Joined: 01 May 2004 Posts: 1103 Location: Chicago area
Married Men Posted: 07-21-04 14:02pm
Janet said it best.No one can "take away"
your lover without their permission.People
choose to be unfaithful,it does not "just
happen".They make a conscious decision to
have an affair.If this man were going to
leave his wife,he would have done so
already.He is living in a part of the
world where men cheat on their wives all
the time.If that's the kind of life you
want for yourself,go for it.Once a person
cheats,it becomes easier for them and it
often does not have anything to do with
being taken care of at home!I was 3 weeks
away from my wedding when my ex fiance
called off the wedding due to his
cheating.At least he was smart enough to
do that!(he would be 6 feet under if I had
found out after we were married)he had no
reason to cheat,i was always available for
sex ,cooked and cleaned and was supportive
of his career.It had absolutly nothing to
do with me and once I learned that,i was
able to move on and find happiness.People
cheat because of insecurities within
themselves!So,unless your baby undegoes
some intensive counciling,i doubt he will
stop cheating after you're together.He's
many miles from you now,he may have a
girlfriend or two down in the dominican
republic.I would move on and find a guy
who is ready for a true relationship.Good
luck!!
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JessC
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 27 Sep 2004 Posts: 3 Location: Illinois
Here Sweetie.. Posted: 09-27-04 12:44pm
First of all I think that if you really
feel like you love him than go for it.
If you think its worth it then take the
chance cause if you never find out that
just leaves years of wondering..You might
as well find out, the hard way or not and
if it works out thats great and if it
doesnt at least you know..I know that you
dont want heartbreak but arent you going
to be broken hearted if you just stop
being involved with him. I myself have
been seeing a married man..Our situation
is a little different and we have things
to wait on before it can actually just be
us 2, and I understand that for him which
makes our relationship stronger..Theres no
reason to trust these people but they hold
our hearts so we have to..I know how you
feel sweetie
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2ferano
Extremely EHEALTHy
Joined: 23 Dec 2003 Posts: 3717
Posted: 09-27-04 15:44pm
If he will leave his wife whom he voweled
to love and cherish forever then he will
eventually leave you for someone else too.
How do you think his wife feels? How
would you feel if it was your husband
cheating on you?
He just wants the best of both worlds and
you are letting him get it.
As for you having things to wait out until
you can be together, that is what all of
the married men who have girls on the side
say.
You really need to love and respect
yourself and your fellow woman.
Otherwise, you will never be happy no
matter who you are with.
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itsjustmeagain
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 14 Oct 2004 Posts: 4 Location: usa
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Two Words... Posted: 11-03-04 20:07pm
Dump him!!!
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bellax0x
Extremely EHEALTHy
Joined: 10 Jun 2004 Posts: 3572 Location: Jersey Baby!
Posted: 11-03-04 20:10pm
I agree. Once a dog always a dog
<3
gaby
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swimmer
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 10 Nov 2004 Posts: 65 Location: Utopia
Posted: 11-10-04 15:24pm
Find someone that wants to be with you
thats not married-
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Earth Mother
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 02 Nov 2004 Posts: 20
Posted: 11-16-04 14:25pm
Janetbee posted: it's so easy to see
things in black and white when they aren't
happening to you. But being involved with
a married man goes one of two ways --
either he leaves his wife straight away,
or he never does. Does anyone have any
experience to contradict that?
Yep! I do. After over two years of
being together, the divorce is going
through. The reason for the delay?
Rocky financial ground. If they had
divorced right off the bat, bankruptcy
would have been the only option, as he had
just been laid off, and I have no degree
to get a good job.
Two years later, he's expecting his degree
this spring, and has a few job
possibilities laid out. The divorce is
now going through.
Additionally, if they had divorced
immediately, his wife and college-aged
girls would have not had the jobs to
prepare themselves for a sudden soar in
insurance rates.
But then again, i'm lucky ... I've found
one of the better guys. Some really will
string you along with no hope of
resolution. Does this situation cause
problems? Sure. We discuss them, and
our fear of cheating on each other. We
work through it. Even if we did split in
the future, I know he won't just drop me
for some blonde bimbo, leaving me with
debt out the wazoo. That actually is
reassuring.
Don't automatically call men like this a
dog, ladies. Things happen. And he's
taken the time to ensure everyone is taken
care of as much as possible before leaving
them on their own.
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marilyn monroe
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 26 Nov 2007 Posts: 1
a Married Man In Love With His Lover Posted: 11-26-07 11:53am
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i think that it is in a person heart if
she is in love with a married nan only she
knows for sure and i think that others
should not judge only god can judge us not
others but they do and i do not care what
anyone says if i am happy i am happy i
know that it is wrong but if his wife was
treating him right he will not come to me
and if she gave him what he needed he
would not come to me think about it and if
i get hurt that is life i have to deal
with that no one else you have to be
strong minded to know what u are getting
into in the first place and if a women is
happy at what she has than let her be who
are u to say i think the ones that judge
others are the ones that are not happy
with their own lives and i think maybe
they been there maybe there husband
cheated on them once and they blame every
women that has a married lover but i do
not care what no one says cause this is my
life and my only life and if i am happy so
be it
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