Yet Another Orgasm Question. Sorry Posted: 02-01-05 16:52pm
My fiance and I waited almost 4 years
after we started dating to have sex (after
we were engaged). Though I know there was
absolutely nothing wrong with our
decision, and I would actually recommend
it, i'm wondering if our years of messing
around confused my body. I know that must
sound really odd. I never was able to
orgasm while doing anything, and I always
figured I was one of those people that
were only able to through sex.
Well...Nothing has happened, even now. Is
it possible for your body to become used
to a certain thing (i.E. Oral etc.) and
then when something new is introduced have
no reaction? Thanks guys!
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Justin_Toronto
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 28 Jan 2005 Posts: 418 Location: Toronto, ON
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Posted: 02-01-05 17:05pm
Hi dominique,
the female body does not just 'orgasm'.
There are many women who live their whole
life without ever having an
orgasm---that's not to say that they are
unable to have an orgasm though. You
have to learn how to have an orgasm, as
odd as that sounds. Most women learn how
to do this through masturbation. Your
body will not release involuntarily, and
until you learn the how to work yourself
up, and how to make the release, this will
not happen. No matter how good your
boyfriend is in bed, this is something
that comes from you initially.
Justin
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jsotogo
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 01 Feb 2005 Posts: 3 Location: miami
Posted: 02-02-05 12:58pm
I can tell that you are a very self aware
person just by the fact of you sying sorry
for having another question about orgasms.
Donīt feel sorry at all. I agree
with justin that having an orgasm its up
to you. You have to enjoy of your own
body. You have to feel sexy and good
about being there naked with your
boyfriend. There is nothing wrong with
that. Another suggestion is to take care
of birth control. Because you cannot do
it to the point of orgasm if you canīt
concentrate on the enjoyment due to the
preocupation of a possible pregnancy.
Do some excersise like walking or running,
take care of your body. You have to
stand in front of your mirror in your
underware or naked and say to yourself: I
like my body iīm sexy. This is not
wrong. You can masturbate with your eyes
closed and just let all your sexual
fantasies fill you up with enjoyment.
Donīt preassure yourself. Its the
greatest of gifts.
Remember, its for enjoyment, for pleasure,
for your own self only. Give yourself
the chance and go easy, step by step.
Iīll give a little prayer for you.
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PattyV
Extremely EHEALTHy
Joined: 01 May 2004 Posts: 1103 Location: Chicago area
Posted: 02-04-05 10:30am
Dominique,some of us never,ever orgasm
with vaginal stimulation.Many women cannot
achieve orgasm through intercourse.I do
,but it is not usually as intense as the
ones I have with oral or manual
stimulation.Do not feel that something is
missing,just make sure he helps you with
your orgasm first(ladies first!!!),then
let him have his.You may find in time,that
you will have a vaginal orgasm,alot of
that comes with being comfortable with
yourself and just enjoying the moment.In
the meantime,get it where you can!Try
different positions and see what
happens!Remember,making love is supposed
to be enjoyable for both of you,not a
contest or test of skill.Have fun!!!
Patty
