Hi odessa, i'm terribly sorry to hear that you lost your husband. It really does sound as though you are not ready to commit to a relationship just yet. You may still be grieving for your hubby. Sometimes it takes years for someone to move on after losing their partner. Physically you may be ready, but emotionally it is probably more difficult to accept another man into your life. It would be great if you could keep a close friendship with this man until you are ready to start a relationship, but at the same time you will need to take his emotional needs into consideration as well. He may be ready to move into a committed relationship now, and waiting may not be something he is able to do. You really need to be able to sit down together and talk openly and honestly with each other about what you both expect from one another, once you have both talked and it is out in the open, take both your wants and needs into consideration and use this information to make a decision on whether or not it is possible to either become a committed couple or keep it on a friendship level. I sympathyse with your situation and wish you lots of luck in finding a solution.

Regards,

suzy