Not to scare you, but I had similar problems about 1 1/2 years ago. The doctor could not figure out why my tongue was swelling, sensitive, and looked like the taste buds were swollen. He sent me to an ent, who said it was acid reflux. The problem continued and I started getting skin lesions. Anyway, my doc sent me to a dermatologist who immediately identified the problem as lupus. I take meds that mostly control it, but I have to watch what I eat. Just having something the least bit spicy will bring on a tongue problem. The dermatologist said it was fissured tongue and her books say it is not painful (lies!). Anyway, that was the first sign of my lupus (which I had not even considered or known anything about) and you might ask your doctor if that is worth looking into. There are also other conditions of the tongue like geographic tongue, etc.
If you have any other questions that I might could help with, please let me know! Feel free to pm or use the board!
Good luck...A nasty tongue is not a bit fun....Sympathy is sent your way.