Hi dominique,

the female body does not just 'orgasm'. There are many women who live their whole life without ever having an orgasm---that's not to say that they are unable to have an orgasm though. You have to learn how to have an orgasm, as odd as that sounds. Most women learn how to do this through masturbation. Your body will not release involuntarily, and until you learn the how to work yourself up, and how to make the release, this will not happen. No matter how good your boyfriend is in bed, this is something that comes from you initially.

Justin

I can tell that you are a very self aware person just by the fact of you sying sorry for having another question about orgasms. Don´t feel sorry at all. I agree with justin that having an orgasm its up to you. You have to enjoy of your own body. You have to feel sexy and good about being there naked with your boyfriend. There is nothing wrong with that. Another suggestion is to take care of birth control. Because you cannot do it to the point of orgasm if you can´t concentrate on the enjoyment due to the preocupation of a possible pregnancy. Do some excersise like walking or running, take care of your body. You have to stand in front of your mirror in your underware or naked and say to yourself: I like my body i´m sexy. This is not wrong. You can masturbate with your eyes closed and just let all your sexual fantasies fill you up with enjoyment. Don´t preassure yourself. Its the greatest of gifts.

Remember, its for enjoyment, for pleasure, for your own self only. Give yourself the chance and go easy, step by step.

I´ll give a little prayer for you.

Dominique,some of us never,ever orgasm with vaginal stimulation.Many women cannot achieve orgasm through intercourse.I do ,but it is not usually as intense as the ones I have with oral or manual stimulation.Do not feel that something is missing,just make sure he helps you with your orgasm first(ladies first!!!),then let him have his.You may find in time,that you will have a vaginal orgasm,alot of that comes with being comfortable with yourself and just enjoying the moment.In the meantime,get it where you can!Try different positions and see what happens!Remember,making love is supposed to be enjoyable for both of you,not a contest or test of skill.Have fun!!!
Patty