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hubbcap

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Masturbation
Posted: 12-09-04 18:14pm

I am a happily married 24 year old man and I have a problem. I like sex way way more than my partner, even if we have sex once a day I can and do still masturbate five to six times a day. I somehow feel that I am bieng unfaithful to my partner but I can not help it I feel as if I will explode if I do not relieve myself. Do I have a problem please help.
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exoticgem

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Posted: 12-09-04 18:52pm

I saw your heading while checking into the pregnancy forum. To answer your question I don't think you have a problem you just have a high sex drive. I've been the same way in my past relantionships with my boyfriends. I could have sex once or twice a day and still felt the need to "help myself" out during the day. And I don't think its being unfaithful to your partner, its better then going out and cheating on her right? The truth is some people just have higher sex drives then others and masterbating is just part of dealing with it. Take it from a woman i'd much rather have a guy I was seeing do what you're doing then going out and finding someone else to do it for him and i'm sure you're wife would feel the same way. Good luck.
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2ferano

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Posted: 12-09-04 20:58pm

You aren't being "unfaithful." as long as you are pleasing her when she also wants it then you are fulfilling your duties as a husband. You must have a very high sex drive, but hey, enjoy it while you have it! I don't think you have any kind of a problem though.
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venky

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Re: Masturbation
Posted: 12-13-04 00:59am

hubbcap wrote:
i am a happily married 24 year old man and I have a problem. I like sex way way more than my partner, even if we have sex once a day I can and do still masturbate five to six times a day. I somehow feel that I am bieng unfaithful to my partner but I can not help it I feel as if I will explode if I do not relieve myself. Do I have a problem please help.
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venky

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Location: india
Masterbulation
Posted: 12-13-04 01:07am

I am doing this habbit for past 4 years and I have my sexial feeling is slowing and my male organ size is reducing is there any problem in doing this habbit any suggestion foe slowing this habbit.
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doola

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Posted: 12-13-04 06:28am

My husband usually masterbates nightly. I think it is okay for a man to masterbate if and that is a big if, he is pleasing his partner. What a man fail to realize is that most women has a harder time getting to the state of orgasm . So the point I am trying to make is, make sure your wife is completely satified before you start adventuring out own your own, cause the general rule is "if you can't do your job somebody else will. I don't want to sound so harsh,but I does.T make any since you both secretly using your hands to pleasure yourselves.
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lauren_prk

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Joined: 06 Dec 2004
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Posted: 12-14-04 00:22am

I'm a female, but i'm the same way, not as much as you, but usually once a day. I don't think there is anything wrong with it unless you are fantasising (sp?) about somebody else (this doesn't include celeberties or anything) but I know i'd be upset if my husband masterbated while thinking about my sister, best friend, or his ex.
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john2001

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Masturbation Can Be Wonderful
Posted: 12-15-04 10:52am

Masturbation is very natural. Totally so. I have a similar situation, guy.
Get this: my wife has no interest in sex whatsoever. She never has sex with me anymore. And I have an extremely high sex drive. It is natural, I am doing nothing wrong, and neither are you.
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Jazzmine

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Posted: 01-23-05 15:53pm

Getting rid of pent up sexual energy is what masturbation is for.

Here's the rule of thumb for married men who masturbate: as long as you still have enough left over for your wife you can masturbate all you want.

But, and this is a big but......As you grow older you may find yourself having difficulty with regular intercourse if you are a heavy masturbator. Add porn to the mix and the chances that you may actually come to prefer whacking off while watching porn to having sex with your wife may increase and this is a real danger. Don't ever masturbate when the wife is there, ready and willing.

If you ever start having problems getting or staying hard with your wife, or start having trouble ejaculating with her, that's a sign that you have to cut way back or even stop the masturbating and if you watch porn, get rid of it.
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Stretch

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Posted: 01-24-05 16:23pm

Absolutely nothing wrong with masterbation, but 1st goal shoudl be to please partner also. I like to masterbate in front of her. She likes it too. It arouses her, but I dated a girl who said that it turned her off.
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Jazzmine

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Posted: 01-25-05 11:06am

Depends how heavily you get into it and what your "real" sex life is like. If you don't have a steady girlfriend and you are not getting regular sex and are using the porn as your primary sexual outlet it could become a problem when you do finally have intercourse with a real girl. What happens is you get so used to the porn fantasy and the feel of your own hand that being with a girl might seem understimulating. No mouth or vagina can compete with the super hard grip and speed of your own hand. And most women are nothing like the pornobabes you see in the videos.



It probably wouldn't be something that would happen to you now as you are at your sexual peak. But as you grow older your testosterone (sex hormone) levels begin to drop (in your mid 20's or so) and you will need more and more stimulation to achieve orgasm. Now porn is heavy duty visual stimulation and the orgasm you get with masturbation is very intense. So in a long term relationship say, when you are in your 30's, real sex with the same person over and over is nothing like the porn where you have a different fantasy every time if you want. This can cause your mind/body to feel that intercourse or oral sex just doesn't cut it, you're not getting enough visual and physical stimulation, and this can lead to problems like losing your erection or not being able to ejaculate.

Just follow the old rule: everything in moderation.
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