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lonelybabbymama
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Hey Guys I Think I Might Need a Lil Advice!!!!?!?!?!?
Posted: 12-09-04 14:19pm
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SamiNSunisMa
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Posted: 12-09-04 14:24pm
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Ok 1 u arent sure.. Settle down sweetie!
2 u answered ur own ?.... No abortion!
:d
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Newmommy23
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Posted: 12-09-04 14:37pm
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I know how you feel hun! I was dating a
guy for almost 3 months and then we broke
up. About 2 wks later I found out I was
pregnant! Well I told him and at first he
was saying how he was gonna be there and
all but now he wants nothing to do w/it!
I don't believe in abortion either. I am
17 wks and 1 day pregnant. Oh btw I am
23. I know it will be hard but it is what
I have to do!! I am the one who had sex
not this baby so I will take care of
him/her the best I can! You don't need a
man to raise a baby. There is also the
chose of adoption. How old are you? I
would not tell the new bf anything until u
take a test and know for sure! Goodluck
and if u need someone to talk to I am
here!
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BeckLyn
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Posted: 12-09-04 14:55pm
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Well I don't believe in abortion because I
view it as homicide. However, since it
is still legal it is your choice, and you
must go with your beliefs. But I think
you should def talk to a lot of people, do
some research-get a lot of info both ways
before deciding. Good luck. If you
really don't want to raise the baby by
your self (if you are preg) then have you
thought about giving the baby up for
adoption?
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lonelybabbymama
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Thanx
Posted: 12-09-04 15:34pm
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Hey wow guys thanx for your advice but no
I refuse to give it up for adoption I
agree with the other lonely babbymama I
had sex not the baby andi hav always said
if it results out of my actions I will
take responsiblity for it including this
!!! I am 17
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Newmommy23
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Posted: 12-09-04 15:37pm
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Well since your so young I hope you are
not pregnant but if you are it good that
you are willing to take care of your
responsibilities! Next time remember use
birth control and condoms so you won't be
so stressed out! Good luck!
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Tazzy D
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Posted: 12-09-04 16:32pm
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We are all here to try to help you. I
dont belive in abortions but it is always
the persons decisions. I was raised that
god isnt going to give you something that
you cant bare or handle.. Good luck and
if you need someone just let us know
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hubbcap
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to a Strong Woman
Posted: 12-09-04 17:32pm
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I think that the final choice is up to
you. I think that you should be honest
with the new boyfriend, if he truly loves
you that he will understand, please
believe this coming from a guy. And
bravo for not having an abortion.
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dkenna04
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Stay Strong!!!!
Posted: 12-09-04 18:28pm
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Hey sweetie, you are probably really
stressing out right now! But really the
first thing you need to do is calm down!
I know its hard and your mind is going
crazy, but before you can even start
worrying you need to take a pregnancy
test. It only takes a couple of min.
Whatever the results are then you can
begin to make som choices. If you are
pregnant, its a beautiful thing! I know
you are young, but just think there will
be something growing inside of you! And
believe me its the best feeling in the
world! Only you can deside what is
best!!! Just remember we are all here
for you!!! Let me know what the outcome
is...Okay..Everything will be okay!!!
Just dont forget to breathe!
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steen
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Posted: 12-09-04 20:54pm
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I had to vote no on that one. I have
nothing against abortions, but you already
stated that you have. Therefore,
abortion simply isn't for you.
Hence, it is time to seek other resources.
Look for programs that assist young
pregnant women, start looking into child
support rules, or even consider an
adoption if you don't want an abortion.
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lonelybabbymama
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Re: to a Strong Woman
Posted: 12-10-04 14:20pm
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| hubbcap
wrote: | | i think that the final
choice is up to you. I think that you
should be honest with the new boyfriend,
if he truly loves you that he will
understand, please believe this coming
from a guy. And bravo for not having an
abortion. |
welll I just met the new guy so he may
leave which is understandable and no I
am not going to take my baby daddy to
court my mom didnt need help with me I
dont need help with mine I took a
test last night it was positive I am going
monday to see a real doc and find out for
sure I am going to take on my own
responsibilities and god is with me !!!!!
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Newmommy23
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Posted: 12-10-04 14:22pm
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I think the father has a right to know!
Let him decide if he wants to be there!
It is not your choice!!
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Newmommy23
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Posted: 12-10-04 14:25pm
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Sorry if that was harsh! Congrats on your
pregnancy!!
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lonelybabbymama
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Posted: 12-10-04 14:31pm
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| newmommy23
wrote: | | sorry if that was harsh!
Congrats on your
pregnancy!! |
he told me when we were together that he
absolutely doesnot want another kid
!!!
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SamiNSunisMa
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Posted: 12-10-04 14:35pm
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Yes but its not right to not tell him!
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Newmommy23
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Posted: 12-10-04 14:48pm
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You should at least tell him and then if
decides to be an fool and flake it was him
not you! How are you going to explain to
your child when they ask where is daddy?
Well hunny I never told him about you? I
can tell my child your daddy decided he
didn't want to be here not I never told
him! It is up to you but just my advice.
You don't want your child to resent you!
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steen
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Posted: 12-10-04 21:52pm
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He is just as much involved in this.
Regardless of whether he wants to be
involved or not, when the child is born,
both of you have the duty to meet its
needs. If he tries to shrink out of
this, remember that he is not doing that
to you, but to your newborn.
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Nikki n Rudy
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Posted: 12-10-04 21:59pm
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Honestly hun, youd be a fool if you didn't
go for child support. Who cares what your
mom did and didnt do (good for her on
being able to without help). This someone
elses child, too. He helped make
him..Even though he said 'i dont want
another'. His ass should have worn a
condom regardless if your two were all
over each other like flies on poop. There
is always time in the heat of the moment
to prepare for certain things. I think he
should know about this child even if he
decides to stay out of. I agree with
newmommy. At least she can 'i told him
about you and he decided to stay away'.
Im sorry if i'm being harsh. But this
child needs all the love and support
he/she can get from both parents..Whether
he wants to be there or not. He can pay
for his doings without having to be there.
Times are changing and its getting more
expensive (i believe) to have a child.
Every little bit helps.
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lonelybabbymama
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PosrscheLvr
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Posted: 12-13-04 14:48pm
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Ok well I know I am one of the only people
here with this opinion. Abortion is not
wrong, nor is it right. It's an
individual choice. I have had friends who
have decided to keep children and not keep
children just the same for different
reasons and different circumstances. You
do need to do some soul searching and make
sure it is a choice you can live with. I
don't think it's right for anyone to tell
you they believe in it or they don't. It
really doesn't matter what anyone thinks.
You need to think and feel your way
through this one/
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