Hey, im 20 yrs old and I love this guy and he is 20 too. But he has lupus and I do know this for sure that he has feelings for me too, but the things which is keeping him away from getting into relationship is the fact that he has lupus sle. And he thinks I dont know he has sle. I am willing to still be with him, but I think he has the fear that relationships and marriges dont work very well in lupus, and I wanna tell him about the fact that those people who get dignosed with lupus during their relationship or marrige were not mentally prepared of what was coming ahead for them, like they were not mentally prepared for it. And wanna show him the difference between their and our situation; in our situation im metally prepared and am willing to work out things with him and its not that he is resently diagnosed with it and dont know how to balance his situation or even that he is having hard time makin me understand his whole situation. I wanna have him in my life soo bad that I found out myself that he actually has sle and I did study bout it. I know it can make life tough, but it depends on how we plan to deal with obstacle and then work evevrything with that plan. And its pretty common sense that when we are mentally and physically healthy how can problems occur. I have not really talked all this to him but am planning to talk as soon as I am ready. Can someone help me with this situation???????? :(