Dear billie,

hi, you and your husband have been together for a very long time, so i'm assuming you are able to talk to each other quite openly. The only thing that will get you around this problem is to talk about it. It is unfair of your husband to just fob it off as if he is just too tired, tiredness is not an excuse to completely shut off your sexual relationship with your partner. You have wants and needs that must be fullfilled to be happy aswell, so it is going to be very important that you can tell your husband how much all this unsettles you and makes you feel unwanted and unattractive. A womans most vulnerable time is when she is pregnant or just had a baby, the fact that we get so big when we are pregnant and gain a little extra weight during pregnancy makes us feel less attractive and very self concious of our body, and our worst nightmare is to think that our husbands won't want us during this time. Your husband needs to be well aware of this. If your husband loves you he will not want you to feel this hurt and confused.

Good luck...

Suzy

Hi suzy...

Thanks for the reply... We have been togther dating for 7 years and married for 3. But I have told him how he makes me feel, and told him everything. After I say, this...This.. And this is bothering me. Or I really wish this could be different. He just says... Sorry you feel that way... Sometimes I feel like he cares about me, and loves me... But maybe he is not in love with me anymore.....

I am so hurt... All I want to do is cry all the time, and taking care of a 2 year old all day I can't cry.....

Billie

Dear billie. You have spent so many years with your husband. You should know him very well by now. You are also the one that understands the situation well. I will be honest and blunt with you.
There could be several reasons for the problem:

1) your husband has a hormonal or psychological problem where he does
not have the urge to make love.
2) he does not find you attractive enough to make love to you.
3) he is secretly involved with another woman but does not want to break
the relationship with you.

Whatever the reason is, this is a serious problem. You cannot go through life making love so infrequently. In general, men want to make love at least once a week especially when they are as young as your husband.
For some like me, once in two days is the frequency.

You need to find out exactly from him what the problem is. Ask him to be straightforward with you about it even though it might hurt you.

If worse comes to worse, you might have to move on to someone who cares enough about you to want to make love to you more often.

One thing is for certain. You are not the one at fault here and you deserve better treatment than this.....

Billie, send me a private message if you want to talk discreetly.
Maybe I can help in some way...

Hoping for the best for you..