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SacredxBabyxEyes
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*****so Scared...i Need Yur Help Please!!!!*****
Posted: 02-01-05 22:57pm
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Ok...Im 16...I went to planned parenthood
to go on bc but I cant start until my next
period which is soon but I had un
protected sex....A couple times since my
last exam and pregnancy test...And if im
pregnant...Im scared cuz then tha bc was
pointless. I want a baby so bad, and I
raised my little borthers so I know I can
handle it, but im still scared...But
scared the most because I cannot tell my
dad. He would just kill me and my
boyfriend. I mean im not ready for a baby
although I want one...My boyfriend and I
got pre-engaged on cristmas...And hes in
the army and is 18 and has a planned
future, and I was plannin on going to
college..So what should I do...Abortion is
totally out of the question...I need to
tell my parents...That is if I am
pregnant. My mom is not much of a problem
to tell...But my dad would just kill both
of us. Any ideas on how to let my dad
know if I am pregnant? Please help, im
crying just writin this...Thanks a bunch!
:oops:
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kristynchase
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Posted: 02-01-05 23:31pm
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First of all you are 16.. Do you have a
job? Think about the baby.. Are you
going to be able to give your child what
they need. That is the most important
thing you need to think about.. You are
only 16 I think that is a little bit to
young to start planning to have a child...
The best advice is to be more carefull if
you arent preggo get on it, it will be the
best thing for you.. Good luck to you
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SacredxBabyxEyes
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True But Im Still Scared...
Posted: 02-01-05 23:36pm
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Yes I have a job and so does my boyfriend.
We could handle it its just I dnt kno how
I would tell my dad if I am preggo...Help!
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vaughn6606
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Posted: 02-02-05 00:27am
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Hey hun..Well first of all you need to
find out for sure if you are or if your
not...I was married by the time I found
out I was havin my baby...But I was only
17...Im 18 now..It was hard to tell my mom
and dad..But my husband and I just sit
down and told them and they accepted it
and the fact that I had enough respect to
tell them before I got to far along helped
out..If u want to talk..U can post again
or pm me
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steen
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Posted: 02-02-05 01:13am
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First of all, be sure whether you are
actually pregnant. Get a test.
Then if you are not, better find out
whether you want to be pregnant or not.
If you know that you can not, then better
get on birth control. Otherwise, you
would have to go through all this again.
(and, by the way, per statistics, only 4%
of grils who get pregnant while in school
actually manage to graduate highschool.
That's not good odds.)
now, if you are pregnant and want to
continue the pregnancy, then it really
sounds like you need to first tell your
mom and then have her help you figuring
out how to handle your dad.
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BrianBaby
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Posted: 02-02-05 08:05am
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Find out for sure if you are pregnant or
not first....No sense crying over
something that isn't even there, right??
Go from there...One thing at a time
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l2at24
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Posted: 02-02-05 11:09am
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| brianbaby
wrote: | | find out for sure if you are
pregnant or not first....No sense crying
over something that isn't even there,
right?? Go from there...One thing at a
time |
ditto. Why don't you wait until you
finish high school? If you're already
preg than that's one thing, but if not
finish this part of your life first.
School and getting married.
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lulabelle
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Posted: 02-02-05 11:45am
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When I found out I was preg. At 19 I was
scared to death to tell my dad. I told
my mom first and asked her to tell him for
me. When I was at her house one day she
still had not told him, as I was leaving
she went to the kitchen where he was
cooking at told him just as I was fixing
to walk out the door. He called my name
and told me to come into the kitchen... I
was scared to death! He was at the sink
and I walked in and by my surprise, he
turned around, smiled, and said are we
having a boy or a girl?? He gave me a hug
and told me he loved me and if I needed
anything to let him know. I was so scared
and stressed out at the thought of telling
him I never imagined he would take it that
way. It will sometimes surprise you the
way people handle things. Be honest with
your parents if you are preg. They will
love and support you when you least expect
it! Good luck, and keep us posted.
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Texan
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Sixteen And Possibly Preg.
Posted: 02-02-05 11:59am
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First of all, how many people on this
forum are under 20 yrs. Old??? I've read
soooo many posts about young girls being
pregnant...Am I the only one who sees that
something is wrong with this picture and
has been for several years. Now, to the
girl who says she "raised her brothers",
how did you raise them if in your post you
mentioned mom and dad? Young girls now a
days think everything is sooooo easy when
in reality, and sorry to say, these types
of relationships never last......
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Princess385
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Re: Sixteen And Possibly Preg.
Posted: 02-02-05 12:02pm
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| texan
wrote: | | first of all, how many
people on this forum are under 20 yrs.
Old??? I've read soooo many posts about
young girls being pregnant...Am I the only
one who sees that something is wrong with
this picture and has been for several
years. Now, to the girl who says she
"raised her brothers", how did you raise
them if in your post you mentioned mom and
dad? Young girls now a days think
everything is sooooo easy when in reality,
and sorry to say, these types of
relationships never
last...... |
age has nothing to do with anything
texan.....
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BrianBaby
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Re: Sixteen And Possibly Preg.
Posted: 02-02-05 12:05pm
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| texan
wrote: | | first of all, how many
people on this forum are under 20 yrs.
Old??? I've read soooo many posts about
young girls being pregnant...Am I the only
one who sees that something is wrong with
this picture and has been for several
years. Now, to the girl who says she
"raised her brothers", how did you raise
them if in your post you mentioned mom and
dad? Young girls now a days think
everything is sooooo easy when in reality,
and sorry to say, these types of
relationships never
last...... |
texan. I am 18 years old and have been
with my 19 year old boyfriend for 3 years.
I will be 19 in april. I am 12 weeks 5
days pregnant for the first time. Do you
have a problem with me being so young and
pregnant? Let him without blame cast the
first stone....
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Princess385
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Posted: 02-02-05 12:12pm
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I got pregnant teh first time at
17....Then again at 17....Then 2 times at
18...I didn't get that chance of seeing
those first 3...But i'm going on 20 and I
have a wonderful like, with a wonderful
husband adn child. It was a strugle for
us, but we've made it this far and I see
nothing wrong with it.
So what if the girl is 16 and pregnant,
she might make a better parent than some
30 year old woman!! So she has my
support 100% even though i'm not sure
what to really say to her, besides take a
test before worring about telling her
parents. :)
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Texan
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16 And Pregnant
Posted: 02-02-05 12:15pm
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No, age is not the issue. There are
sooooo many other things that young girls
need to be focused on...Like getting an
education. All i'm saying is that
marriage and having a family now a days is
so common in the young generation. Young
adults find that everything is easy until
they are in the situation. Why are
people getting upset with my post. This
is a forum to post whatever one thinks and
feels correct????
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BrianBaby
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Posted: 02-02-05 12:19pm
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I beleive you said you saw something wrong
with young pregnant girls~am I correct??
I am in my 2nd semester of college right
now. I have every intention of finishing
my education and so does my boyfriend.
30 some years ago, starting a family was
an important thing after high school now
we're being told to put our family
insentives on hold and go to college for 5
years and then after that when your in
your mid twenties, start your family.
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BaByMaMa2005
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Posted: 02-02-05 12:34pm
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Ok im not going to sit here and tell you
that you are not abe to take care of a
baby at 16 because I am 16 and I am 20
weks pregnant. But for the rest of my
life I have to be a mother and basically
my childhood is over. I work almost 50
hours a week because oterwise I could not
support my daughter. If you are pregnant
then your life will forever change but if
you are not please wait until you are more
financialy able to support a child.
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Princess385
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Re: Sixteen And Possibly Preg.
Posted: 02-02-05 12:36pm
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| texan
wrote: | | i've read soooo many posts
about young girls being pregnant...Am I
the only one who sees that something is
wrong with this picture and has been for
several
years. |
yes you did say something was wrong with
it. You're judging, not stating an
opinion....Back when my dad was growing up
those ppl didn't go to college, but jumped
right into a family....Now it's something
that's wrong to do? I'm not in school
right now, but that's because I would
rather my husband get back to college and
get a degree in something and start making
us some more money tahn we're making
now.
I stay home to take care of my child, so I
must not be that bad off huh? And i'm
planning on staying home with all my
children till they're in school. Once
all my children are in school i'm planning
on going back to work. But that wont' be
for another 10-15 years. :) there is
nothing wrong with that.
And there are a lot of girls I know, some
who are know 26 who had children when they
were 16 or 17 and they're doing very well
off and ther's nothing wrong with it.
Ppl go about their lives differently and I
don't think that you should come here and
tell them that they're wrong. Cause
that's wrong of you to do. Didn't you
say this is for opinions and support?
Well you're not doing too much supporting.
These girls are wonderful women. They're
strong and intelligent!! They have their
lives together, but you don't knwo that.
I've been here for what? 3 days of
posting now? They're great girls...I'm
sure they don't think that of me, but
whatever!! They're wonderful mothers nad
just because they're young doesn't mean
that they're going to do something wrong.
They're going to go about thigns a
differnet way, so let them!! :) it's
their lives, not yours and all you need to
do is support and give advice. :)
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BrianBaby
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Posted: 02-02-05 13:02pm
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I beleive a girl should be a mature age
where she realizes the responsibility of
having a child. She should be aware of
all the financial burdens and so on.
There should definilty be a commitment
with the father, and the father should be
fully supportive of having a baby. I
think it best for a women to at least
finish high school. My personal beliefs
are that a child should occur in
marriage~but that is not always the way it
turns out (look at me :).....I do plan on
marrying the father sometime in the near
future.....
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SamiNSunisMa
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Posted: 02-02-05 13:44pm
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But you said you wanted to be pregnant,
right? So now you don't want to be? Just
making sure I got that right.
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SacredxBabyxEyes
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Im Back..and a Reply to You All...
Posted: 02-03-05 18:41pm
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First off....I notice that my post was
popular and started a mini argument with
texan...I want to thank you all for all
the encouragement and support... Texan I
see where you are coming from...I kno I am
not ready...16 am I nuts right? Right! I
took an oath at my church to save myself
til I am married and my dad is a very
religious person so that is why I am so
scared about telling him...Because I had
people believing in my oath and
understanding its quality. The thing
is...Yes I want to go to college...I want
to raise a family but not yet...I still
havent found if I am prego but if I
am...Its not a regret...Thats a child that
I have which is a part of my future
husband. I plan to marry him...And live
the rest of my life with him which is why
I gave myself up to him. I dont regret
that either.
Another thing...I did raise my brothers
and sisters....My parents are divorced
since I was 2 1/2....And both got
remarried...My dad had 4 other kids with
this other women...All she wanted was a
baby girl of her own...And until then she
kept trying...Had three boys and then
finally a girl...Which is my only
sister....I love her but my step-mom is
not a mother in my eyes. I raised those
boys and I love each of them the same. I
do love my step-mom with my whole
heart...But like I was saying...I
practically raised those boys. So theres
that story!
Another one...Texan...I understand what
you ment...Althought I thought it was a
lil harsh...But its ok...Im used to
it...Hehe... But honestly...I kno I am
not ready...I have a future ahead of
me...And having a child would only add
more stress in my life as also adding
joy...But still! I mean...Like I said I
am not sure if I am prego yet...But when I
find out...I will tell you all...Trust me
when I get my period...I will come one
here and scream..With words of course in
joy...But if I dnt get it...I will let you
all kno...But then again if I do get
it...I am starting the pill so no more
worries(like this) again.
Its my birthday on friday...The 11th...And
my bf is leaving for his monthly training
for the army on the 12th...Upset but he
got to do it...So hopefully I get my
period cuz then he wont have to worry
while hes out there...But once again..Yous
will be the first to know whether or not I
am pregnant.
I wanna thank you all again for the love
and support...I feel much better...I feel
like I have real friends again...Thanks
guys (girls)...Well...I gots to head
out...But please reply...Thanx a bunch!
<3 me
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BaByMaMa2005
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Posted: 02-03-05 19:46pm
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Have y'all noticed that she hasent posted
since everyone started fighting! Every
time that someone asks a question that
people may disagree about they make it
their poragative to debate about it. This
is not about y'all!!!!!Yes, technically
you may be old enough to have kids but the
real question is can you raise them! All
she was asking for was a little suport and
someone to not judge her, but to talk to
her. This is why this forum is going down
hill because no one is supportive anymore!
Just because she is 16 does not mean that
you have to get so technical, and steen
sometimes "shrinking" someone is not what
they need!!!!!! She needed someone to
talk to, not someone to belittle her!
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