Sorry if this seems inappropriate but its serious. I just tried to have sex for the first time and it was the biggest disappointment of my life. Not only could I not keep it ...Up but it really wasnt doing it for me. I was horribly nervous and just seemed a little tense. Is this a normal thing in guys or what?
Oh and im only 19 for the love of god... Funny thing is we can be sitting together rubbing eachother and I could be full staff ready to screw the world, but then when I went to put that condom on (which was a !**@! and ever second more it took the limper I got) I just wouldnt stay excited so to speak......Maybe I just need a few drinks...
The same thing happened to me the first time I tried to have sex with this chick. Everything was going well, but when I whipped it out to put it in, it went limp. Because we were in my mom's converted basement, I played it off like I did not want to get caught. The real reason is that I have really strong religious convictions, and when I wanted to go the extra mile and do that which I knew was wrong, my conscious kicked in and I couldn't...At least not that time I couldn't. Because of being 18 at the time and still a virgin, the pressure for me to have sex was great...I eventually had sex over and over again. The key I found to staying aroused was to think of something that I used to masturbate to, like a black tail magizine picture that stuck in my head...So while getting ready, i'd think of that picture of the chick in the magizine and that worked fine for me, can't say that it will work for you but it might...Also, now that I am a pro at sex now, I find that when I am tired of screwing and I just want to nut and get it over with, I have my chick rub my nipples while I am hitting it...Does it every time.
I have the same problem..When it comes time to rock and roll... The guy just decides to laydown on the job. ..My g/f and I were going to have sex for the first time last night...I was ready til I put on the rubber..Er..Latex..And I just lost it...She's convinced that its her fault..She got really hung up on it too...I felt absolutly horrible letting her down like that and that she thinks its her ...In the end tho I did manage to get up and running again..From hearing her...*ahem apreciating me going down on her..The more into it she was...The more into it I got...Next time tho im going for the ultra thin kind...Because normal and ribbed do nothing for me ..I'm 18 btw..
Relax yur not a freak. First time for guys isnt always what we have planned out. Happened to me first time also. As for the alcohol I wouldnt recommend it. Alcohol could cause even more problems. Main thing to remember is relax. One opportunity knocks again take yr time with her preopen the condom but leave in package. Make sure yuour girl is stimulated and moist. If she is willing have her do some oral to the point where you feel you cant handle it then slip the condom on. But of course make sure you partner is satisfied too. If she doesnt o during session help her by doing oral and/or stimulation with finger or toy. Take care.
Boys, I know I shouldn't be reading the men's sexual health questions, but what the heck the girl's ones are stupid. You guys shouldn't worry about it. If it is your first time, or your first time with a new person, or if you just haven't had that much sex, who cares. Now, I don't have a man package, so I cannot speak from personal knowledge, but I can speak from a psychological prospective. The more nervous you are, the less likely things are going to work. Plus, the longer it takes you to get the condom on, the less likely he will start to look at the floor. Two suggestions, first, lighten up. If your partner cares about you she will understand. Second, maybe have her put the condom on for you, or do something to keep you aroused while you are putting it on. I find this ususally helps. Besides, I am usually the one to lose interest when the condom is being put on. But safety is the key!