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mama2
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Joined: 27 Oct 2003
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Location: Colorado
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Having a Baby At the Age of 49
Posted: 10-27-03 16:21pm
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Hello to all,
my question is:my boyfriend and are
planning on getting married but he wants a
baby. I had my tubes tied after the
birth of my son 16 years ago. I would
love to have another child and know that
we will have to do it invtro and also know
that it costs a lot of money. But that
is not a problem. I really want to know
the risks and our chances of having a baby
at my age. He is 38 and I am 49.
If anyone can help me or point me in the
driection I need to go I will be indeted
to you.
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Helden
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Posted: 10-28-03 03:37am
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Sound's like a job for dear abby...But
here goes:
you have shared several problems:
1) age 49...Highly unlikekly to become
spontaneously pregnant, even with perfect
tubes.
2) you have tied tubes.
3) unmarried.
4) boyfriend who wants a baby.
5) high risk of down syndrome in older
moms.
6) no guarantees that in vitro will work.
Since "cost is not a problem" better get
an evaluation from a doctor (who will tell
you what I just did!) or better yet, start
thinking like a 49 year old instead of a
25 year old...Because if the guy you're
with wants kids, he'd better move on to
someone younger.
Last edited by Helden on 10-28-03 11:40am; edited 1 time in total
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Suzy
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Posts: 530
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Posted: 10-28-03 04:14am
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Hi mama,
it becomes harder to carry a pregnancy
full term as you get older, their are lots
of things that can cause complications,
but it is not impossible, you just need to
talk to your doctor or maybe your doctor
could refer you to the appropriate people
to speak to about possibly getting
pregnant. As for helden, your response
was abrupt, rude and very unhelpful.
Actually to get straight to the point, you
are a complete b*tch. It is unfortunate
that the world is full of evil people like
you who have nothing better to do than put
others down just because you have so many
insecurities of your own. Deal with your
own problems first helden, and only then
attempt to help others.
Good luck mama, i'm sure you will find the
help you are looking for.
Suzy
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ladybug2004
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Joined: 24 Oct 2003
Posts: 59
Location: georgia
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Hi Mama 2 How Are You?
Posted: 10-28-03 07:25am
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I red your post and can sympythise with
you.Im 39 I have a son from my frst
marriage and had my tubes tied 21 yrs
ago.Me and my husband now 8 years.We want
a child together so in june 2001 I went
and had a tubal reversal.There are women
your age that are trying to have a baby.It
is a lower chance for us but im willing to
take that chance.I still havent got preg.I
have had a lap and ultrasounds hsg test
and have been on clomid for 8 mths and had
a iui.Then we found out hubby had a low
count,so he went to see a male urologist
and they found a growth on his urethat
tube they have taken that out.And now have
found out his prolactinlevel is too high
so want to do a ct or brainscan on the
pituatorygland to see why it is
ellivated.He is only 29.So it wouldnt be a
bad idea if you do deide to try for him to
be tested also.Mare
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tanji
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Location: South Carolina
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Dont Listen to Helden
Posted: 01-05-04 02:45am
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Hey, I think it is worth a try as for the
younger guy, i'm 43 and my boyfriend is
21. I've written in to get some
responses on that to find out if I am
normal or not. My son is only two years
younger. But if you are happy together,
it doesn't matter what everyone else
thinks. I would check this out with a
doctor and go from there. I'm sure there
is something you can do. My boyfriend
wants a baby too so i'm just starting to
think about that even though I haven't had
my tubes tied i'm going to talk to my
gynocologist about the complications at my
age. I wish you the best of luck and lots
of happiness for the two or you (maybe the
three of you).. One more thing......It
doesn't matter these days whether you're
married or not, when these babies grow up
there will be more with single parents
than married parents. Good luck!!
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mama2
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Joined: 27 Oct 2003
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Location: Colorado
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Thank You
Posted: 01-05-04 23:11pm
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To all that replied to my question, than
you. I was only looking for answers to
my concerns and got a lot more than I
asked for. To those of you that answered
with love and concerns I am greatful. To
those of you that thought did not get a
carring answer I want to tell you that I
do not care what you think because we hear
what you said all of the time. But
everyone is intitled to there own way of
thinking and god will still love you in
the end. But to tell you the truth I
fell as you are judging us on the fact of
the age differenc and to you I say, " I
really do not care what you say or how you
fell." the fact that I am 49 and want a
baby and so does my new husband and we
fell good is all that we care about and
the doctor has given us both a clean bill
of health.
Thank you
mama 2
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Panda0726
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Joined: 17 Jan 2004
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Location: Lake Orion
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Hello!
Posted: 01-17-04 18:32pm
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I think that you should talk to the ankle lady cuz
she doesn't know it but she is pregnant at
the age 63 (wow I know) and you could
learn a lot from her 
old ladys shouldn't have babies! ><
bad old woman
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ladybug2004
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Joined: 24 Oct 2003
Posts: 59
Location: georgia
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Hi Mdont Worry It Can Happen.
Posted: 02-11-04 21:12pm
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As I said im 39 will be 40 this year and
will continue on trying to have a baby as
long as I can.Alot of women ar ehaving
babies older now.I wont lie it is a hard
road to go down when you have to get a
reversal and checked and meds and test.But
it is also worth it.Because you know you
are doing all you can to have a
child.Mare,and im sorry for the rude
comment you received.
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MexicoMiracles
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Joined: 30 Sep 2004
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Location: New England
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Are You Kidding?
Posted: 09-30-04 14:19pm
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Most women at your age are awaiting the
arrival of grandchildren. Why would you
want to start all over again with a baby
at nearly 50 yrs. Old? You also need to
realize that after 30 or more yrs. Of age
your fertility goes down. I suspect yours
doesn't have much fertility dust left.
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allisvanity
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Location: fresno
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Having a Baby At 49...
Posted: 07-26-07 11:11am
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 For
three Months i did not have a period?
Finally it came down.
However i felt fluttering in my stomach?
Just like it feels when was expecting the
children. However, i just started the
menopause symtoms
It was the strangest thing in the world to
date. My stomach was bloated
it was hard on the lower end. And it
turned out to be... Just menopause!
ha ha... i can laugh about it now. But,
when the reality hit me that i could have
a Menopause baby. It was a little scary
to be honest, the man i live with is 40?
so, it is Not totally out of the question
for him?... for me at 48
and 5 grandchildren to love. i just was
not so sure that i needed to go through
seasame st AGAIN!...
All is indeed well that ends Well... ha
ha
all is Vanity
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pip2000
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Joined: 29 Jul 2005
Posts: 79
Location: uk
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Having a Baby At 49 ...
Posted: 10-02-07 16:36pm
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well if you think you can cope and if
maybe you have a good family to help you
out now and then ....then go for it my mum
had my sister when she was 49 almost 50
and she,s never looked back they get on
great she did have help with us other
daughters ,but mum done most of the
bringing up ,and done it well so if your
fit ,healthy happy do it !
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JH2007
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Posted: 10-17-07 13:42pm
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I can't imagine having baby at 49. When
the kid is 20, you will be 69? I still
remember a college roommate cried because
her dad was in his 60 while the parents of
the rest of us were in 40. I am 43, when
I look at babies these days, I feel tired
by imagining how much work is involved.
Good for you, so brave wanting a baby at
this age.
I also would suggest you think about the
points in the so-called cruel message with
a cool head. They are valid points you
should take into account. Don't get your
hopes up too much. When it happens it
happens.
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tulip46
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Go For It!!
Posted: 01-13-08 00:12am
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Goodness gracious...the responses you have
gotten. Not to worry. Go with your heart
as long as you are healthy and you are
approved by your physician. I am 46 and
have been together with my boyfriend, 31,
for four years now. We are only getting
stronger and better in our relationship.
We have contemplated having children in
the future. I have a 10 year old, my only
child and had her at 36. No
complications. I do believe there have
been women with pregnancies in their late
40's and 50's. It is possible, although
our age increases the risks, but with
proper monitoring and exams from your
medical physicians, I would definitely go
for it. Especially if you are sure you
love this man. Best of luck to you.
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blessed8888
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Location: edmond, ok usa
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congrats!!!
Posted: 03-28-08 15:45pm
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btween me and my hubby we have 10 there is
no right timing at least you are not 10 or
13 and sweety you alone can make the
choice and to me babies are a gift from
god and I hope everything goes well keep
in touch ok . blessed wishes 2 both.
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Genesis 21:2
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Enouraging Thoughts
Posted: 06-20-08 12:04pm
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I was disappointed to see so many women
disouraging you and stating statistics
concerning your desire to have a child. If
the words you hear are from God then they
are loving and enouraging and those who
speak bad news and discouragment into your
life are not speaking for God. Seek God's
word on this and remember anyone who
encourages you is doing the Lord's
will...never give up on Him-His ways are
not like man's and He hears you. God is
not limited by man's statistics or man's
opinions thankfully and He will give you
the desires of your heart if you delight
yourself in Him. Psalm 37:4. Nothing is
too hard for God...Seek Him.
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