Hello billie well I was in a relationship for 9 yrs and I have 3 kids with this man he was locked up for a year and he would always tell me that no other man would want me cause I have 3 kids well I have learned that, that indeed was a lie ive been dating this guy in the service for almost 2 years on 2/04 and man let me tell you we have a strong relationship he loves me for me and loves my kids im so so happy when we are together we laugh we play never a dull moment so so different from my other relationship my kids father was always going out with his friends or the were always at the house drinking smoking etc.... I was not happy but I dealt with him cause of the kids so my advice to you is to listen to your heart if your not happy get out cause un happy parents cant raise happy kids you two have to be able to communicate to have a healthy relationship for your daughter and trust me im sure your daughter prolly senses your not happy.......So get out and find someone that is going to love you and make you happy life is too short to be wasting it unhappy,eventually youll get out of it and think all this time wasted in a relationship being unhapppy could have you thinking later why didnt I get out sooner youll be more relaxed and happy I live by myself now and coming home to my kids and having them here without there father here is so much more relaxing than him being here I was always tensed cause I was unhappy I didnt want him here.Anyways ive said alot hope this helps...

Ya know I guess I know that you are right.. I just can't seemed to do anythign about it. I guess I can't imagine me without him. Even if he can.
I do want a happy child though, she is my life and always knows when I am upset. I want to do right by her.... I guess god only gives you what you can handle.... Pray for me please.....

Hi billie. I am new to this forum and posted my own but wanted to reply to yours.

My situation is opposite of yours, I am 30 years old, been happily married for 4 years and we planned our first child which we both wanted and I gave birth on sept. 16th of this year and ever since I have been majorily depressed/anexity, hard time concentrating etc., etc.

My problem is although I love my son very much I wonder if I should have not had children because I was so very happy in my life before my child and now I get even function to work or take care of him etc.

Anyway, my advice is that if you really aren't happy in your relationship with your husband that you should get out of it because it will only bring you down and your family.

Hope I helped a little.

Hi billie, have you considered couples counselling? It saved my marriage! It may help you as well. If your marriage and your vows are something you consider sacred, don't you think you should do all you can to save it? Best of luck- I feel for you. -jackie