Hi everyone,
i would really, really appreciate your advice and opinion on the following!

I met this guy on the net in feb of last year (at the time, I was very unhappy in another relationship -- tried numerous times to break up but to no avail -- suicide threats were thrown back into my face when I brought up the issue and I was just basically being emotionally blackmailed). We chatted for the next 2 months - we both had so much in common and I really enjoyed our daily chats. Eventually, after 2 months, we decided to meet up - I knew that this was my opportunity to break off my other relationship, so I did exactly that. We met the next day for our first "real" date!! We both had a wonderful time and he was exactly as I had expected. All in all, our date went very well and he asked me over to his house the following weekend.

Fast forward --> 2 months later: by this stage, we were a "couple." I was really infatuated with him and it seemed as if the feeling was mutual. He was constantly telling me how he was "falling for [me] big time..." and how he saw "a major future for us..." everything was perfect, I was exactly where I wanted to be.

Then, in late may, we decided to take a mini-break . We went away for the weekend and had a great time -- constantly holding hands and being "soppy" in general!!! :) the day after arriving home, his sms msgs seemed different - very cold and impersonal. The next morning, I didn't hear from him (he had his cute morning texting ritual - every morning, he would text me and let me know that he was on his way to work). Anyway, after a few hours, being the impatient girl that I am, I decided to send him a msg. I just asked if everything was ok and said that if he had anything to tell me, to do so. He replied and pleaded with me to give him a few days to "figure out what [he] needs." I refused and told him not to worry about the whole "break it to her gently" cliché. So, he suggested that we meet.

We met and sat in his car. He started by telling me that he just didn't get that "butterfly" feeling anymore. Then, he said "i was thinking about things yesterday and asked myself 3 questions...1. Do I like you? Ans: yes, I really, really, really like you. 2. Could I see us moving in together? Ans: yes, in a few years from now. 3. Do I love you? Ans: I honestly couldn't answer that." absolutely broken-hearted, dumb-founded, but also conscious that I had never, ever brought up the subject of "love" over the previous 2 months, I got out of the car. There was nothing I could do (even though I felt like grovelling at his feet!!!).

For the next week, I heard from him everyday without failure. He would tell me what he was up to...How work was...Etc. Etc. I sent him an email and suggested that we remain friends. Three weeks of silence passed, when, one night I decided to log into my messenger account -- there he was...! We chatted for ages about everything. Then, he told me that he was feeling very depressed recently. I told him that I was there for him and asked why he didn't keep in contact. He said that he couldn't "be just friends straight away" and said that he didn't want to drag me in and hurt me all over again. I asked him to elaborate but he just dismissed the issue.

Ever since, we have been in weekly contact. Recently, he sent me an email saying that he started seeing a girl and that she was just messing him about (**dagger to my heart!!**). His messages are always very flirty, he sent me 3 love songs one night on messenger and asked me to give my opinion, he seems to get really annoyed if I even mention another guys name. I just don't know what's going on...I'm so confused!!! I'm (obviously!) still crazy about him and i'm not sure if staying in contact is helping matters.

What should I do...?! I can't forget about him. I'm currently studying in university -- this is destroying my academic life (i get so depressed sometimes, I don't even feel like attending lectures) and my social life (i've met some lovely guys but I am constantly comparing and contrasting to you-know-who!!!). I have even thought about seeing a counsellor.

Please help!!!!!!!!!!

Noinin :cry:
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