I am 19 years old. I feel like I can tell
my mom anything but in nov. I took 2 home
pregnancy test and they both came back
positive and I haven't told her.I know
things get worse with time. I spend the
night at my b/f's house all the time and
my mom has no problem with it even though
i`m not on birth control. I stayed with
him the other night and my mom throws this
big fit about how I need to get back on
the pill and how she doesn't want me
having a baby at 20. My b/f's parents
know i`m pregnant and so does my sister,
but I haven't told my mom or dad. I`m not
worried about telling my dad, but I am
worried about telling my mom. I don't
know where to start or how to tell her!!
Help!!
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Krista Kai
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 21 Dec 2004 Posts: 380 Location: Virginia
Posted: 01-05-05 14:15pm
Well if you got a pos test in november and
youre anything like me, you're probably
already getting thick and full in
"suspicious places". And I think you're
right that the longer you wait to tell
your mom the harder its gonna be. I was
just the other way around from you. I was
more scared about telling my dad than my
mom, so I told my mom before dad got home
and she told him.
When I told my mom her first reaction was
"if this is a joke i'm not laughing". I
told her it wasn't a joke then went to my
room and started to cry. Mom came in and
told me she loved me and it'd be ok, and
she'd be there for me. I told her I was
really scared how dad would take it and
asked mom if she'd tell him. I was
upstairs in my room scared to death when
she told him. I could hear they were
both really upset, but then after a little
while they both came in and said they were
disappointed but they still loved me and
would stick by me no matter what.
Going by what i've heard from other girls
I know i'm lucky. I hope you'll be as
lucky too. Maybe you can tell your dad
and let him tell your mom.
Oh yeah, i'm 17 but i'll be 18 on the
27th. At least you're old enough you can
make your own decisions and no one can say
much about it.
Good luck!!
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pinkbaby
Active User, Really EHEALTHy
Joined: 09 Dec 2004 Posts: 618 Location: Arizona
Posted: 01-05-05 14:50pm
My mom has been wanting me to have a baby
forever now! Ive been with my boyfriend
since my 15th birthday, and im glad I made
it to at least 18, and I will be 19 when I
have the baby. I agree with krista, I
think your old enough to make your own
decision. Your mom and dad might not be
too happy with it at first, but that will
be their grandchild, and they will get
over it. Are you happy about the baby?
Cause you cant have a baby according to
when they think the time is right. If
your scared, dont be, I can tell by your
post that your a mature and responsible
person because you care about what your
family thinks and feels. I think you will
do just fine. With telling your parents
and raising a child. At least you have
support from the other side of the family.
And you know you can always come to the
board, and you will have all of us :) good
luck :)
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LHSbabe0207
Active User, Really EHEALTHy
Joined: 24 Oct 2004 Posts: 632 Location: Louisiana girl!!!
Posted: 01-05-05 17:09pm
Good luck hun :wink: everyone needs luck!
Just take it nice and slow..
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lilmztee
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 05 Jan 2005 Posts: 9 Location: Va
Posted: 01-05-05 20:35pm
Well..I go to my first doctor's
appointment on jan 10th, according to the
nurse I should be about early 8 weeks. My
b/f is getting really impatient with me
not telling my mom. He even offered to
tell her, but I don't wanna see my mom
choking the living daylights out of him..
:shock: I think I am going to sit her down
along with my b/f so he and I can both
tell her. Maybe it'll make things easier
if I have him there. My sister got
pregnant at 19 and had the baby at 20, and
my mom didn't make a big deal about it so
i`m hoping she won't make a big deal about
me, but I am the youngest so I dunno..Oh
well..Ty for the advice I feel better
about telling her now.. :d
