**** excuse me***

atleast we arent trying to be murders like my mom and run away from our problems!!!!


Xox jessica oxo

tell her straight up that it is not up to her! It's your choice.. Not even your bfs.. Do what is best for you! I don't really agree that abortion is running from your problems but anywho.. Just decide what's right for you..That's all that matters!

Awww well i'm glad you told her...But i'm upset that she wants you to get an abortion. The choice is yours though and only yours. But i'm glad you and peyton (i spelled it right this time ;) )want to keep your baby. Abortion is not an option for me. I'm pro life.

Congrats

Aww jess... Maybe that was just your mom's first reaction and she'll change after she's thought about it a little. Parents mainly try to protect their kids and that's maybe what she feels is how to protect you. Give her a chance to think about it and then be ready to talk again cuz she'll definitely be back to talk some more. Meanwhile, tomorrow go talk to your counselors at school and see what kind of options they have for teen moms staying in school. Also call wic to find out about the programs they have. At least that way when your mom comes back for another talk you can show her you're trying to keep everything together and still do the right thing for your baby. Main thing is don't get into a yelling and screaming match with your mom no matter how upset she gets. The main thing you've got to do is show her you're trying to be as grown up as you can be about it and maybe that'll change her mind.

Still you should also listen to what she has to say. If you just close your ears you'll just be being stubborn and not listening just like you maybe think she's doing.

No matter what, good luck jess.

Sweetie,
stick to your guns and eventaully she'll come to terms with the fact that you're not getting an ab and will start to get excited about her impending grandmotherhood! It will happen. In the meantime, stay strong! Why don't you go out and buy a cheap unisex outfit or a recieving blanket. And make a Dr.'s appointment. Not only will this make it more real for you it will make it more real for her.
best wishes,
laura

Thank you so much girls :wink: I dont know what I would do without yall!!
My mom hasnt really spoken to me since the outcome. All she said jess why are you made at me?? What reaction were your expecting?? And all I said was not abortion. Abortion is not an option for peyton and i. In the end of all this I bet she would be really happy that I had her grandchild. And just to think she wanted to get me an abortion!! I so scared that she will call the clinic tomorrow and schedule an appointment for abortion.. What should I do if she does?? Peyton is thinking about joining the air force... B/c the air force pays for our house, and food for the baby and they give us extra money. Only if my mom would give me a chance to prove to her that I am serous about this situation.. But she didnt even give me a chance to talk awhile ago!!! I will talk to her some more ..But if she makes that appointment I will be mad at her forever and that is a promise.. B/c I am not putting a scar on peyton and i's heart all because only my mom wanted me to get an abortion.. No way!!!!!

Sorry so long but this is important to me and I need all of yalls help! Thank you for taking time and reading this!! It means the world to me right now!!!

Xox jessica oxo

she shouldn't be able to force you to have an abortion.. If my mom ever forced one option or another on me, i'd slap her silly.. Don't think I wouldn't! My bio mom that is. I don't know what I would do if bfs mom did that to me.. I'd probably just pack my caca up and leave. I'd def slap the caca out of bf if he tried to force anything on me.. Esp if he believed that I should keep the pregnancy in case I wanted an ab.. No guarantees if that's what I would do.. I'm just saying.. Anyway.. I'd leave him if he ever did that becuase that would be forcing me to gestate since the only reason I have sex is so he doesn't go through withdrawl. He is prolife btw. Don't bother telling me I need a new bf.. He is just a guy who is at his sexual peek and that's only a 1/3 of our story.

If ur scared...See if you can stay with a friend..Or peyton. Maybe peyton can be nearby in case he needs to pick you up or something. She can .N.O.T make you have an abortion.

Keep ur chin up girl

luv yas

Thank you! :) yall are right! Im not trying to run from my responsibilities!! So im not going to the appointment (if she makes one)!!

Bd1012 - my boyfriend is all for my decision he doesnt want me to get an abortion and all.. He wants this baby as much as I do!! Is that what u were talking about?? My mother is the one wanting me to get an abortion.. Not my b/f.

Thanks yall

xox jessica oxo

Anytime...Always here for ya

no.. I am just saying that in case your bf did want you to abort.. It wasn't up to him either.

If your mom makes an appointment for you... She still can't make you do it. If she forces you to go, tell the Dr. / nurse / counsellor (some laws require them before an abortion) that you don't want it to happen, that you're being forced. They cannot legally force you to abort if you say no, no matter what your mother says.

I think you should find your local pregnancy crisis centre and ask them for help. They're generally pro-life organisations dedicated to supporting mothers-to-be who are in need. Try http://www.Birthright.Org/ to see if there's one in your area.... Or just google it. Some can even set you up in temp homes from teen moms if you find you really can't stay at home. But I hope it dosen't come to that.

As for your bf joining the army..... That's a wonderful sacrifice for him to want to make for you and baby, but it's also a huge commitment. And since you're underage, would you have to marry him before you recieved benefits? Would your mom allow you to? Were you ready to marry him *now* before you got pregnant? You still have time to think about these things, and while it's wonderful that he wants to make that sacrifice for you and his child, just make sure it's well throught out first!

Best of luck,
laura

Good job on telling your mom, i'm sorry to hear she wants you to get an abortion..
It is your choice though, and I wish you all the best!

You and his baby..Lol