Janet said it best.No one can "take away" your lover without their permission.People choose to be unfaithful,it does not "just happen".They make a conscious decision to have an affair.If this man were going to leave his wife,he would have done so already.He is living in a part of the world where men cheat on their wives all the time.If that's the kind of life you want for yourself,go for it.Once a person cheats,it becomes easier for them and it often does not have anything to do with being taken care of at home!I was 3 weeks away from my wedding when my ex fiance called off the wedding due to his cheating.At least he was smart enough to do that!(he would be 6 feet under if I had found out after we were married)he had no reason to cheat,i was always available for sex ,cooked and cleaned and was supportive of his career.It had absolutly nothing to do with me and once I learned that,i was able to move on and find happiness.People cheat because of insecurities within themselves!So,unless your baby undegoes some intensive counciling,i doubt he will stop cheating after you're together.He's many miles from you now,he may have a girlfriend or two down in the dominican republic.I would move on and find a guy who is ready for a true relationship.Good luck!!

First of all I think that if you really feel like you love him than go for it. If you think its worth it then take the chance cause if you never find out that just leaves years of wondering..You might as well find out, the hard way or not and if it works out thats great and if it doesnt at least you know..I know that you dont want heartbreak but arent you going to be broken hearted if you just stop being involved with him. I myself have been seeing a married man..Our situation is a little different and we have things to wait on before it can actually just be us 2, and I understand that for him which makes our relationship stronger..Theres no reason to trust these people but they hold our hearts so we have to..I know how you feel sweetie

If he will leave his wife whom he voweled to love and cherish forever then he will eventually leave you for someone else too. How do you think his wife feels? How would you feel if it was your husband cheating on you?
He just wants the best of both worlds and you are letting him get it.
As for you having things to wait out until you can be together, that is what all of the married men who have girls on the side say.

You really need to love and respect yourself and your fellow woman. Otherwise, you will never be happy no matter who you are with.

Dump him!!!

I agree. Once a dog always a dog

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gaby

Find someone that wants to be with you thats not married-

Janetbee posted: it's so easy to see things in black and white when they aren't happening to you. But being involved with a married man goes one of two ways -- either he leaves his wife straight away, or he never does. Does anyone have any experience to contradict that?

Yep! I do. After over two years of being together, the divorce is going through. The reason for the delay? Rocky financial ground. If they had divorced right off the bat, bankruptcy would have been the only option, as he had just been laid off, and I have no degree to get a good job.

Two years later, he's expecting his degree this spring, and has a few job possibilities laid out. The divorce is now going through.

Additionally, if they had divorced immediately, his wife and college-aged girls would have not had the jobs to prepare themselves for a sudden soar in insurance rates.

But then again, i'm lucky ... I've found one of the better guys. Some really will string you along with no hope of resolution. Does this situation cause problems? Sure. We discuss them, and our fear of cheating on each other. We work through it. Even if we did split in the future, I know he won't just drop me for some blonde bimbo, leaving me with debt out the wazoo. That actually is reassuring.

Don't automatically call men like this a dog, ladies. Things happen. And he's taken the time to ensure everyone is taken care of as much as possible before leaving them on their own.

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i think that it is in a person heart if she is in love with a married nan only she knows for sure and i think that others should not judge only god can judge us not others but they do and i do not care what anyone says if i am happy i am happy i know that it is wrong but if his wife was treating him right he will not come to me and if she gave him what he needed he would not come to me think about it and if i get hurt that is life i have to deal with that no one else you have to be strong minded to know what u are getting into in the first place and if a women is happy at what she has than let her be who are u to say i think the ones that judge others are the ones that are not happy with their own lives and i think maybe they been there maybe there husband cheated on them once and they blame every women that has a married lover but i do not care what no one says cause this is my life and my only life and if i am happy so be it