I have been dating my boyfriend for 2 months now and in the beggining my best friend and him were friends no they hate each other and she dosent want me talking about him in front of her and she thinks I should dump him because last wwekend when I was staying the night at her house I called him and my best friend said he was a !**@! and so he hung up and I kept calling him till he would ansewer and not hang up on me and so then my best friend called and was talking to his friend her ex-boyfriend that was staying at his house about why he hung up on me for something I didnt do or say and then she was talking to my boyfriend and I guess he called me a "stupid !**@!" and so she got mad and then her phone died so we had to charge it and so we were just talking and she was like u need to dump him cuz he said you were a stupid !**@! and that he thinks he is in charge of me and stuff like that.So when I went home the next day I asked him if it was true and I asked him why he said that and we talked it over and no we are fine.I think he just says those things when I have friends over or he does or if im staying at a friends house or he is cuz when we are alone on the phone he dosent act like that. My question is what can I do so they are ok with eachother but im not asking for them to be friends im just asking if they can not hate eachother anymore because I love both of them!
Sit them both down and tell them that you can't choose the one and not the other. She my be your friend but she has no right to deny you the chance of true love if he loves he should even have a second thought about it. Say that they need to talk to one another like adults and find out what is causing all this friction. If they both truely care for you they should be able to make a some sort of deal. If one of them or both say they won't try tell them you are sorry but need some time alone to think. Not forever just give them a day or two to sit and ponder whats important. Ask them back again with the same question. Talk to them about possible solutions and see if they are trying to work with you. If after that you still have no progress you may just have to keep em seperate for awhile till she cools off. If she's your friend she should go out of her way to start crap though. You need to be straight with her about that. She may just miss you or feel you act differently around him than when it's just you and her. Why does she hate him so?