Right now I no how u feel. My bf left me yesterday. While ending this he was crying. He said he still loves me and if he had a nother relationship I would be the gurl. But I dont get it. I cant get over him. I feel like crap.
Hope every thing is ok for u

I know how you both feel my boyfriend of 2 years left me 4 months ago. I am finally close to being over it. He told me when we broke up that he still loved me and still wanted to be close friends. We didn't become anything. He has a new girlfriend as of 2 months ago. He manages to flaunt it in my face everyday and treats me like I have some extremely contagious disease. Why are guys such jerks? I tried forcing myself to like people also. That didn't work but now I have a few crushes so just give it time. If you see him everyday that makes it worse but try to make the best out of the situation. I hope you get over your exes and can say to yourselves it is his loss.

My advice for anyone trying to get over a broken heart is don't try to forget him/her because that will only lead to more pain. It is the same way if you lose a loved one. Don't dwell on what can't happen because you've broken up, instead dwell on the good things you did together.

This last summer I was playing "friends with benifits" with my best friend and I broke the rules when I became emotionally attached to him. As the relationship progressed I began to reallize that even though he cared for me in the friend sence there wasn't any chance that he would ever see me as anything but a nice piece of friendly a** that he could have anytime he wanted. So even though it tore me up inside I knew I had to stop the benifits. Maybe even the friendship if he wasn't willing to stay friends.
It's now been almost 6 months and we are still friends but we will never be good friends again. He knew why I broke it off and that it was killing me inside because he could read my moods and my thoughts better than anyone else alive, including my mother.
Yes I still am hurting there is not a single day that goes by that I don't think of him and wonder if I did the right thing. But I know now that I was in love with him. It's a good possibility that I will always love him. Am I sorry that it didn't work out? Not in a million years. I wouldn't change a single thing except that I might have gone all the way more often.

I have always heard that hindsight is better than foresite and it is true. Our differences would never have worked themselves out. (ei. I'm more religious, he's not)

i'm sorry your hurting, I hope this helps a bit.

7 years is a very long time... Believe me, I know. Yes time will heal... But not in a year. Typical rule of thumb is that it takes half the length of the relationship (if healthy) to get over them. If it was a bad relationship the healing time goes quicker. From my own experiences and from others I know, this seems to be a fairly accurate rule of thumb.

But the problem is... You have another 2 years of pain ahead of you, how do you cope with it?

Well first off, you should tell him to stop leaving you these types of voice mail messages. Everytime he does this, he is pulling you back in... Tugging you along with this string. It makes it much more painful and a lot more difficult to get go. A lot of guys and girls do this after break up... Not really on purpose, but usually as a fall-back. They keep you there, and if their current relationship doesn't work... They've still got you waiting.

The next thing is to stop forcing yourself to have feeling for someone else... You can't expect to feel 7 years of history in a guy after 2 months. It doesn't work like that. Take your time, have male friends, do what you gotta do, and live your life. When the time is ripe, you'll move on and find someone new.

Even if he did ask you back out... Do you really really want him back after he has dragged you through hell and back? Especially by replacing you like a pair of old socks? I don't think so... He was great, the relationship was great, things happened... Move on. Live your life... Do something positive. Join a gym, eat healthier, take some extra courses, do some volunteer work, save your cash, get a new job... Just don't sit around at home moping and crying. It's not going to help anything.

Good luck,
justin

You have to decide ones and for all, do you really want to move on or not. If not than figure it out with him.
If you do, than why you even read his massages. It like you are going back with him emotionally. If you do that you�ll never heal!!!

I do really understand what is the feeling of a broken hearted. I was with this guy for 1 year, At the age of 30 I was virgin and I give my self to him. Then one day he told me that it would be unfare for me to be in a relationship,�  and that he is not ready for the next step. He cried so much during our last talked so I don't understand really what is his real feelings to me during the months that we are together. It's been 3 months now since we broke up but it still hurting me so much, I am still hoping that he will call me one day to continue where we left... I know it is crazy my family and friends help me to forget him but the more I dated another man the more he is in my head and heart.