I know that when me and my husban were having sex and I took to long he lost his hardness so maybe u guys r messing around to long I dont think anything is wrong with u but good luck

Be happy what little or lot of sex you get. After my wifes surgery she is not a sexless grouch. Takes my head off in a heart beat. I wont cheat on her but I sure need something. Sex is a close topic with her so I dont have anyone that understands. Any comments please
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Hey man, I have the exact same problem as you. Every time my girlfriend and I start fooling around I get a boner. Sometimes we make out for an hour and the whole time I would be hard. Then as soon as I put a condom on to have sex I start to get soft and then I feel really disappointed in myself. This happened to me twice already and i’m really worried about what to do. I told her that it’s because I get nervous but I still don’t know what to do about it. I know people will say that the more you think about it the more it will happen again but its kind of hard not to think about it.

Hey man....I have the same problem as well. It's been bugging the living crap outta me for the longest time, this caca has been going on for almost a month and it's killing me.


I've had sex with her before but I noticed it happened one night when we were going to have sex. We went through with the foreplay, I had an erection, and as soon as the pants came off I lost my erection. It's embarassing as hell and it really sucks that I can't perform. Then I have to make up some crappy excuse to my girl.


I've been told a few things...Stress, anxiety, but I don't know. I think about it so much then I get all worked up about it and crap when it happens again. If anyone knows how to solve this problem, please, let me know...Thanks.

Hey guys, the mere fact that you are freaking out contributes to the problem. I too still get nervous with my girl, and this has affected me before in the same way. After you get more comfortable with her and 'used' to having sex it may get better. I have always thought that the mind is a very powerful thing and greatly affects your body's functions. After all, you all know you can get an erection, because you do. Just try to relax and not think about it. Work on being more comfortable with your partner. I am not sure what the answer is but that is my two cents for what it is worth. I for one do much better when I am relaxed and comfortable. Its a cycle, you get uncomfortable because you are soft, and you get soft because you are uncomfortable. Just relax. Good luck!

Southcoach really answered the question of why you don't stay hard. Its possibly because u are afraid of not satisfying her? And if thats the case just relax, and think about the outcome that you want and not what u are use to having. See the mind is what controls us period, there is nothing that we do, from breathing to walking, that we don't think about first. "everything begins with a thought", if you really study and understand that you will have empowered yourself for life, so with that being said start to think about the joy from having and erection and the joy you will give to your girl, think of the outcome that you want , think of the outcome that you want. We become what we think , I cant stress enough how important it is to think. So basically you guys problem is your thoughts, see our thoughts control our emotions , our emotions, control our actions, and our actions control our outcome period, this is a life lesson to guys so soak it good. "as a man thinketh, in his heart so is he" if yall ever wondered what the secret to success is well you just got it :wink: I hope that I have helped