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Q: *scared What to Do*
asked by: *confused_gal* on December 30th, 2004
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Hi right I think I am pregnant. No it was not planned and I am scared what to do next if I am
a baby is the last thing my boyfriend wants and so do i. I cant look after myself let alone a baby. Ok that was a bit of an understatement but im not ready to be a mother.

People on here will probably think this is wrong but what do I do if I want to have a termination. For all those people in the uk do I hav to tell my mother do I need her to go along with me for the termination or can it be someone over 16 who goes with me?
I know it sounds wrong killing a baby but im only 15 and im not ready to have a baby!! Im stupid for becmong pregnant I know but I am scared!!
Is there anyone who can understand me? I really need advice please!
Xxxxx :?
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a2ck418
replied on December 30th, 2004
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I am not going to judge you because it is the last thing you will need right now. I am not going to tell you what to do either. However, you made a decision to have sex without protection (i am assuming) and babies are the number one result. I understand that you are young, but taking into consideration that you thought you were old enough to have sex you should have thought about a child, stds, broken heart, etc. All of those come with it. Young teens have babies everyday and manage just fine and other chose not to. That choice is ultimately up to you, talk to your mother, she will probably want to help you! What about the father? Does he know? Will he help?
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Krista Kai
replied on December 30th, 2004
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Know how you feel, but the first thing to do is find out if you're really pregnant. How late are you? Stress can mess up your period and make you feel like you've got other symptoms too. If your period's late the first thing is to take a home test and see what it says. Take it first thing in the morning. That's when its most accurate. They can show a false neg but they almost never show a false pos. If its pos, go to the doctor. If you're worried about your parents going with you or something, there are clinics you can go to without your parents. They can also explain your options and its all confidential.

I'm not going to condemn you for thinking about an abortion. I'll admit it crossed my mind too for all the same reason you mentioned, and even tho I know a lot of people disagree I think its your decision.

One of the main things being pregnant has taught me so far is you make decisions you have to live with the rest of your life, and that incluides the decision we made when we got pregnant whether we realized it or not. I decided to have my baby. I'm 18 weeks now and I think I made the right decision for me and my baby, but I also know its not the right decision for everyone.

Good luck to you.
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*confused_gal*
replied on December 30th, 2004
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I am still with the father weve been together nearly a year now. No he does not know yet I dont want to tell him untill im sure. He said if I ever was he would stick buy me, hes not going to run out on me!
I did think about all the consequences but I never thought it would come to this.

I am going to buy a test tomorrow and take it then. I can have advice from all my friends, 2 people at my school have had babies and 2 of my close friends has had a termionation so she knows what its like. I just need advice from people I dont know I dont want to say anything unless I am.
But because I am under 16 do I need my parents permission if I wanted to go ahead and have an abortion?
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a2ck418
replied on December 30th, 2004
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I am not sure of the laws regarding that in the uk, try an internet search, you might have better luck alot sooner, it takes forever to get posts around here.
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KaiGela
replied on December 30th, 2004
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I'm not sure about the laws in the uk. But I know here in the us, you can be any age to have an abortion, if you have it at an abortion clinic, which has to be before 24 weeks if i'm not mistaken. After 24 wks it's illegal to have it in an abortion clinic, and it must be done in a hostpital. I heard you need to also be 18 , but if your under 18 you need a parent, something like that. But usually they won't do it after 24wks if it's not medically neccessary. I don't really support abortion in these cases, but I understand where your comming from. I was in that situation too. All I have to say to you is goodluck.
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