I've been dating my girlfriend for over two years now. Awhile back we talked about sex knowing that it would become an issue the longer we dated. She told me that she wanted to when she got on the pill and only when I used a condom. That day finally arrived and we had sex. It was awkward, it was the first time for both of us, but it was wonderfull that we became that close physically. Then we did it two more times and the third time ended with her crying. I, of course, felt terrible and tried to make her feel better. She told me that she was afraid of becoming pregnant even though I use a condom and she uses the pill (now the patch). I can't understand this....But of course being the good boyfriend i've tried to understand this and we haven't had sex since. Now all I can think about is having sex with her. Whenever we fool around all I can think about is how it's not going to lead to sex. I feel angry and guilty for feeling this way. It further hurts me however when she said that she fantasizes about having sex with me in the shower and then invites me over to take a shower with her and uses the disclaimer to "bring a covering for your penis". To me that means she is ready to have sex, but to her it ment that she was afraid of sperm landing on her vagina. She cried over that as well because she felt bad for leading me on. I told her it was alright but I am still pretty sore about it. Advice anyone on how to ease her out of this fear?