In Love Whit a Straight Friend!! Posted: 12-28-04 17:38pm
Hello everyone, I have a big question.
Please help me!! About six months ago I
was very drunk with a straight friend who
I like very much. I gave him a blow job
and he didn't say anything, in fact we
didn't talk about it for I while. I
repeated it again im about a month, and
than he confessed me he liked it but the
next day q felt very bad.
We've been doit it for a while, we had sex
a couple of times. We don´t talk much
about it. He likes girls a lot, I really
don't kwow how I got him into this. What
is is with him??
How do I know what to do??I really like
him, he is in a relationship right now, he
tells me he's in loved with this girl but
at the same time when we are together I
can very easy take him to bed. Should I
continue with this?? Is it possible that
if I continue with this he might get a
little gay??
This is confusing me a lot!! I'me very
drepress right now
thanks
i'm 26 and he is 25
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mworthen
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 23 Jan 2005 Posts: 1 Location: Charlotte, North Carolina
He's At Least Bi Posted: 01-23-05 23:25pm
Your friend is, by definition, bisexual.
I wouldn't be surprised if he is more gay
than straight but he's afraid to admit it
to himself because of internalized
homophobia. Or he could lean toward the
hetero side of the spectrum and feel
ashamed of his homoerotic desires.
Either way, he has to come to terms with
his sexuality in his own way and in his
own time. I suggest being honest with
him about your feelings while at the same
time respecting his right and need to come
to his own decisions.
While such direct communication might lead
to the cessation of your sexual
intimacies, much better to be honest and
open the door to an even richer, more
meaningful friendship than to relate with
each other as if parts of each of you
don't exist. Plus, if it turns out he
is gay you will have helped him
tremendously by modeling self-acceptance
and you could be laying the foundation for
a beautiful romantic relationship.
I hope this helps.
Mark worthen, psy.D.
P.S. By offering this advice I am not
establishing a professional relationship
with you or any reader of this post. I
encourage you to seek professional
counseling in your community if you are
concerned about depression or any other
psychological challenges. Just make sure
you see a gay-affirmative therapist.
That may seem obvious but many gay and
lesbian people see any therapist and a
good number of mental health professionals
are homophobic. You have a right to ask,
"do you practice gay-affirmative
psychotherapy?"
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Lilypad
Extremely EHEALTHy
Joined: 10 Oct 2005 Posts: 1043 Location: Ohio, USA
Your Situation-kind Of- In Reverse Posted: 11-03-05 11:33am
Hello I am strait...But once upon a time
I had a major crush on my guy friend who
is gay. We hung out all the time, we
kissed a couple of times (drunk) and then
he decided to confess to me he was gay..
We remained friends but it was really hard
for me because I liked him alot.
I think that you should back off.
Especially because he is in a
relationship.
