If she doesnt
o during session help her by doing oral
and/or stimulation with finger or toy.
Take care.
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saturn24
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 25 Nov 2003 Posts: 205 Location: Pittsburgh, Pa
Posted: 11-25-03 01:48am
Boys, I know I shouldn't be reading the
men's sexual health questions, but what
the heck the girl's ones are stupid. You
guys shouldn't worry about it. If it is
your first time, or your first time with a
new person, or if you just haven't had
that much sex, who cares. Now, I don't
have a man package, so I cannot speak from
personal knowledge, but I can speak from a
psychological prospective. The more
nervous you are, the less likely things
are going to work. Plus, the longer it
takes you to get the condom on, the less
likely he will start to look at the floor.
Two suggestions, first, lighten up. If
your partner cares about you she will
understand. Second, maybe have her put
the condom on for you, or do something to
keep you aroused while you are putting it
on. I find this ususally helps.
Besides, I am usually the one to lose
interest when the condom is being put on.
But safety is the key!
..My g/f and I were going to have sex for
the first time last night...I was ready
til I put on the rubber..Er..Latex..And I
just lost it...She's convinced that its
her fault..She got really hung up on it
too...I felt absolutly horrible letting
her down like that and that she thinks its
her 
...In
the end tho I did manage to get up and
running again..From hearing her...*ahem
apreciating me going down on her..The more
into it she was...The more into it I
got...Next time tho im going for the ultra
thin kind...Because normal and ribbed do
nothing for me 
..I'm 18 btw..