i've never posted on this board before but
I really need some advice/comfort.....
I dated this guy for 8 months, and last
week I told him I wanted to take a break,
for many reasons, one of which is I feel
like we're too serious, and i'm in
college, I want to have fun...He tried to
convince me not to take a break and he got
kind of upset that I suggested it.
And then, this morning, I found out a few
things accidently:
- he slept with his ex like 2 days before
we started dating. And he never told me
about it.....Before when I asked him about
what happened that night he said nothing
and that he just passed out.
- a few times when i've been out of town,
he's been drinking and he's told his ex to
come over to hook up. He even told her
shes hot and just as pretty as me.
I don't know what to do, I haven't talked
to him today since i've found out about
this stuff, and i'm not sure what I want
to say. We aren't really on a break,
we're sort of still together (for
now)..But being around him has felt so
weird and just not right lately. He says
he loves me and would never hurt me, etc,
but I feel like our relationship has been
based on lies. I dont know what to do,
please someone give me some advice!
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kitty2luv
Extremely EHEALTHy
Joined: 22 Oct 2004 Posts: 1089 Location: with my love
Posted: 12-14-04 14:38pm
I dont get why men like to lie well us
women do to but its just easyier to tell
the truth .. I hate liers
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pinkbaby
Active User, Really EHEALTHy
Joined: 09 Dec 2004 Posts: 618 Location: Arizona
Posted: 12-15-04 16:08pm
Well if you wanted a break anyways, that
should give you more motivation to move
on. Some guys dont think about hurting
girls feelings. When they want something
and theres an oppertunity to get it,
theyll take it. Not thinking of what
problems theyll cause or what they might
loose. There happy for that moment, and
theyll deal with there consequences later.
Of course they will lie about it. No one
wants to be 'in trouble'. It doesnt mean
he doesnt love you, or shes better. You
think if they got caught a couple of times
they would quit. Some guys love taking
that risky chance. And I know it makes
them feel good to be wanted. So whenever
my boyfriend lies to me about something I
act like I dont even care and it angers
him off more, cause I know he wants me to.
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Justin_Toronto
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 28 Jan 2005 Posts: 418 Location: Toronto, ON
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Posted: 01-29-05 19:37pm
Hi, I realize you wrote this over a month
ago. What ended up happening? Do you
still need advice?
Justin
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Justin_Toronto
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 28 Jan 2005 Posts: 418 Location: Toronto, ON
Thanks: 1
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Posted: 01-29-05 19:37pm
Hi, I realize you wrote this over a month
ago. What ended up happening? Do you
still need advice?
Justin
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ilovethebeach
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 12 Jul 2004 Posts: 48
Posted: 06-28-05 08:45am
justin_toronto
wrote:
hi, I realize you wrote this
over a month ago. What ended up
happening? Do you still need advice?
Justin
i could still use some advice. I've
gotten over it I think but...I'm still not
as happy with him as I was in the
beginning of our relationship.
