Hi my name is shelly-ann im 17 years old
and 8weeks pregnant I live with my bf of 8
months an I still have not told him I am
preg I just found out a week ago that I
am.Today he asked me why do I sleep so
much am I pregnant but I did not say
nothing then he came out the blue an said
am I messing with someone else I said no
but he just don;t believe me then he
starts sayig I do not spen time with him
confused me said realy your always at work
then he said we don't have sex any more
then I just went quiet ho do I tell him
that im pregnant.
Help me please I needed help
thank you :?
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dgold53
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 22 Jan 2005 Posts: 1 Location: Washington
Help Me! Posted: 01-22-05 19:45pm
Dear sally ann,
congratulation! Since you have been 8
months with your boy friend, and you are
pregnant only 8 weeks, why does you boy
friend think you have been sleeping
around? When you say you have been with
your boy friend 8 month, do you mean you
are living with him or you are going
steady with him? Your message is
unclear.
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jessamyn
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Joined: 18 Aug 2004 Posts: 4107 Location: San Diego, CA
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Posted: 01-22-05 20:15pm
You really need to talk to him about this
and find his views on the entire situation
this is an entire change in his life as
well as yours communication is a must and
a main factor! Have you told anyone?
However if you are happy about this
pregnancy then congrats and get your butt
into a doc young lady :)
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shelly17
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 22 Jan 2005 Posts: 20 Location: new york
Re: Help Me! Posted: 01-22-05 21:20pm
dgold53
wrote:
dear sally ann,
congratulation! Since you have been 8
months with your boy friend, and you are
pregnant only 8 weeks, why does you boy
friend think you have been sleeping
around? When you say you have been with
your boy friend 8 month, do you mean you
are living with him or you are going
steady with him? Your message is
unclear.
yes I mean both but how
do I tell him?
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shelly17
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 22 Jan 2005 Posts: 20 Location: new york
Posted: 01-22-05 21:24pm
jessamyn
wrote:
you really need to talk to
him about this and find his views on the
entire situation this is an entire change
in his life as well as yours communication
is a must and a main factor! Have you
told anyone?
However if you are happy about this
pregnancy then congrats and get your butt
into a doc young lady
:)
i am so afraid that when
I even think about it my legs freezeand my
back gets num how must I go be hind him
an not tell him
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steen
Extremely EHEALTHy
Joined: 18 Nov 2004 Posts: 1797 Location: Upper Midwest
Posted: 01-22-05 21:51pm
Why are you so afraid of telling him?
What do you think he will do? Run away
and abandon you? Hit you? Get mad at
you?
For sure, if you don't tell him, he will
be upset later that you didn't tell him.
Anyway, the best way is to just come out
and tell him. Next time you see him, let
him know that you want to tell him
something important, and then simply tell
him. Anything else, anything that you
need the scheme and plan will just make
you more upset and anxious and make it
seem weird when you tell him.
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littlered
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 03 Jan 2005 Posts: 268
Posted: 01-22-05 22:40pm
First of all you should tell him. Second
of all I was just wondering do you really
want this baby or do you thing you are not
ready to become a parent. The reason why
I ask this is because in a way it sounds
like you are. If you are not ready that
is okay. There is alot of people who
isn't ready to kids. I hope I didn't
offend you.
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Tazzy D
Advanced Support Team
Joined: 30 Oct 2004 Posts: 3718 Location: , va
Re: Help Me Please Posted: 01-22-05 22:57pm
shelly17
wrote:
hi my name is shelly-ann im
17 years old and 8weeks pregnant I live
with my bf of 8 months an I still have not
told him I am preg I just found out a week
ago that I am.Today he asked me why do I
sleep so much am I pregnant but I did not
say nothing then he came out the blue an
said am I messing with someone else I said
no but he just don;t believe me then he
starts sayig I do not spen time with him
confused me said realy your always at work
then he said we don't have sex any more
then I just went quiet ho do I tell him
that im pregnant.
Help me please I needed help
thank you
:?
hey shelly,
first thing is do you love this guy? And
do you trust him? If the answer is yes
than imagine the shoe on the other foot if
you where him. He has allready asked you
if you are pregnant so he must be thinking
something. You need to just be honest
with him and let him know come out and
tell him. If you dont want to tell him
then by a card and leave it for him or
give it to him saying congrats or
something you are going to be a dad. I'm
sure everything will be okay hun... If
you need any help or need to talk we are
here for you, or you can pm me. Good luck
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jessamyn
Moderator
Joined: 18 Aug 2004 Posts: 4107 Location: San Diego, CA
Thanks: 11
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Posted: 01-22-05 23:43pm
Babe I know your scared but if this is his
child hes in this too and he has to be
able to have a say in everything thats
going on... Do you have your own
insurance or on your parents? Because you
need to see a doc between 6-8 weeks!
Start getting on some prenatals :) what
are your parents gunna say?
Im me on aim if youd like i'm 18 and 33
weeks :)
darlinjessa
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sandyallen
Extremely EHEALTHy
Joined: 02 Feb 2004 Posts: 4580
Posted: 01-23-05 00:46am
I agree, tell him and get to the Dr. For
your pre-natal care, he does have a right
to know. Sounds like you are
experiencing anxiety when you try to tell
him, just take some deep breaths and
slowly ex-hale. As I believe tazzy said,
you can always give him a card. Keep us
posted and if you have any problems, just
let us know.
Sincerely,
sandy
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Tazzy D
Advanced Support Team
Joined: 30 Oct 2004 Posts: 3718 Location: , va
Posted: 01-23-05 12:14pm
Hey shelly check your pm hun. I got your
pm and I answered you
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bailysbutterfly
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 10 Dec 2004 Posts: 162
Posted: 01-23-05 23:21pm
Ok well I have been in this situation
before when I was 17...
I got pregnant and found out at 6 weeks...
I miscarried but that is besides the
point... When I found out I was so scared
and nervous so I just sat at home and
cried to myself... My bf came home and
saw that I had been crying and I didn't
want to tell him (we had been together a
year and a half) but I finally did because
I couldn't keep it inside...
And when I told him, it was the most
wonderful thing... He wasn't excited at
the moment, he was just concerned as to
why I was so upset and all this.. He
brought me to get more home tests and
brought me to every doc appt I had until
we lost the baby...
You need to tell him... Im glad I didn't
wait any longer to tell him when I did...
It eased my mind so much! If he loves
you, he will realize that this could be a
great thing for you both...
