Well I have been w/ my b/f for 6 months. We live together. I do love him. But sometimes he is very frustrating and there is a lot of stress. We haven't been together for very long, so how can I just lose interest in him??? Does anyone know of any meds that I should use instead? I asked my doc once and she was very dismissive and didn't have any suggestions.

lol.. Same thing here.. Same exact thing..Except I am on lexapro.. And i'm on depo..Depo sometimes causes low sex drive as well.. I too could care less if I get it or not.. Sometimes I wish I never had to worry about it again..Ever. It might be the meds.

I would see another doctor.Sexual side affects are very common with certain drugs for depression and anxiety.If your doc was not trying to help you through this,then you need someone who will listen.Maybe your doc just does not know how to handle this topic and dismissed it due to his discomfort!There are docs out there who will listen and try tohelp!!!Best to you!!
Patty

My wife was on effexor and she was at a point where she wouldnt want to have sex either. I am sure its the medicine. Talk to your doc. He should be able to help you out.

I just got on a generic form of prozac... Although my sex drive has been lower for awhile... Due most likely to my depression and anxiety... I cannot get aroused very well during sex or during foreplay... We need to use a lot of lube and the sorts... So i'm guessing that all this could be due to the meds... Also I think a lot of people, including me, used sex and sexual activity to deal with depression and anxiety (like cutting, eating disorders, and other self destructive behaviors) so now that you have a clearer mind you are finding healthier ways of dealing with things. What works for me sometimes is making the effort to create a sexy situation (watching adult movies(soft core or hardcore), playing with toys by yourself, trying things, and of course communication.) but this is the hardest thing to deal with since going on my antidepressant, becuase you feel not normal and you also feel pressure to preform and please your partner, which is why communication and finding a good doctor or therapist is the most important things you can do for yourself

Sometimes low sex drive is part of side effects of medication u take. I take effexor for depression and anixiety I have low sex drive when I have sex with my husband. My husband too noticed that. I consulted my family doctor who prescribed effexor for me and she advised me that the day we love to have sex I have not to take the bills a day before or two days before. Now i'm happy and satisfied with that. Talk to your husband about it to be ready for that because u can not stop the medication longer than that. It is not good for your body system.

:? My wife has depression and takes meds that lowers her sex drive. It has gotten to the point where we have not had sex in almost a year. Her doctor told her to go to a see a sex therapist, but she doesn't want to do that. I looked up many sex therapy sites on the internet. All they say is to see your doctor or try more foreplay. My wife will not even do foreplay.One site said to have her masterbate a two or three times a week to try and raise her sex drive. I told her about that, but see won't try that either. If I even say anything about sex she makes herself mad,to make herself not in the mood for sex. If anybody has any ideas it would help us out alot.

Hi

i`m at crisis point with my bf he is deperate to have any sort of sexual relations but I am soooooo not interested, I never was like a rampant rabbit but I have no desire for it at all, well I say that but I have desire on my own but I don`t want anyone else to touch me.

Now is that anxiety or the end of a relationship?

Debs

Debs,
try and masterbate to get yourself in the mood just before you have sex with your bf. But don't make yourself cum let him do that. I read on alot of different sites that is what other women have done to increase their sex drive. Just think of it this way, remember the last time you were really horny. Now just think about your bf telling you no and how you would feel about it. If he hasn't cheated on you or hurt you anyway i'm sure it hurts him to be turned down ever time he wants to make love to you. I hope it works out for you.

Niners

long ago I had the same problem as your wife I consulted my doctor telling her that I have problems with having sex with my husband because of anti anxiety drugs that put me in a bad mood, so she advised me to stop the drugs a day or two days before intended having sex and it works with me. That was 3 years ago since then I follow that trick and I enjoyed having sex with my husband. Try to see if it works with your wife.

Hi,
i think almost 80% of us that have panick attacks or anxiety problems, also have lower sex lives, and thats because stress and anxiety, medication is also a big problem, I ask my doctor about my sex life and he answer me "first I want you to feel better with your anxiety problem and then sex will come along" I think he is right. I been with my fiance for 5years and he understands my problem, its very hard when you have a new couple, because they dont understand your situation, but make your you feel good with yourself first and then think about sex because you are not going to enjoy it even do you try.. Talk to your b-friend or g-friend about it and you will feel better. Maybe she or he suggets something you can enjoy together?!
I hope this helps