Ok, dumb me I am in love with my current
boyfriend. No we haven't been together
that long. Anyway the bottom line is he
is 25 and I am 19, and sometimes he talks
to me like I am a dumb little kid. Then
when I tell him how I feel he just tells
me I am wrong and not to think that is how
he is talking to me. So I asked him to
maybe prase it diffrently and he told me I
just had to look at it differently. I
guess I am afarid that he is a bit on the
controlive side. But I can't decided if
that is the way he is or if he is that way
due to the age differance. Eaither way I
don't like the way he is treating me and I
can't seem to get him to understand. I
try to explain what he is doing that
bothers me and he throws back that I do
the same thing to him. It is like he
won't see that he is treating me badly.
How else can I try explaining things to
him?? If you have any advice for me I
would love it.
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hawn36
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 29 Oct 2003 Posts: 15
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Bad Relationship Posted: 10-30-03 12:10pm
Why would you even stay with someone who
treats you bad I guess is my question.
If you havent been with him that long and
he already talks to you like that, dump
him and find a different boyfriend.
You're only 19. Dont stay in any
relationship that is unhealthy, especially
at your age. He obviously thinks he's
doing nothing wrong, so I doubt he will
change.
Your choice is either live with it, or get
rid of "it".....
Good luck.
Hawn
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babybooz
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 15 Oct 2003 Posts: 56 Location: Freddy NB, Canada
Advice Posted: 10-30-03 12:36pm
Hawn is right, you havent even been with
him very long and hes already like this.
Before you break up with him look at it
from his point of view as well... Always
consider every aspect if you dont want to
get rid of this guy. Make sure that he is
in the relationship for all the same
reasons as you... Come out and ask him
sometime when you talking, why does he
want to be with you too? Try to get him
to speak up and tell you what he wants out
of the relationship. You might find then
that you are wasting your time... Or
maybe this is something you just want to
work on. Much luck, sarah
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nikki_caro
Extremely EHEALTHy
Joined: 22 Aug 2003 Posts: 4911 Location: Right here at work!
Posted: 11-07-03 12:20pm
Yeah if hes acting like this now, its only
going to get worse. And hes not willing
to communicate on it. You should leave
and keep looking. There are many guys out
there and by the way this one is acting
you surely dont need him. Or you can let
him know he needs to change his attitude
or show him the door.
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CrombieChic16
Active User, Really EHEALTHy
Joined: 10 Oct 2003 Posts: 733
Posted: 11-10-03 01:21am
All of the girls are right, things are
only going to get worst. I was in an
abusive relationship and that is exactly
how things started. I wasnt allowed to
have my own opinion on things(and im a
very independent person) yet he seemed to
get under my skin and rip everything
apart. This has nothing to do with age,
but everything to do with respect. If he
doesnt respect you now, why would he
later? This guy sounds like a real loser
who needs to pull people down with him in
his own misery. Get out now before its
too late, if you continue seeing him it'll
just get harder and harder to leave.
Trust me, I was with my ex for only 2
months, and its almost a year later and I
still cry at night thinking about what he
did to me. Please leave this "boy", he
doesnt deserve you. Dont settle for less
then you know you deserve. I truly hope
you can find the strength to leave him and
find a real man.
If you need anything pm me.
-vanessa
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Lildreamer
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 14 Sep 2003 Posts: 144 Location: CALI
Things Change... Posted: 02-01-04 14:42pm
You know what jojoann.........How long has
it been since you have been with him? If
you keep telling him how you feel and he
is convienced you are the wrong one.....It
might not work, but if both of you try, I
mean really really try together to make it
work out then you guys must be in love.
Jojoann.....Things change meaning he could
change if he really wanted to, but
somethings never change. Dont waste your
time on something that is going to blow up
later. Dont be a prisoner of his love.
If you chose to stay, then things can be
really hard for you later with him if
anything happens. Save yourself the
heartache.......If I could go back to save
my heartache......Believe me I would have!
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san54
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 28 Dec 2003 Posts: 227 Location: Virginia
Boy Trouble Posted: 02-01-04 15:04pm
Jojoann, please get away from him now
before he does something to you. He is
not worth the trouble. You need to find
someone who treats you like you should be
treated and not a child. It is not the
age difference. He just sounds like he a
big loser. Please for your sake, get away
now.
