Hard Time Reaching Orgasm!!! Posted: 10-30-03 19:12pm
Hello,
this is like, totally embarassing for me,
but I have a really hard time reaching
orgasm. By manual stimulation (when im
alone) it takes 5-10 minutes, but when im
around my boyfriend it takes 10-20
minutes! I'm not gay, but I think I might
have privacy issues. I also, don't get an
orgasm from sex, I have to stimulate
myself! My boyfriend feels like a "lesser
man" because he can't give me an orgasm,
but I can give myself one. I am actually
kind of ashamed, cuz maybe something's
wrong with me. I really have no idea. Is
there anything that could make me more
sexually stimulated/able to reach orgasm
faster? Like what I mean, is things other
than vibrators. If anyone could help me
with my questions I would greatly greatly
appreciate.
Thanx a bunch,
betty boop
ps. Do any of u girls experience alot of
wetness, during the day, and times when
your not supposed to be? Lol
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saraludlum
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 24 Sep 2003 Posts: 16 Location: Orange County, CA
Posted: 10-31-03 11:41am
First of all, how old are you? When I was
younger I had trouble reaching orgasm, and
for a while I had to stimulate myself
while having sex. Eventually you learn
more about your body and what will work
for you. This may help, pick a fantasy of
yours and believe you are acting it out,
it will arouse you and may make it easier
to orgasm, also i've found that when I am
on top it makes it easier to reach orgasm,
this may be graphic, but, grind him to
stimulate your clit. Hope I could help!
Good luck~
sara
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Eunice
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 04 Oct 2003 Posts: 34
Never Ever! Posted: 11-02-03 00:39am
I have never ever had an o! I am married
and my husband wishes I could have one!
It starts to feel really really good, then
I don't even care about the sex anymore
after that? I am 19 though? Well,
maybe someday!
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nikki_caro
Extremely EHEALTHy
Joined: 22 Aug 2003 Posts: 4921 Location: Right here at work!
Dont Read It Too Young Please! Posted: 11-03-03 14:45pm
The thing is, you have to be really into
it. I had the same problem once. Ive
been with other guys and never had one,
but with jose I do. Sometimes when my
mind is on other things, I dont get one at
all. But you have to really want it, like
be horny. Then it depends on the position
and how fast. Im sorry this is graphic so
I hope no kids read this. I find that on
the positions of missionary, the floor
works best. My bed is squeeky as hell so
we hit the floor often and with its
straightness and stuff it comes easy. Try
postioning your legs differently. Like
spread them more when hes on top.
Sometimes just a wide spread works. Also
hold it, like if your going pee and you
hold it, try that and then let go. Dont
pee though! Lol. And that can bring it
too. Once we were making out at the same
time and for some reason the tounge action
stimulates it best. Try those things or
things on your own. Hope it helps!
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A-Lil'Mama*2
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 03 Nov 2003 Posts: 89 Location: The Sunshine State
Re: Hard Time Reaching Orgasm!!! Posted: 11-03-03 16:41pm
betty boop
wrote:
hello,
this is like, totally embarassing for me,
but I have a really hard time reaching
orgasm. By manual stimulation (when im
alone) it takes 5-10 minutes, but when im
around my boyfriend it takes 10-20
minutes! I'm not gay, but I think I
might have privacy issues. I also, don't
get an orgasm from sex, I have to
stimulate myself! My boyfriend feels
like a "lesser man" because he can't give
me an orgasm, but I can give myself one.
I am actually kind of ashamed, cuz maybe
something's wrong with me. I really have
no idea. Is there anything that could
make me more sexually stimulated/able to
reach orgasm faster? Like what I mean,
is things other than vibrators. If
anyone could help me with my questions I
would greatly greatly appreciate.
Thanx a bunch,
betty boop
ps. Do any of u girls experience alot of
wetness, during the day, and times when
your not supposed to be?
Lol
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A-Lil'Mama*2
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 03 Nov 2003 Posts: 89 Location: The Sunshine State
Hard Time Reaching Orgasm Posted: 11-03-03 16:51pm
Hi,
when I read your message, it felt like I
was asking that same question.
I've found that my issue stems from a
subconcious weight problem. I am not over
weight at all. I know that, but sometimes
I get really depressed and feel very
obese. I am 20 years old, have two small
children, and a great husband. Every time
we start having sex I feel fat and ugly.
My husband thinks i'm crazy for feeling
that way and does everything to make me
feel better, but nothing works.
Help me, help my stressful life. Thanks
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saraludlum
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 24 Sep 2003 Posts: 16 Location: Orange County, CA
Posted: 11-03-03 17:36pm
Hi!
I think everyone has some self conscious
issues about their own body, but jut
remember that your husband thinks you are
the hottest you are his goddess and he
loves you, you should never feel
uncomfortable with him, because he is with
you for a reason, he doesn't want you to
change he loves every inch of you, and
that is why it is so great to be with a
significant other. My problem is my
breasts, I wish they were big and
volumptuous, but they aren't, so there's
not much I can do about it. What I found
to work is to imagine they are huge and
rubbing against him, and seriously within
a minute I have an orgasm. Just remember,
when you are confidant it will show, to
both yourself and whoever you are with.
It will make it more enjoyable for the
both of you! Have fun girls and be
strong!!!
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Georgeann2003
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 05 Nov 2003 Posts: 2 Location: SC
Posted: 11-06-03 00:00am
I also have a hard time, but I read on web
site that most women don't have an orgasm
by just having sex with your significant
other, they have to do stimulation also.
I have had orgasm without stimulation,
but not often, also if you are on top that
makes it better.
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Hay04
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 05 Nov 2003 Posts: 8 Location: USA
to Betty Boop Posted: 11-06-03 09:13am
I have the same problem as u...Sometimes I
fake it...But 100% of the time...I have to
help out
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understood
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 10 Nov 2003 Posts: 13
Helpoing Hand Posted: 11-14-03 14:03pm
Hey,,nothing wrong about lending a helping
hand...My girl requires lots of clitoris
stimulation.....I do the stimulation
,,,,called foreplay,,nothing wrong with
that...I like to get her to the point
where she thinks she is going to get there
and then I slow down,,,wow her hips gyrate
,,,,then more kissing and touching,,lots
of touching,,,,and her touching me
also,,then back to the stimulation...Hand,
tongue,,,,fingers,,,sorry if its to
graphic,,,,but when she finally begs to
get there I go in and still rubbing her
spot ,,and right before she gets there I
go in all the way,,,,,have more tips if
you need them ,,,,,good luck
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Hay04
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 05 Nov 2003 Posts: 8 Location: USA
Posted: 11-14-03 14:18pm
I have to help out if I wanna get
satisfied.....But if I am on top...I
always get satisfied....When he is on
top..It feels like I get close sometimes
but then.....Nothing.
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mana_25_2002
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 15 Sep 2003 Posts: 6
Please Help Posted: 11-24-03 14:06pm
This is kinda embarassing but I have never
had an orgasm with a guy. I can play with
myself and get one I cant get one with a
dildo either its crazy and I dont know
why. I mean I like to have sex but I dont
ever have a orgasm and I want to really
bad please give me some tips on how I can.
When I have sex I dont ever come close to
it am I the only person like that? This
is really embarassing but when I have sex
I get really wet and real loose and I
havent been with but just a couple of guys
I dont understand why I get so loose is
there any advice if anyone can help please
do so I feel embarassed about it I wont to
be able to have a orgasm and not be so
loose please help!
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xlala
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 14 Nov 2003 Posts: 38 Location: Vermont
Posted: 11-24-03 23:16pm
I just barely got my first "o" a couple of
months ago, and I feel wet during the day
alot. It just depends on the women, on
how wet or dry they are.
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kitty_55
Extremely EHEALTHy
Joined: 18 Aug 2003 Posts: 1473 Location: Canada
I Never Had One Before:( Posted: 11-25-03 00:49am
I have never had a "o" before..I get close
to having one but I feel like I am gonna
piss everywhere people tell me thats what
it feels like or something but I am
embrassed if I do
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lopa17
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 14 Nov 2003 Posts: 5
to Understood- Posted: 11-28-03 23:26pm
In one reply you said you have more
tips...Please share. Lol thanks for all
the help. :d
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bella_034
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 11 Dec 2003 Posts: 3 Location: canada
Orgasm Posted: 12-11-03 23:36pm
Reaching an orgasm has alot to do with how
comfortable you are with your self and
your partner. If you are under any
pressure,you will neutralize the whole
experience. You must let go of all
worries and fear. I always reach the
clitorial orgasm and over the years, they
come much faster. I am pretty sure to
have hade vaginal orgasm but not 100%
sure. I have tried many positions and
found one quite interesting. Depending
maybe of the size and curve of the penis,
if I lay on my back and close my legs,
after having a clitoral orgasm, and
penetration begins, it increases the
orgasm feeling and I go crazy. Using
vibrators can actually make things worse
because it is to powerful and to go back
to the penis, it can make it more
difficult. Concentrate on your self
during intercourse. I use to always
concentrate on my partner and it would
interfear with my pleasure. I cant
appriciate things like 69 (sorry for
graffics) but to reach my orgasm point, I
must focus my self. It may sound selfish
but their is plenty of time to take care
of the other before and after. Make sure
you have an open relationship where you
can discuss everything. Likes, dislikes.
I read someones reply and it really helps
to tease. Dont let your partner get
streight to the point. He has to make you
want it sooo bad that it drives you crazy.
To play around and you know that once he
touches you at the right place, it will be
so intence that if he pulls away, you
almost want to cry and once he returns to
that spot you want it to last forever. It
also helps to take two fingers and squeeze
the clitoris in between, it makes it stick
out and more sensative.
I hope this has helped.
