First of all, how old are you? When I was younger I had trouble reaching orgasm, and for a while I had to stimulate myself while having sex. Eventually you learn more about your body and what will work for you. This may help, pick a fantasy of yours and believe you are acting it out, it will arouse you and may make it easier to orgasm, also i've found that when I am on top it makes it easier to reach orgasm, this may be graphic, but, grind him to stimulate your clit. Hope I could help!
Good luck~
sara

I have never ever had an o! I am married and my husband wishes I could have one! It starts to feel really really good, then I don't even care about the sex anymore after that? I am 19 though? Well, maybe someday!

The thing is, you have to be really into it. I had the same problem once. Ive been with other guys and never had one, but with jose I do. Sometimes when my mind is on other things, I dont get one at all. But you have to really want it, like be horny. Then it depends on the position and how fast. Im sorry this is graphic so I hope no kids read this. I find that on the positions of missionary, the floor works best. My bed is squeeky as hell so we hit the floor often and with its straightness and stuff it comes easy. Try postioning your legs differently. Like spread them more when hes on top. Sometimes just a wide spread works. Also hold it, like if your going pee and you hold it, try that and then let go. Dont pee though! Lol. And that can bring it too. Once we were making out at the same time and for some reason the tounge action stimulates it best. Try those things or things on your own. Hope it helps!

Hi,
when I read your message, it felt like I was asking that same question.
I've found that my issue stems from a subconcious weight problem. I am not over weight at all. I know that, but sometimes I get really depressed and feel very obese. I am 20 years old, have two small children, and a great husband. Every time we start having sex I feel fat and ugly.
My husband thinks i'm crazy for feeling that way and does everything to make me feel better, but nothing works.

Help me, help my stressful life. Thanks

Hi!
I think everyone has some self conscious issues about their own body, but jut remember that your husband thinks you are the hottest you are his goddess and he loves you, you should never feel uncomfortable with him, because he is with you for a reason, he doesn't want you to change he loves every inch of you, and that is why it is so great to be with a significant other. My problem is my breasts, I wish they were big and volumptuous, but they aren't, so there's not much I can do about it. What I found to work is to imagine they are huge and rubbing against him, and seriously within a minute I have an orgasm. Just remember, when you are confidant it will show, to both yourself and whoever you are with. It will make it more enjoyable for the both of you! Have fun girls and be strong!!!

I also have a hard time, but I read on web site that most women don't have an orgasm by just having sex with your significant other, they have to do stimulation also. I have had orgasm without stimulation, but not often, also if you are on top that makes it better.

I have the same problem as u...Sometimes I fake it...But 100% of the time...I have to help out

Hey,,nothing wrong about lending a helping hand...My girl requires lots of clitoris stimulation.....I do the stimulation ,,,,called foreplay,,nothing wrong with that...I like to get her to the point where she thinks she is going to get there and then I slow down,,,wow her hips gyrate ,,,,then more kissing and touching,,lots of touching,,,,and her touching me also,,then back to the stimulation...Hand, tongue,,,,fingers,,,sorry if its to graphic,,,,but when she finally begs to get there I go in and still rubbing her spot ,,and right before she gets there I go in all the way,,,,,have more tips if you need them ,,,,,good luck

I have to help out if I wanna get satisfied.....But if I am on top...I always get satisfied....When he is on top..It feels like I get close sometimes but then.....Nothing.

This is kinda embarassing but I have never had an orgasm with a guy. I can play with myself and get one I cant get one with a dildo either its crazy and I dont know why. I mean I like to have sex but I dont ever have a orgasm and I want to really bad please give me some tips on how I can. When I have sex I dont ever come close to it am I the only person like that? This is really embarassing but when I have sex I get really wet and real loose and I havent been with but just a couple of guys I dont understand why I get so loose is there any advice if anyone can help please do so I feel embarassed about it I wont to be able to have a orgasm and not be so loose please help!

I just barely got my first "o" a couple of months ago, and I feel wet during the day alot. It just depends on the women, on how wet or dry they are.

I have never had a "o" before..I get close to having one but I feel like I am gonna piss everywhere people tell me thats what it feels like or something but I am embrassed if I do

In one reply you said you have more tips...Please share. Lol thanks for all the help. :d

Reaching an orgasm has alot to do with how comfortable you are with your self and your partner. If you are under any pressure,you will neutralize the whole experience. You must let go of all worries and fear. I always reach the clitorial orgasm and over the years, they come much faster. I am pretty sure to have hade vaginal orgasm but not 100% sure. I have tried many positions and found one quite interesting. Depending maybe of the size and curve of the penis, if I lay on my back and close my legs, after having a clitoral orgasm, and penetration begins, it increases the orgasm feeling and I go crazy. Using vibrators can actually make things worse because it is to powerful and to go back to the penis, it can make it more difficult. Concentrate on your self during intercourse. I use to always concentrate on my partner and it would interfear with my pleasure. I cant appriciate things like 69 (sorry for graffics) but to reach my orgasm point, I must focus my self. It may sound selfish but their is plenty of time to take care of the other before and after. Make sure you have an open relationship where you can discuss everything. Likes, dislikes. I read someones reply and it really helps to tease. Dont let your partner get streight to the point. He has to make you want it sooo bad that it drives you crazy. To play around and you know that once he touches you at the right place, it will be so intence that if he pulls away, you almost want to cry and once he returns to that spot you want it to last forever. It also helps to take two fingers and squeeze the clitoris in between, it makes it stick out and more sensative.
I hope this has helped.

Me and my man have not slept together and part of that reason is because I have never gotten an O and Im afraid of making him feel like crap and Im not good at faking it and he is coming home from Iraq in three weeks and I want to surprise him but really nervous about it. Been together for a while and I know he has been patient and faithful! Please help!