How's it going down under!
If your wife tells you she would rather go shopping than have sex, is she really saying that she would rather go shopping than spend time with you?
What love language does your wife speak?
1. Words of affirmation - receiving complements, words of encouragement, kind words.
2. Quality time - does your wife want to spend time with you in order to discuss life, find out what makes you tick in every area of your life and also for you to do the same with her.
3. Receiving gifts - does she like to receive flowers on your anniversary, birthday, valentines day, or just because you love her. Does she like gifts that surprise her and make her feel cherished. Most women who receive flowers at work don't care about the flowers as much as the reaction they get from their female co workers.
4. Acts of service - does your wife show love by doing/serving others?
5. Physical touch - passionate kisses, back rubs, sex.
What love language do you speak?
Women are wired to be more the emotional. Men tend to be wired more toward the physical. We need to understand what makes our wives tick in order to fulfill their emotional need in order for them to fulfill our physical need.
My wife and I have been married for over 5 years and I consider us happily married. We need to work at our marriage like everyone else. We desire to become closer and to fullfill one anothers needs if we can.
We have agreed on two things with our marriage, we kiss each other goodbye before going to work and we never attempt to go to bed angry at one another. I find I am the one who has the authority to make sure the two rules are followed.
I find my wife desires sex just as much as I do and generally we look to have it every other night.
Generally, if you find what makes your wife tick and fulfill her needs, you will fill her emotional bank account that she would look to return the favor.
I hope this gives you some ideas to think about and try!
Good luck!
Tom z
