|she can find her support somewhere else because I will never ever support a decision like that. Am I wrong for feeling this way?|
|can someone give me some insight on a fetus that is only four weeks. Thanks in advance|
|bd-you are saying that everyone that has sex has intentions of getting pregnant? Not me!!!! Or did I read that wrong?|
|she knows of your struggles to have children and yet tells you of a possible pending abortion.|
|ok who are you to say if she is allergic to condoms or not? Are you her doctor? Maybe she is.. Some people are allergic to condoms and/or spermicide.. And like sandy said..She made a mistake... Don't tell me you didn't sleep with somebody sometime in your life without plans to get pregnant.. And if i'm wrong.. Then I apoligize but it's rare that everytime a person has sex they are ttc. Also.. Why would you terminate the frienship if she had an abortion? Don't you know your supposed to support her no matter what? What if she is deeply hurt if you leave her? You chose to be friends with her so now you are stuck..
Does what I said above sound stupid with the whole friendship thing? Well that's what pl sound like to us..
I don't see the correllation you're attempting to make. While it is unfortunate when a woman has trouble conceiving or having children, I don't understand why you think the subject of abortion should not be brought up between two friends? Do you think that women who have difficulty in conceiving are inately "bitter" about the subject of pregnancy in general? Do you think they are inordinately jealous of other women who conceive? And if you think that, why would the ending of the pregnancy matter at all to them? After all, if the woman ends the pregnancy (if she is, in fact, pregnant), then there's no pregnancy to be jealous over.
Also, this attitude can exist both ways. At 15, a friend of mine got pregnant and chose to keep the pregnancy. At 18, she was at the mall, putting her child into his car seat and getting ready to leave when an older woman approached her. This woman proceeded to tell my friend that she should be ashamed of herself, that she was the problem with this country, and then the woman said that she had been trying for years to have children. So, my friend by your standards or possible correllation, is dam-ed if she does and dam-ed if she doesn't. If she had obtained an abortion, then by your correllation she would be "wrong" or "bad" because other women try and can't get pregnant. However, she kept the pregnancy and the resulting child and was still told that she was "wrong" and "bad" because other women try and can't get pregnant. It's a two way street.
I am truly sorry if anyone has had trouble conceiving or keeping a pregnancy when they truly wished to be pregnant. My heart does go to women in these heartbreaking situations. However, I still fail to see where another woman's decision to obtain an abortion has any bearing on your life, choices, or fertility at all.
|i said it exactly how I meant to say it and I don't believe this girl came here for a debate.
I know two very close relatives of mine that infertile both due to endo and the other one also has pcos. They are very hurt over the mention of abortion.
If a woman can't concieve a desperatly wanted child i'm sure she doesn't want to hear about her best friends abortion
|hi sandy, my name is jamie, pleased to meet you.
No, do not feel guilty for your plans to terminate the friendship. You feel how you feel and nobody can change that. I would tell you that whether you were for abortion or against abortion. As for her being your friend, it does not sound like she had too much regard for your friendship when she throw the comment to you about not being able to conceive. That was childish and hurtful.
Yes, she should have thought about becoming pregnant before she slept with the man. Unfortunately it seems her mind is made up on abortion and if she is pregnant, she will seek one. Obviously you cannot change that. If it makes you queazy just thinking about it, and you cannot bear the friendship, then end it. It's not worth the stress in your life. You have your beliefs, she has hers.
Palpatation, heartbeat, whatever you call it, is there very quickly. I forgot the exact time but i'll find out for you. As for the brain.....To correct what was previously said, brainwaves are present at 40 days. It is indeed not a fetus, but an embryo. But it is still human and it is a baby, just not fully developed yet.
Good luck with your situation and if it's stressful to you, try and stay as far away as you can hun. I'm here if you would like to im me! Take care.