Have you tried taking her to al-anon or alchoholics anonamous? I think I spelled that wrong. But anyways, you should really talk to her about it. Or maybe you can go by yourself to learn about it. My mom had the same thing with her mom and my nana died because of it. And I never knew her. You should really help your mom out. I had the same thing with jose, and he would drink so much on the weekends, we are still working on it but he has cut down so much he cant even get drunk with me. This stuff is a drug and it will take a toll on your mom. I hate alcholol now. And I used to drink too but now I dont because of working with jose. I hope everything works out for you!

As a recovering addict/alcoholic, I know all the dangers of a lifetime of drinking can do on your body. I think that you should try going to an aa meeting on your own first and try to talk to someone there about how to help your mother. People at these meetings are very kind and conciderate and would be more than glad to help you with your problem. Maybe after you talk to someone else you can talk your mother into going to a meeting with you. It might save her life.

Hello minerwater, it’s a real tough situation for you. After all, it’s the matter of your mother. Anyways, no need to worry. Every problem has a solution. One thing I must say, that if you want your mother to get rid of her addiction, you will have to play a very vital role to your mother. You will have to give a constant support to her and encourage her to the fullest. Because it’s not easy to suddenly stop and withdraw ones own self from such addictions. Apart from this, you can take her for rehabilitation. They are really very helpful. For any further information on rehabilitation you can let me know. I’ll surely help you.

Mostly I only post on threads about alcoholism. I leave the other substances to others.

I am an alcoholic, and I have been sober and a member of Alcoholics Anonymous for a little over eight years.

You, minerwater, would do well to go to an Al Anon meeting yourself. Find out what other people living with an active alcoholic are doing right now to make their lives better.

There they will tell you it isn’t your fault, you didn’t do it to her, and you can’t fix her! Not every problem has a solution, you can’t get her sober, Period! There is no magic wand of selflessness that you can wave over her head to make her want sobriety. Your tears, your encouragement, your anger, your prayers sadly, none of it will have a positive effect. Only her self imposed physical and mental pain at living as she is can make her change her mind.

Only an honest desire on her part to change has any hope of pulling that miracle off. But minerwater, you need to know that she may never get sober.

The question you might want to ask yourself is what are you going to do about yourself, your home and your family today? That is why I suggested Al Anon. Play it smart, arm yourself with the facts.

One last thing, don’t serve alcohol in your home. If alcohol isn’t an issue with you or your boyfriend, keep your home dry. Mom can’t get plastered in your living room if you don’t serve it to her.

Richard

Also, tell her not to bring any with her as well. No wine or anything for dinner. Your mother wants to drink, she can do it when she goes home after the dinner.