I am a happily married 24 year old man and
I have a problem. I like sex way way
more than my partner, even if we have sex
once a day I can and do still masturbate
five to six times a day. I somehow feel
that I am bieng unfaithful to my partner
but I can not help it I feel as if I will
explode if I do not relieve myself. Do I
have a problem please help.
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exoticgem
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 30 Nov 2004 Posts: 5
Posted: 12-09-04 18:52pm
I saw your heading while checking into the
pregnancy forum. To answer your question
I don't think you have a problem you just
have a high sex drive. I've been the same
way in my past relantionships with my
boyfriends. I could have sex once or
twice a day and still felt the need to
"help myself" out during the day. And I
don't think its being unfaithful to your
partner, its better then going out and
cheating on her right? The truth is some
people just have higher sex drives then
others and masterbating is just part of
dealing with it. Take it from a woman i'd
much rather have a guy I was seeing do
what you're doing then going out and
finding someone else to do it for him and
i'm sure you're wife would feel the same
way. Good luck.
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2ferano
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Joined: 23 Dec 2003 Posts: 3717
Posted: 12-09-04 20:58pm
You aren't being "unfaithful." as long as
you are pleasing her when she also wants
it then you are fulfilling your duties as
a husband. You must have a very high sex
drive, but hey, enjoy it while you have
it! I don't think you have any kind of a
problem though.
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venky
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Joined: 13 Dec 2004 Posts: 2 Location: india
Re: Masturbation Posted: 12-13-04 00:59am
hubbcap
wrote:
i am a happily married 24
year old man and I have a problem. I
like sex way way more than my partner,
even if we have sex once a day I can and
do still masturbate five to six times a
day. I somehow feel that I am bieng
unfaithful to my partner but I can not
help it I feel as if I will explode if I
do not relieve myself. Do I have a
problem please
help.
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venky
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 13 Dec 2004 Posts: 2 Location: india
Masterbulation Posted: 12-13-04 01:07am
I am doing this habbit for past 4 years
and I have my sexial feeling is slowing
and my male organ size is reducing is
there any problem in doing this habbit any
suggestion foe slowing this habbit.
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doola
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 22 Oct 2004 Posts: 22 Location: south carolina
Posted: 12-13-04 06:28am
My husband usually masterbates nightly. I
think it is okay for a man to masterbate
if and that is a big if, he is pleasing
his partner. What a man fail to realize
is that most women has a harder time
getting to the state of orgasm . So the
point I am trying to make is, make sure
your wife is completely satified before
you start adventuring out own your own,
cause the general rule is "if you can't do
your job somebody else will. I don't want
to sound so harsh,but I does.T make any
since you both secretly using your hands
to pleasure yourselves.
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lauren_prk
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 06 Dec 2004 Posts: 253 Location: Wisconsin
Posted: 12-14-04 00:22am
I'm a female, but i'm the same way, not as
much as you, but usually once a day. I
don't think there is anything wrong with
it unless you are fantasising (sp?) about
somebody else (this doesn't include
celeberties or anything) but I know i'd be
upset if my husband masterbated while
thinking about my sister, best friend, or
his ex.
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john2001
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 15 Dec 2004 Posts: 6 Location: Altoona, Pa
Masturbation Can Be Wonderful Posted: 12-15-04 10:52am
Masturbation is very natural. Totally so.
I have a similar situation, guy.
Get this: my wife has no interest in sex
whatsoever. She never has sex with me
anymore. And I have an extremely high sex
drive. It is natural, I am doing nothing
wrong, and neither are you.
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Jazzmine
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 23 Jan 2005 Posts: 19
Posted: 01-23-05 15:53pm
Getting rid of pent up sexual energy is
what masturbation is for.
Here's the rule of thumb for married men
who masturbate: as long as you still have
enough left over for your wife you can
masturbate all you want.
But, and this is a big but......As you
grow older you may find yourself having
difficulty with regular intercourse if you
are a heavy masturbator. Add porn to the
mix and the chances that you may actually
come to prefer whacking off while watching
porn to having sex with your wife may
increase and this is a real danger.
Don't ever masturbate when the wife is
there, ready and willing.
If you ever start having problems getting
or staying hard with your wife, or start
having trouble ejaculating with her,
that's a sign that you have to cut way
back or even stop the masturbating and if
you watch porn, get rid of it.
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Stretch
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 24 Jan 2005 Posts: 8
Posted: 01-24-05 16:23pm
Absolutely nothing wrong with
masterbation, but 1st goal shoudl be to
please partner also. I like to
masterbate in front of her. She likes it
too. It arouses her, but I dated a girl
who said that it turned her off.
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Jazzmine
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 23 Jan 2005 Posts: 19
Posted: 01-25-05 11:06am
Depends how heavily you get into it and
what your "real" sex life is like. If
you don't have a steady girlfriend and you
are not getting regular sex and are using
the porn as your primary sexual outlet it
could become a problem when you do finally
have intercourse with a real girl.
What happens is you get so used to the
porn fantasy and the feel of your own hand
that being with a girl might seem
understimulating. No mouth or vagina
can compete with the super hard grip and
speed of your own hand. And most women
are nothing like the pornobabes you see in
the videos.
It probably wouldn't be something that
would happen to you now as you are at your
sexual peak. But as you grow older your
testosterone (sex hormone) levels begin to
drop (in your mid 20's or so) and you will
need more and more stimulation to achieve
orgasm. Now porn is heavy duty visual
stimulation and the orgasm you get with
masturbation is very intense. So in a
long term relationship say, when you are
in your 30's, real sex with the same
person over and over is nothing like the
porn where you have a different fantasy
every time if you want. This can cause
your mind/body to feel that intercourse or
oral sex just doesn't cut it, you're not
getting enough visual and physical
stimulation, and this can lead to problems
like losing your erection or not being
able to ejaculate.
Just follow the old rule: everything in
moderation.
