Child Support Question... Posted: 02-01-05 21:24pm
Hey gang,
got a question and a situation for ya.
Situation: I am going to be the father of
a child soon, but have no "love "
relationshi with the mother. We are
friends and she says that she really
doesn't want to have to go through that
route. My concern is that I don't want to
get taken for a fool either and have
something not go her way and then I get
served with papers! (yaa feel me?) I am
not saying that she is scandalous, but I
don't put too many things past people
these days male or female. Maybe you can
help. Guys and ladies responses please.
I kinda want to hear both sides. Be in
touch!
Goldmine
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steen
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Joined: 18 Nov 2004 Posts: 1797 Location: Upper Midwest
Posted: 02-01-05 22:09pm
If she at any time need support such as
food stamps or similar, then the
government will insist that you pitch in
for the baby you helped create.
Child support is to the child, not to the
parent, after all.
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sandyallen
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Posted: 02-02-05 23:55pm
Hi there! Congratulations! Why not
draw up an understanding agreement and
make it legal, sort of like, doing your
own divorce.
Good luck!
Sandy
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goldmine1906
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Joined: 04 Oct 2004 Posts: 9 Location: texas
Posted: 02-03-05 22:42pm
jlee77
wrote:
whether or not you have a
"love" relationship with the mother that
is still your child. So as a man, you
should be willing to provide child support
w/o being forced.
Just an
opinion.
guys guys guys.......I may not have been
clear. I am suporting and will continue
to suort my child. There is no denying
that at all. The question was basically
to find out if it was wise to get in the
"system" or not.
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steen
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Joined: 18 Nov 2004 Posts: 1797 Location: Upper Midwest
Posted: 02-03-05 23:19pm
Better get into the system up front.
Sooner or later, she will need some kind
of support, and the government will come
looking for you. If you are listed up
front, it is much less hassle.
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l2at24
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Joined: 06 Nov 2004 Posts: 1509
Posted: 02-04-05 22:17pm
Yeah, I was thinking everyone
misunderstood what you were saying.
Anyway, like one poster said you can do
your own 'contract' kind of thing. And
that way if she ever does take you to
court you'll have that as proof. I have
no experience with this personally, but
have seen friends go through it. I would
recommend the courts b/c that way there is
no confusion about money or visitation or
any of that. You will both know your
rights with your child. I'm thinking
about like if one of you took the child
out of state and those kinds of things
that the court will lay out for you.
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2ferano
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Joined: 23 Dec 2003 Posts: 3717
Posted: 02-07-05 20:58pm
I know some people who took care of the
whole support thing on their own, but then
when things got ugly and the father was
taken to court of it, all of the money he
had paid over the last five years (the
whole life of the child) wasn't counted
because it didn't go through the system.
Therefore, now he is paying his current
child support and back child support that
he doesn't really even owe, but since he
didn't go through the courts in the
begining it doesn't matter. So, get it
legal!
