Is there a mod out there who's a little
lock happy? What's up with that? Some
of them I guess I sort of understand, but
then some of them i'm like why the hell is
this topic locked? I realize that this
place has become someone of a bi†chfest,
but I think some people are taking it a
bit too seriously. Let people say what
they have to say, otherwise what's the
point? I realize that some people think
criticism isn't support, but do you expect
us to congradulate 13-year-olds for
wanting to get pregnant, or for getting
pregnant? Most of the posts that become
controversial (which are usually about
extremely young girls who either want to,
or do, get pregnant on purpose) are
probably made up anyway. I'm not saying
all of them, but some of them. I know
some young girls who want to get pregnant
go around and say that they are just to
see what kind of reaction they can get out
of people. I'm all about supporting teen
pregnancy, seeing how i'm there myself,
but I will not support stupidity and
ignorance. We have to tell these girls
that we think that what they're doing is
wrong, otherwise they'll feel encouraged
and I don't want to be held resposible for
that. While we should be supporting teen
pregnancy, we should also be trying to
prevent it in cases where that is
possible.
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Kia
Supporter
Joined: 23 Jun 2004 Posts: 6594 Location: Planet Tampaxia,
Posted: 12-07-04 05:04am
I think you'll find that it's not to say
congratulate young girls for getting
pregnant but to offer the support based on
the fact that she is a pregnant person.
Basically, we can't tell them what is
right and what they should do only say
what our opinion is.
Some of the locked topics you will find
had you been here at the time had the
abusive posts removed before they were
locked.
I read most of them yesterday and some
posts were just plain nasty and it is a
good job they have gone.
Put yourself in their position...........
You would want support and advice (even if
you chose not to take it).
Besides is there any need to reply to a
post just to say stuff like "you stupid
cow you're too young, you're lying, you're
a promiscuous person" no there isn't.
We all have to remember that this a forum
to offer support to people regardless of
their situation, it is supposed to be
non-judgemental.
If you disagree with their principle (gee
I sure do, I could not comprehend being a
parent at 13 or even 18, I kinda got the
idea by 25) then just don't bother
replying.
Give them what you would have wanted. If
it turns out they were lying so what you
did the very best you could - feel good in
yourself.
I know kia, but I can't just not say
anything. I don't mind offering support,
but I won't support a 13 year old who
wants to get pregnant. If she already is
pregnant, then yes, I will lend a helping
hand, but someone needs to tell these
girls that just because they want a baby
doesn't mean they're ready.
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sarahsweet
Extremely EHEALTHy
Joined: 23 Oct 2004 Posts: 2485 Location: traverse city, michigan
Posted: 12-07-04 23:36pm
I agree with you lauren. Are we supposed
to act fake? How fake is it to pretend to
be happy about a 13 year old girl who
purposly got herself pregnant? They need
a swift kick in the butt, and since they
arent physically getting that at home, we
might as well type it to them online.
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peanutbuttertreasure
Extremely EHEALTHy
Joined: 09 Nov 2004 Posts: 1226 Location: Georgia
Posted: 12-07-04 23:49pm
Yes..I agree lauren
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Kia
Supporter
Joined: 23 Jun 2004 Posts: 6594 Location: Planet Tampaxia,
Posted: 12-08-04 07:00am
That was not what I said!
I said we have to offer support whatever
their descision.
We don't have to agree with what they are
doing.
I reply to some saying I really think you
should wait ... But i'll be here to offer
any advice I can, if they take it or leave
it that is up to them.
What I am saying is that we can advise
against young pregnancy nicely we don't
have to call names and stuff, we don't
have to say they are stupid or wrong, just
tell them that in your opinion you think
they should wait and why.
That is not being fake, and it doesn't
cost anything to be nice or civil at
least.
