Hello, I am a 33 yr old male with stretch
marks on my stomach. They started
showing when I was 11 and they just kept
growing. I look like I had a baby. I
have a friend for 5 yrs and I have always
tried to have sex in the darkness or least
lighted area. I am afraid she will find
the stretch marks gross and leave me. If
so then I have to try and find a friend
who wouldn't mind. Cleaned up and
clothed I get allot of looks and
compliments, but underneath that clothing
is those stretch marks that embarrass me
so much. How do you think she will react
if I just throw up the shirt and say
please look and can you deal with this the
rest of your life? I like her allot and
she does me as well. I think she does
love me. Any advice or experience you
can share? For the record I would not
mind if she showed me cause I can deal
with it, but some probably cannot or will
think it is gross. After 5 years she may
be well aware but we have never talked
about them.
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Stretch
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 24 Jan 2005 Posts: 8
Posted: 01-24-05 16:29pm
Please do not be afraid to hurt my
feelings. I can take it.
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sftbllchika06
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 16 Dec 2004 Posts: 413 Location: St. Louis
Posted: 01-24-05 21:34pm
Don't feel bad quite a few people have
stretch marks. My ex has stretch marks on
his hips and stomach and it is just from
growing fast. Don't be embarrassed just
be honest with her. If she has a problem
then it is her loss.
Meghan
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dominique
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 14 Oct 2003 Posts: 83
Posted: 01-24-05 21:44pm
If she has cared enough to be with you for
five years then i'm sure she loves you for
who you really are anyway. After being
with you for that long i'm sure she sees
more in you than what's on the outside.
Have confidence in yourself.
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Stretch
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 24 Jan 2005 Posts: 8
Posted: 01-26-05 15:41pm
Thank you for understanding. I still
havent got the nerve to open up, but I
have to do so. I don't consider it to
be my fault really. I think it is just a
skin issue that I have. I will seek to
figure a way to just break it to her. It
is so embarrasing though for me. It has
been a problem with alot of things in my
life. Never want to take my shirt off
and I am very shy with new aquaintances
because I figured once they seen that,
they would have no interest. Sucks
because I am actually a pretty well built
guy(6'1" 235) and cannot even feel good
about working in the yard with my shirt
off. I see other guys way bigger and
fatter than me without these so I have a
hard time understanding why I was dealt
this card.
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Justin_Toronto
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 28 Jan 2005 Posts: 418 Location: Toronto, ON
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Posted: 01-28-05 18:44pm
Stretch marks are a results of rapidly
gaining or losing weight. During this
time the stretch marks can be avoided by
rubbing on 100% pure cocoa butter 3-4
times per day. Not just applying it, but
rubbing it in until there is nothing left.
However, your stretch marks are already
established.
You can make the stretch marks nearly
disappear by doing the cocoa butter now,
but it will take a solid 6-8 weeks. If
there is any scarring then pure vitamin e
oil will do the trick. Buy some vitamin
e capsules (usually used for injesting),
but crack open the capsule and use the
pure vitamin e oil inside. Will work for
any type of scar you might have.. (i..E
previous wounds, acne marks, etc.)
your other option is laser surgery, which
is actually not that expensive for the
benefits. Your stomach will probably
cost around $2000 cdn or so.
Also, i'm sure she will not mind the
stretch marks... Most girls have them on
their glutes, and it's not uncommon to
develop them on thighs and stomach, even
breasts. You just have to let her know
how much it bothers you.
If it makes you feel any better, i'm a
personal trainer and I bodybuild. I went
from 158lb up to 241lb (almost 100lb) of
muscle with little fat in around 2 years.
There was a 3 month period where I put on
40lb very quickly from eating like a
champ. I look good, but the stretch
marks I have will put yours to shame i'm
sure. My biceps each have well over 200
strech marks... My chest has around 20
each, very thick and long. My stomach
also has some vertical marks that are very
noticable. My calves, thighs, ass...
Heck, even my knuckles have little stretch
marks on them. And yeah girls have
commented on them, but hey... Take me for
who I am. I'm only human. I'm still
training pretty hard, but I know as soon
as i'm where I want to be I just need the
good ol' cocoa butter and vitamin e oil
and my body will be all cleared up. :)
