Any advise??

I can tell you what works for me. I "try" to deprive my partner of sex. We will fool around and as soon as it's time to do th deed, I stop. Not completely. I just gain controll and sort of reverse what's going on. Instead of jumping right into sex. Make him work for it. Tease him. You might have to initate foreplay, but no matter what, if he wants you bad enough he will try harder to please you. Have fun with it. Make a game out of it.

Another thing that helped my partner and I was using sex toys. It actually helped a lot. I wouldnt worry too much about using dildos, more on the lines of vibrating balls, egg, bullet. What ever you preffer. They are worth the $20.

But i'd def. Try teasing and putting off actual intercorse. Oral sex is allways good.

Thanks.

The problem is that he isn't good in the foreplay department. He's got a very hard, dry rough tough. I try to guide him all the time.

We got a vibe. He cannot work that either.

Our sex life just sucks

Sounds like he is your problem.. Sounds like he's not really interested in making things pleasurable for you. If he was he'd try to remember what turns you on. Make him worry that youre not interested anymore. Don't be blunt and say it just act like you're not interested. If he ask you just tell him you're interested but just don't feel like it right then. Make him try to initiate things. ( I mean really try, make him work hard at it)

Thanks! He has been trying alot lately but now
the motivation is blah..And I have to ease a positive note
instead of negative so that i'm not expecting the worst.
It's difficult!