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Jealous of Porn ?? Is That Normal??

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I seem to feel betrayed when I go on the computer after my husband and see that he has been looking at porn. I don't know why. I just get this feeling that my blood is rushing. He always hides it from me so that angers me even more. I don't know maybe im mad beacause I feel like im not included. Not sure. I talked with him about it he said that he would be more open with me about it. But still late at night I lay in bed paraniod that he is looking at porn while I sit alone. Confused Thanks for listening
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replied December 20th, 2004
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You may want to go online and look for yourself, in front of him. You may tell him you want to look at some porn w/ him. I look a porn w/ my lady friend and we discuss some scenes, too.

If you really want to rock his socks, go to "google" and search for "shemales". This is a sight that shows half female and male.

Obviously, he feel embarrassed, but you can make him feel more comfortable by watching w/ him.

Some of it is funny to me and some is gross. I don't like anal sex.....

I hope this helps and doesn't offend you.
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replied December 20th, 2004
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Re: Jealous of Porn ?? Is That Normal??
babylugo2000 wrote:
i seem to feel betrayed when I go on the computer after my husband and see that he has been looking at porn. I don't know why. I just get this feeling that my blood is rushing. He always hides it from me so that angers me even more. I don't know maybe im mad beacause I feel like im not included. Not sure. I talked with him about it he said that he would be more open with me about it. But still late at night I lay in bed paraniod that he is looking at porn while I sit alone. Confused Thanks for listening


i feel that way sometimes.. But I try to not let it bother me.. I find it very handy now that my libido is gone.. It makes us both happy because I can be left alone to watch tv or whatever and he's not bugging me and he doesnt' have to suffer and walk around with a swollen member. Trust me..If you get like I am now.. Porn will be your friend..Anything to get him off your case. Wink
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replied December 20th, 2004
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Okay,are we talking using porn as a substitute for real intimacy with you or just looking at porn for giggles once in a while???If it is an occasional thing,no biggie.Just be glad he's not in a strip club wasting the college fund or worse,out trolling for fresh meat.If he is using porn as his primary source of stimulation,then,my dear, you have a serious problem.I was once engaged to a man who would rather watch porn(the real hard core stuff!!)than make love to me-and it's not like i'm an unwilling partner!!I finally had enough and left him!I am married to a wonderful man who does not need to see naked barbie dolls to get off.We watch porn sometimes,but we can't stop laughing at it,we think it is amusing!If your situation is the latter.Pm me and we''l talk.Best to you!
Patty
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replied December 21st, 2004
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We still have sex. But any chance that he can get if I go to the grocery store or to my mothers or to bed he is on the computer looking at porn.... And its not for giggles he gets off on it. We have a porn movie that he supposidly bought for us to watch together because I told him that I feel left out and we have had it for 5 months and he has seen it... By himself everytime that I say oh lets watch it he is like oh I dont feel like moving the vcr now. I try to talk with him to understand it and he says that its just a man thing...
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replied December 22nd, 2004
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Have you tried to calmly explain to him that you feel left out when he views and/or gets off on porn without you??If you know he's watching porn or online,maybe join him and surprise him with a little show of your own??You might surprise yourself as well.A little effort on both of your parts may help resolve this issue.Sometimes,viewing porn becomes a sort of addiction and he may need some help from you to overcome it.Do not approach him in a confrontational matter,this will only add to the problem.As long as he is not using porn as a substitute for real intimacy and your sex life is still good,maybe he needs a little shaking up,try something new in the sack.(maybe have sex in a different room or try some toys).Good luck to you.
Patty
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replied December 22nd, 2004
My fiance was 'addicted' to pornography. I hear this is a common problem for some men. Don't let any one tell you not to let it bother you, because your feelings are true and shouldn't be denied. The only way he and I got over it is when we sat down and discussed it. . . At length. Because he loved me he was willing to work on it and now his porn viewing is minimal. It took me a while to trust him again however, because he did lie about it.
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replied October 8th, 2009
I'm having the same problem. My boyfriend says he doesn't even look to "take care of himself", rather just to look because he likes it. But I feel insecure about it and feel like it means I'm not what he wants to look at or I'm not sexy enough for him so he has to look else where. I also worry that maybe it's because he wants to think about other women when we make love which even I think is silly because I can always tell that he's in the moment when we're in bed. I don't know how to deal with this. He and I have talked about my insecurities and he knows how upset it makes me, but it doesn't stop him from looking at porn and what's worse is that it even though I get very upset, I still feel compelled to look at the computer history.
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replied October 18th, 2009
Re: Jealous of Porn ?? Is That Normal??
babylugo2000 wrote:
I seem to feel betrayed when I go on the computer after my husband and see that he has been looking at porn. I don't know why. I just get this feeling that my blood is rushing. He always hides it from me so that angers me even more. I don't know maybe im mad beacause I feel like im not included. Not sure. I talked with him about it he said that he would be more open with me about it. But still late at night I lay in bed paraniod that he is looking at porn while I sit alone. Confused Thanks for listening




I am the same way...I feel the same way when I find out that my boyfriend has been looking at it alone. He knows that I am into it, now its not something that I want to see a lot but every blue moon or two I am game...I have my own porn movie that I said lets watch them together but yet we never do. Then I found out that he is looking at porn alone and keeping it all hush hush. So like the other post stated. Dont let people tell you to not let it bother you, you feel the way you feel and its ok to feel that way. I would just keep trying to talk to him about it.
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replied June 21st, 2012
Feeling unhealthy jealous.
Girls, I have the same problem.
Everything started about eight years ago. I met a guy and I fell in love with him (it was my first very serious love, I would do anything for him). During that time I used to watch porn alone and even asked him once if he'd something against it, he said no. He also claimed to watch porn and I thought there was nothing wrong with it. When I wanted to watch it together he was fine with that.
The problem started when we began to live together. I used to go out to the gym in the evening (he wanted me to have a perfect body, and I didn't have time to exercise during a day, because I worked). It was late and I asked him to pick me up so that I didn't have to go alone (once I had a dangerous situation and I told him about it). He claimed he did lots of important stuff and he didn't have time to get me (he was the one who wanted me to exercise). I understood. Once I came home and he was at the bathroom, taking shower, so I decided to check what he'd been up to. I discovered he had been watching porn during the time I was at the gym. I was so pissed off that when he came out of the bathroom we had a serious talk. He promised to pick me up from the gym, but he didn't explain, why he was watching porn and didn't make love to me when we were together. After that moment I became suspicious. The situation didn't change that much, we were not making love too often, but he was still watching porn. I started to think there's something wrong with me if we didn't make love and he watched porn. Once I could not stand that and asked him why? He told me that I am not perfect enough. Those words killed me. I loved him so much and we've spent eight years together. During that time I forbade him to watch porn. I was so obsessed, jealous and felt worse every time I noticed he had been watching porn. Nothing changed. I have never felt pretty next to him and felt worse all the time. We split and I must say it was the best decision of my life. Now, I am with another man. He loves me, says he thinks I'm perfect and so on, and DOESN'T WATCH PORN (impossible, I know) because he claims he's so into me (I'v checked his computer and he's telling the truth). He told me that since he fell in love with me other girls no longer excite him. My problem still remains. I told him about it. He understands. He does everything to show me how much he cares and I am still afraid I am not good enough for him and that he will need porn some day. This is a disaster:( I am destroying a really good relationship and I don't know how to stop.
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