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Q: Dam Breaks

asked by: jonny on January 16th, 2005

New User

Hello,
i'm having a very very hard time with my girlfreind and just don't know what to do, we have been together for 3 years now and she has been wanting to go out more with her freinds and I have no problem with that.
But lately its been getting alot more and I had a talk with her and basicly told her I really don't like it and I would like to spend sometime with you too.
So a few weeks go by and all is good and she seems very happy even at work since we do work together too and yes its very hard but we seemed to manage, anyways she says she's not happy anymore and needed to take a break for a week or 2 and this was last week. I wasn't to fond of the idea since I don't think breaks work so good and is always kinda weird after but I agreed with her since that is waht she needed.
She moved in with her mom and she called me wanting to come home after about 3 days to which I agreed but when she came home it lasted about 5 days before she said she still needed time apart and wasn't sure what she was feeleing but she says she really loves me but doesn't wanna live with me right now, needless to say i'm freaking out and can't take this anymore and told her to leave and don't come back.

But this is killing me and I love her so much so I called her to find out what is going on and no she says she just needs a few weeks to herself and says we will be fine but how do I know that!!!

There is no other guy in this and I know that for a fact. So what should I do I cannot handle loosing her at all.

Thanks for listening.
Jon

Replies(3)

FISHX

replied on January 21st, 2005

Active User, very eHealthy

Jon i,m so sorry that you are having a tough time. It sounds to me that your girlfrind is just going through the everything is the same every day routine . I would suggest that you court her from her parents house for a few weeks I know that it will be hard because you want her back living with you but honestly put some excitment in her life send her flowers pick her up and then drop her back of at her parents really get to know each other again things will work out. Good luck.

sftbllchika06

replied on January 21st, 2005

Experienced User

I think you should give her some space but call her and tell her that when she is ready to talk you will be there. I know how she feels. I went through that a few months ago with my ex. I just didn't know what I wanted. I eventually realized I wanted him but then he like I am sick of this I am leaving you and that was 6 months ago and I still love him but can see why he did it . Don't make the same mistake just stick it out and she will probably come back to you. Just giev her time to figure things out. Pm me if you ever need to talk.

yanny

replied on July 31st, 2008

New User

Facing the reality of a broken relationship.

Actually there comes a time to us that we need some space and time for ourselves. To better realize if we really love each other or if love was enough for the two of you to continue with that relationship. Maybe it was too hard for you but i'm telling you that it was harder for her to be in that situation. Maybe she loves you but she need some time for self realization. Just like the song says "even lovers need a holiday, far a way from each other." That was probably is happening to her. All you have to do is to understand her for a while, then, after a week try to confront her again. You can also go to her house, visit her and do something sweet presents. Bring her some flowers and chocolates or something really special. Girls usually appreciate those special things made by their partners. Who knows, she will soon realize that she really loves you... But in contrary to that, you must also know that when you love, it was accompanied by risk. In the sense that you must be ready for what ever decision she will take. It's either too permanently end your relation or work it out. But the best way is be to honest with each other. Don't be mad at her. It is better that she was honest to you than continue the relationship where in it was all a lie. Accept the possibilities and face life for another tomorrow to take..

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