Hi right I think I am pregnant. No it was
not planned and I am scared what to do
next if I am
a baby is the last thing my boyfriend
wants and so do i. I cant look after
myself let alone a baby. Ok that was a
bit of an understatement but im not ready
to be a mother.
People on here will probably think this is
wrong but what do I do if I want to have a
termination. For all those people in the
uk do I hav to tell my mother do I need
her to go along with me for the
termination or can it be someone over 16
who goes with me?
I know it sounds wrong killing a baby but
im only 15 and im not ready to have a
baby!! Im stupid for becmong pregnant I
know but I am scared!!
Is there anyone who can understand me? I
really need advice please!
Xxxxx :?
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a2ck418
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 09 Sep 2004 Posts: 146
Posted: 12-30-04 08:42am
I am not going to judge you because it is
the last thing you will need right now. I
am not going to tell you what to do
either. However, you made a decision to
have sex without protection (i am
assuming) and babies are the number one
result. I understand that you are young,
but taking into consideration that you
thought you were old enough to have sex
you should have thought about a child,
stds, broken heart, etc. All of those
come with it. Young teens have babies
everyday and manage just fine and other
chose not to. That choice is ultimately
up to you, talk to your mother, she will
probably want to help you! What about the
father? Does he know? Will he help?
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Krista Kai
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 21 Dec 2004 Posts: 380 Location: Virginia
Posted: 12-30-04 09:03am
Know how you feel, but the first thing to
do is find out if you're really pregnant.
How late are you? Stress can mess up
your period and make you feel like you've
got other symptoms too. If your period's
late the first thing is to take a home
test and see what it says. Take it first
thing in the morning. That's when its
most accurate. They can show a false neg
but they almost never show a false pos.
If its pos, go to the doctor. If you're
worried about your parents going with you
or something, there are clinics you can go
to without your parents. They can also
explain your options and its all
confidential.
I'm not going to condemn you for thinking
about an abortion. I'll admit it crossed
my mind too for all the same reason you
mentioned, and even tho I know a lot of
people disagree I think its your decision.
One of the main things being pregnant has
taught me so far is you make decisions you
have to live with the rest of your life,
and that incluides the decision we made
when we got pregnant whether we realized
it or not. I decided to have my baby.
I'm 18 weeks now and I think I made the
right decision for me and my baby, but I
also know its not the right decision for
everyone.
Good luck to you.
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*confused_gal*
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 29 Dec 2004 Posts: 2 Location: uk
Posted: 12-30-04 09:26am
I am still with the father weve been
together nearly a year now. No he does
not know yet I dont want to tell him
untill im sure. He said if I ever was he
would stick buy me, hes not going to run
out on me!
I did think about all the consequences but
I never thought it would come to this.
I am going to buy a test tomorrow and take
it then. I can have advice from all my
friends, 2 people at my school have had
babies and 2 of my close friends has had a
termionation so she knows what its like.
I just need advice from people I dont know
I dont want to say anything unless I am.
But because I am under 16 do I need my
parents permission if I wanted to go ahead
and have an abortion?
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a2ck418
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 09 Sep 2004 Posts: 146
Posted: 12-30-04 09:39am
I am not sure of the laws regarding that
in the uk, try an internet search, you
might have better luck alot sooner, it
takes forever to get posts around here.
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KaiGela
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 14 Nov 2004 Posts: 485 Location: Anywhere (:
Posted: 12-30-04 20:51pm
I'm not sure about the laws in the uk.
But I know here in the us, you can be any
age to have an abortion, if you have it at
an abortion clinic, which has to be before
24 weeks if i'm not mistaken. After 24
wks it's illegal to have it in an abortion
clinic, and it must be done in a
hostpital. I heard you need to also be
18+, but if your under 18 you need a
parent, something like that. But usually
they won't do it after 24wks if it's not
medically neccessary. I don't really
support abortion in these cases, but I
understand where your comming from. I was
in that situation too. All I have to say
to you is goodluck.
