How to Approach a Bipolar Person?

Valiette,
I have been bi-polar for 59 years and yes, I tend to do the same things as your boyfriend does. I stay away from people. Depression like that is so overwhelming that you can't function at all in any situation. I also do it because I personally feel that others should not be the brunt of my nastiness and impatience when I am so sick. My depression can last for years, I am also a rapid cycler, and can also be in both manic and depressive stage at the same time. My advise, from a bi-polar point of view is to just drop him a note, short phone call, and just let him know that he is not alone, and that as a friend you are there if he wants to talk about it or whatever. If you really care about him learn as much about the disorder as you can and then let him know you understand how horrible it must be for him.
God bless both of you
leslie

I don't know why my bf is so good with other people?
When he's deperssed he is apart from all his family and the nearest friends to him, but he can come to chat online with anyone, or even with some friends and he's so nice with them and very happy, but when I come for example online, he's so agressif with me, is this because he wants to be apart from anyone he loves? He doesn't call me at all since a few days. I don't know what to do, I love him so much and I wanna be with him.
Waiting fro your advices
thanks

I noticed this post was from awhile back but I can really relate, my bf will act so nasty to me at times but be so nice to others...Is that something that could be from being bipolar? Ive said something to him before bout treating me crappy and treating everyone else better...Its frustrating!

I myself am bi-polar and I can relate to your boyfriend acting nice to other and nasty to the ones he loves. I tend to do the same thing though I dont mean to be cruel to those I love it just comes off that way and sometimes I even get agressive often thats because I dont want those I love to see me in my depressed state I dont want them to have to deal with it because I love htem too much to expose them to taht adn often the only way to make sure they arent exposed to it is to push them away and sometimes even get agressive when they insist on talking to me about it. I'd wait till he's in a better mood and help him seek treatment. Let him know he isnt alone and that your willing to be there for him, show him information on bi-polar disorder (if he hasn't been medically diagnosed yet) and just help him any way you can, he'll eventually warm up to you and stop being so agressive as long as you are calm and rational with him and try not to be too upset as men tend to hate seeing women cry. Sometimes he'll still push you away and possibly get a little aggressive but it will get better over time as long as your careful not to push the issue with him. And thats my advice so yeah *smile*

Thanks...I posted in my other post about how he doesnt know I know, im pretty sure he is though after reading forums and other info...So I probably wont tell him I know or bring it up. Id let him do that if he wants to tell me.
It probably doesnt help that when we get in fights/arguments that he can make me cry easily sometimes by what he says...
Ill just have to approach things in different ways.

Thats the best idea, change how you approach the problem and hey if it helps. I know you can do it and I know you'll be just fine. I cry easily cuz of my boyfriend sometimes too but mostly they hate it when we cry because of something they've done or said or some problem with them (like them being bipolar or something similar) they hate to know they caused us pain and no fighting doesnt help try andbe calm and rational and I know everything will work out just fine. Good luck. *smile*

Thanks so much for your encouragement! I hope knowin how to deal with this will help our relationship more cuz lately its been hectic to where I dont know if I can deal with it!

Hey i'm glad I can help, i've had a few relationships fall apart cuz my bf couldn't handle my bipolar. Dont wanna see that happen to you or anyone else. :d

Ok well your bf might be doing drugs I dont know him but its is one of the biggest things of the disorder. I'm bi-polar to I have been for 17 year so year its really hard. :twisted: :evil:

My ex bf who has bipolar disorder, he
invertnly hurt me that I have a very noticable dark scar on my right knee
i look awful :( it formed a keloid, and I do not have the money for laser surgery, if that could even help
i have been putting merderma on it for months.Did not help.

The situation was all fine and then he wants me to go home just like that, well really he says get the f out of his house, it is in the middle of the nite
i did not drive there, he drove me there
so I have no way of going home, well I could have called the cab, but first I wanted to get out of his home, as he was cursing,screaming
so I proceed to walk down the road
and then he gets in his car, and I have my backpack and a bag of my stuff, and he stops the car on the road by his house,
and tells me to get in, so he has the engine running, cause he is in the road resdiental area, and I open the back door to put my bags in
cause there is no room in the passanger seat
and as I close that door, I have my hand on the passenger door as I was just about to open it to go in,
we are talking seconds here
and my bipolar boyfriend speeds away!
What happens is because I had my hand on the door handle
i fall smack down on the pavenment right onto my wrists and knees,
i was on crutches for weeks, I hurt myself real bad
thank god it was not worse
and for what? I did nothing wrong, except fall in love with him

i did not know anyting about bipolar prior
he treated me prior like a princess, I really loved him, trusted him
everyone else adored him, thought great of him, now
i feel like the world's greatest fool, and my knee says it all

i had an awful experience, I pray no one else has one like mine
everyone is different, so I am just expressing my story
i will never date again, how can I ever trust anyone else again?

For me personally, I know that when I'm in a really bad state, I treat those closest to me the worst because I'm scared of hurting them and doing permanent damage so I just need to be away from them until I'm "better".. it's for them I do it, but it feels like I'm doing it to get back at them, I know. my therapist says many people do it for that reason, so that could be why those you all know do it.

just because someone has bipolar disorder doesn't make them totally nuts. Yeah you get really angry and irritable but it sounds like your significant other had anger issues outside of bipolar.

and we HAVE bipolar we are NOT bipolar.