Joined: 29 Dec 2004 Posts: 3 Location: Rock Island
13 And Pregant Posted: 01-24-05 13:47pm
Im 13 and im pregan! Me and my best
friend both are and we kept a secret from
our moms until last week our moms didnt
approve but my mom has been supportive but
she said my boyfriend has 2 pay for sum of
the things I will need! Well ne ways me
and my best friend cant wait and we are so
close in friends that if we have to same
sex were going to name them the same
because we have the same name,but now my
mom is so pissed that I got pregant in
the first place,now she wants me 2 get an
obortion I dont belive in obortions so
then she said adoption and I said no then
she totally said she wasnt going to be
apart of the babys life or mine and I need
to move sumwhere else so now im moving in
with my boyfriend! Is that a bad choice?
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BrianBaby
Extremely EHEALTHy
Joined: 19 Jan 2005 Posts: 1383
Posted: 01-24-05 14:34pm
Rough situation sweety....I don't know
what to tell you.....Talk about it with
your mom and ask her why she changed her
mind about it.
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Kourtney08
Active User, Really EHEALTHy
Joined: 08 May 2004 Posts: 937 Location: Alaska
Posted: 01-24-05 15:55pm
Wow, im sorry thats happend, but it's your
choice what you want to do, and if you
don't want to give the baby up for
adoption, or get an abortion then you
don't have to. Maybe your mom will come
around, I sure hope so because she may be
upset but that baby is her grandchild, and
that little boy, or girl deserves to be
loved by her grandmother whether she was
unplanned or not. Also you need to start
going to doctors appoinments to keep
yourself healthy, they'll give you
prenatel vitamins that help with your
babys growth, etc. You're only 13 so you
have a lot on your plate. Im 19 with a 2
and a half month old little girl, and I
have a lot on my plate. You're 13 so you
probably can't get a job, but you need to
do everything you can to take care of your
child. Good luck. :)
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littlered
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 03 Jan 2005 Posts: 268
Posted: 01-24-05 17:05pm
Sorry that your mom is making you live
somewhere else. You do need to trying to
talk to her. She could be just upset that
her baby is having a baby. But it is your
choice to whether or not give the baby up
for adoption. I think that if you are
older enough to have sex (which at 13 your
not but I ain't telling you what to do)
then you are older enough to take care of
a baby if that is your choice. But there
is other people who don't think that. Had
your mom every asked you if you was sex or
talked to you about . That could be why
she is upset or mad. She maybe mad at
herself instead of you. I hope this help
you any.
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sftbllchika06
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 16 Dec 2004 Posts: 413 Location: St. Louis
Posted: 01-24-05 17:45pm
I think you should think or atleast look
into adoption because you are only 13. I
am 17 and I am even considering adoption
because I have looked into how much it
will cost and believe me it is a lot.
Just make sure you and the baby's father
have talked this out. And you can take
care of yourselves and this tiny baby.
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Kourtney08
Active User, Really EHEALTHy
Joined: 08 May 2004 Posts: 937 Location: Alaska
Posted: 01-24-05 18:46pm
Yeah, im 19 with a 2 and a half month old,
I stay home with her, and her dad (whos
still in the picture) works, and its hard
for us. So I can just imagine what it
would be like for a 13 year old whose
still under her moms care.
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SamiNSunisMa
Extremely EHEALTHy
Joined: 27 Nov 2004 Posts: 1528
Posted: 01-25-05 06:09am
Ok, ive been there, I got pregnant with
sami when I was 13, first thing to do is
go to treatment if you are using alcohol
or drugs.
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linuxChique
Extremely EHEALTHy
Joined: 05 May 2004 Posts: 4535
Posted: 01-27-05 13:54pm
Wait it out before you move out! There's
a really good chance that your mom will
get used to the idea and get excited about
being a grandmother. I'd wait a couple of
months, maybe even until the baby's born.
Good luck!
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prettybabie
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 27 Jan 2005 Posts: 17 Location: Texas
Re: 13 And Pregant Posted: 01-28-05 20:22pm
That sucks hun that you're pregnant at 13!
I hope everything works out for you and
your boyfriend! I'm sure your mom will
come around because she cant leave a 13
year old girl to raise a child with her
boyfriend! I would highly suggest that
you go to the doctors regularly to make
sure the baby is okay! Good luck with the
pregnancy and your mom!
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steen
Extremely EHEALTHy
Joined: 18 Nov 2004 Posts: 1797 Location: Upper Midwest
Posted: 01-28-05 20:52pm
The main problem facing you is that only
around 4% of pregnant teens graduate
highschool. That means that only one
girl out of every 25 will actually
graduate. As such, you need all the help
you can get, including your family just to
make it through the pregnancy, so try to
make it work.
Likewise, you need to at least give some
serious thought to adoption, as you will
have a rough time ahead as a teen mom.
Even if your bf sticks around (i don't
know his age, but the young ones have this
habit of making themselves scarce after a
few sleepless nights with a new baby),
raising a kid when you are 13-14 years old
is incredibly tough. No sleep, no money
lots of stress, lots of having to take the
kid to various doctors appointments even
if it is healthy (and it gets much, much
worse if it has some kind of illness).
So you must have several people you can
lean on for support if you don't want this
to turn into an exhausting disaster, or
else consider adoption rather seriously.
But if you feel up to it and are ready,
just gather as many friends as you can and
get ready for it. Parenthood is hard,
but it certainly is possible to do.
After all, most women manage it, even if
most start a bit later than 13. Just be
sure to gather strength. No smoking, no
alcohol or drugs, lots of exercise.
Labor is hard, and worse if you are not
fit. But women generally report the
result worth it :)
so please become a bit of a health freak
right now, and it will be a lot easier in
7-9 months.
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mommaashley
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 26 Oct 2004 Posts: 420 Location: Canada
Posted: 01-28-05 22:59pm
Im sorry to hear that, but your mom
(because you are only 13) as far as I know
cannot abandon you. You are still under
her care until you are 18 and she is
responsible for you and your well being
