The mrs
yes I know what you mean. I also have problems socializing.
This is just my opinion as to why I have difficulties.

I tend to be very untrusting of people
due to past experiences and I think others can sense it.

Im usually open about my illness and I think that scares them.
Probably not a good idea, but then again may as well weed out
the weeds right away.

Keep in mind this is thru a bipolar eye's but I have meant
people that we're worse than im in social skills. So it's not
always us as bipolars that are the problem.

Im also very senitive and take things very personal whether
they are meant that way or not. So when I get hurt I walk.
I have a hard time going and talking about it, working it out.

Due to meds and this illness I have a lot of brain fog which
makes me appear a little drugged.

As far as conversation topic's what ever comes to mind is
fair game. I always avoid religion and politic's. Weather,
kids, careers are good ice breakers.

Dont know if this is much help but you tell me was my
response off in left field or did it seem like an acceptable
repsone to you topic. In this case honesty would be of
help to me in my own goal of learning to be more social.

Hope to talk with you again, rani

I also cannot make friends because of past experiences. At work i do interact with males and that is going well, but after work i am all alone and get bored a lot.
My exboyfriend( who broke up with me) told me that I have symptoms of bipolar disorder, i had sessions with a psychologist for anger management and she did not tell me about bipolar, she just told me that i react to what people are doing to me and that there is nothing wrong with me.
I try to connect to other females but now they are busy with their lives, they promise to meet with me and when i make a follow up they make excuses. I am not sure whether its becoz i do not drink, or they just do not want to associate with me.

Hi Rani & Zanda! Thanks for sharing! You are right in that some persons "can" be worse off in making friends. I personally feel like you said Rani that disclosure is the best way to go. My 10-12mo. relationship ended with my ex because I had no clue what was going on. I was scared! Had I had the knowledge prior or during I could have recognized this and been more attentive and said, "Oh that's just the bipolar talking." However, I had pathalogical lying involved. I was playing hop scotch as stories were shifting 180 degrees from month to month. I think and I know borderline personality disorder can get mixed in. I had no idea what was going on and when I said, "Honey your emotions are all over the place!" I got without skipping a beat, "Well what do you think I need to be on Lithium?" Personally I would have liked to have known.

-Zanda I apologize too! But be REALLY REALLY careful at work. I work with my ex-girlfriend and now my work environment is tense. I would highly recommend that you be more professional than me and be careful with the guys! Don't get bubbly and start to feel chemistry. That's what happened with my ex and she came after me for 3 mo. before we finally started a relationship. Sorry if that's unsolicited advice. Just wanted to put that thought in your mind.