Cocaine make you happy to the point of euphoria. So much so, that when you do it regularly, normal everyday activities can seem boring. Find out why he does it? Is he bored with his life in some way? Mabye he has some emotional need or stress he needs to overcome.

Coming down off coke feels terrible. It's anxiety, depression, and guilt. It's not real, just chemicals in your brain creating these negative feelings. They wear off within a day or two, depending on how much he has done.

Find out why he does it, and go from there. If you treat him like he's doing something horribly wrong or immoral by doing coke, you will aleianate him.

Cocaine is a lifestyle. And it can be a fun one @ times. He probably has coke friends and non-coke friends. Figure out which is which.

Whatever you do, don't do coke if you've never done it just to be with him. I've been on it for 10yrs. Rarely do I have fun when I do it anymore, but I can't stop. Be supportive but not critizing. Good luck....

Mooster , I am a recovering drug addict with almost 4yrs of sobriety. I can tell you that when the people around me tried to be supportive and baby me while in my addiction all it did was enable me to carry on with what I was doing. I figured if it got me attention from these people and they kept forgiving me I was doing nothing wrong and if I did , no problem , they would be there with open arms just like before. It actually did not help me it made things worse if you can picture it. Without serious repercutions for my actions it made me believe that I was doing nothing wrong.
At the same time the world was shut off . I was all important and nothing else mattered. Selfish would be puting it nowhere near the levels of selfabsorption I was in. If it didn't mess with me or my drugs no big deal. If it got in the way it had to be dealt with quickly. I could try and pick up the pieces later on if I fealt like it. Don't beat around the bush is what I say , take the kid gloves off now , it will only get worse later. If you truly care for this person you have put your foot down. If you do you might think you could lose him , but if you are honest , haven't you already? If and when the time comes he may come to thank you for your resolve. You must have the strength it took to write your inquirey and run with it. The weaker you stand , the stronger the drugs will hold on.

Tilt has got it right.
Selfish and self centerered, that’s what we are.
Anyone who tells you to pat his hand and somehow miraculously things will get better is wrong. An addict will tell you anything to maintain access to their drug of choice. They will lie about using, or lie about how much, or lie about who they are using with, or lie about using not being wrong.

Tell him to go to detox and after they roll him out of detox tell him to go to na. Tell him to get a na sponsor and start working the steps or you are going to leave him.

It really doesn’t matter if you do take the good advice offered here or not, he is going to use drugs until one of two things happen.
#1 the pain of active addition gets so great that he will do anything to make it stop (aa, na, ) or...
#2 jails , institutions or death.

Most addicts die loaded. All the recovery programs I know anything about put good long-term recovery at less than 50%.
The truth to be known, a lot less than half.

Get ready for some heartache, you have joined the legions of people who have watched loved ones throw their lives down the crapper. Some of them have seen their loved ones pick up their beds and walk again, most just watch the people they love go to jails, institutions or just die. I hope you find yourself among the former.

Richard s.