Sorry if this seems inappropriate but its serious. I just tried to have sex for the first time and it was the biggest disappointment of my life. Not only could I not keep it ...Up but it really wasnt doing it for me. I was horribly nervous and just seemed a little tense. Is this a normal thing in guys or what?
This is just so messed up! This is something that I have been waiting for my whole life and it seems odd that I couldnt do it. I think I was so hung up about just doing it to do it that it took the fun out of it. All my friends get some and I was the only one who didnt. So I guess it was sorta pressured and rushed. Well there is always next time and next I will buy different condoms because they ones I had were like sandpaper rubbing together....Yuck.
Not unusual at all! Understand this ok: our society paints this manly john wayne (an old but good famous cowboy) shoot'm up and ride'm hard gun-ho he-man or g.I. Joe mentality that is 100% false, got it!!
Men are just as sensitive as women but that is a lot to understand some times.
You just need to take your time -- as does the lady. Some time go w/ her and just spend time in a bed w/o sex. Don't make it the number one showtime, ya know.
Take it easy. Take your time, forget about it. Explain to her exactly your feelings, i.E. It's number one on my mind but it doesn't all work that way and that you really need to take it slow.