I think the worst yet and for me is to
have your whole family dependent on
alcohol. I live my day in and out
embarassed of my mother. She's been an
alcoholic for about 15 years or more and
even though she's not as bad, she becomes
another person when she drinks. Her mind
doesn't even function well..She makes
things up and says things that don't make
sense and gets very mad, and embarasses
me. When I have her over, I have to
control the amound to alcohol in my house.
I don't want my boyfriend or his family
to ever see what she's like. My ex-fiance
had a taste and it wasn't pretty. It's
really really hard to love someone who has
an addiction.
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nikki_caro
Extremely EHEALTHy
Joined: 22 Aug 2003 Posts: 4921 Location: Right here at work!
Posted: 11-05-03 14:36pm
Have you tried taking her to al-anon or
alchoholics anonamous? I think I spelled
that wrong. But anyways, you should
really talk to her about it. Or maybe you
can go by yourself to learn about it. My
mom had the same thing with her mom and my
nana died because of it. And I never knew
her. You should really help your mom out.
I had the same thing with jose, and he
would drink so much on the weekends, we
are still working on it but he has cut
down so much he cant even get drunk with
me. This stuff is a drug and it will take
a toll on your mom. I hate alcholol now.
And I used to drink too but now I dont
because of working with jose. I hope
everything works out for you!
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hmrjnh
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 26 Aug 2003 Posts: 30
Deadly Disease Posted: 11-11-03 04:49am
As a recovering addict/alcoholic, I know
all the dangers of a lifetime of drinking
can do on your body. I think that you
should try going to an aa meeting on your
own first and try to talk to someone there
about how to help your mother. People at
these meetings are very kind and
conciderate and would be more than glad to
help you with your problem. Maybe after
you talk to someone else you can talk your
mother into going to a meeting with you.
It might save her life.
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helpaddiction
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 03 Feb 2007 Posts: 9
Posted: 02-19-07 10:20am
Hello minerwater, it’s a real tough
situation for you. After all, it’s the
matter of your mother. Anyways, no need to
worry. Every problem has a solution. One
thing I must say, that if you want your
mother to get rid of her addiction, you
will have to play a very vital role to
your mother. You will have to give a
constant support to her and encourage her
to the fullest. Because it’s not easy to
suddenly stop and withdraw ones own self
from such addictions. Apart from this, you
can take her for rehabilitation. They are
really very helpful. For any further
information on rehabilitation you can let
me know. I’ll surely help you.
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shadowalker164
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 14 Jan 2005 Posts: 175 Location: Tampa, FL
Posted: 02-19-07 12:34pm
Mostly I only post on threads about
alcoholism. I leave the other substances
to others.
I am an alcoholic, and I have been sober
and a member of Alcoholics Anonymous for a
little over eight years.
You, minerwater, would do well to go to an
Al Anon meeting yourself. Find out what
other people living with an active
alcoholic are doing right now to make
their lives better.
There they will tell you it isn’t your
fault, you didn’t do it to her, and you
can’t fix her! Not every problem has a
solution, you can’t get her sober,
Period! There is no magic wand of
selflessness that you can wave over her
head to make her want sobriety. Your
tears, your encouragement, your anger,
your prayers sadly, none of it will have a
positive effect. Only her self imposed
physical and mental pain at living as she
is can make her change her mind.
Only an honest desire on her part to
change has any hope of pulling that
miracle off. But minerwater, you need to
know that she may never get sober.
The question you might want to ask
yourself is what are you going to do about
yourself, your home and your family today?
That is why I suggested Al Anon. Play it
smart, arm yourself with the facts.
One last thing, don’t serve alcohol in
your home. If alcohol isn’t an issue
with you or your boyfriend, keep your home
dry. Mom can’t get plastered in your
living room if you don’t serve it to
her.
Richard
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Makoto
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 16 Jul 2006 Posts: 263 Location: Japan
Posted: 02-19-07 17:59pm
Also, tell her not to bring any with her
as well. No wine or anything for dinner.
Your mother wants to drink, she can do it
when she goes home after the dinner.
