justacanadiangirl
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What Do U Think?
Posted: 12-05-04 18:59pm
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Ok, I might as well fill u in a little
first on what has happened. About a month
again I missed my period (about 4 or 5
days after my bf dumped me) and after a
few days of not having it, I wondered if I
might be pregnant. So I tested a week
after and nothing....So I waited a while
longer and still no period, so I decided
to tell my ex that I might be pregnant.
At first he says to me "who else were u
sleeping with?" (but not phrased so
nicely) seeing as he's the only one i've
ever slept with, if i'm pregnant, it has
to be his. So we decided to be civil to
each other til I found out...But that
didn't last long.
A few days later he writes me saying "do u
know yet? Why did u do this to me if u
don't even know?" and me being in the
worst mood at the time says back to him
"oh, that's right, i'm sorry, i'm sure
this is so stressful....For u." (i'm very
sarcastic a lot of the time, especially
when i'm mad) so I told him "u have been
worrying about it for 2 days, I have been
worrying about it for 2 weeks! Let me
know when ur as stressed as I am!" well he
didn't like that very much, and he says to
me "fine, don't ever contact me again. I
don't want to ever hear from u again."
which is fine with me, he's a jerk, good
riddance. Annnyways.... Last night I got
an e-mail from him saying this:
"some news would be nice.Eather you have
gone and don't know yet,you haven't
gone,or you know. I 'd like some
information."
so what do u think I should do? Should I
write back to him and tell him I still
don't know for sure or should I make him
wait, suffer for his choice? I don't hate
a lot of ppl, but I have no more pleasant
feelings for him. If I am pregnant I
don't want him to be able to take my
baby... He's not fit to.
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sarahsweet
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Location: traverse city, michigan
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Posted: 12-05-04 19:02pm
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I would wait to tell him until you find
out forsure...But I still think you have
nothing to worry about! I dont think you
are preggers.....
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mommax3
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Location: Virginia
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Posted: 12-05-04 19:02pm
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I say wait only because he told you not to
contact him again, and you respected his
wishes, and then when he decided he want
some info, he didn't go about it very
nicely... Ya know?
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justacanadiangirl
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Posted: 12-05-04 19:17pm
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| mommax3
wrote: | | i say wait only because he
told you not to contact him again, and you
respected his wishes, and then when he
decided he want some info, he didn't go
about it very nicely... Ya
know? |
yeah that's what I was thinking. He
definitely needs to learn how to ask for
things politely.
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Tazzy D
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Posted: 12-05-04 19:23pm
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| mommax3
wrote: | | i say wait only because he
told you not to contact him again, and you
respected his wishes, and then when he
decided he want some info, he didn't go
about it very nicely... Ya
know? |
i second that right now I wouldnt even
reply to his email 1. Becuz you dont
know yet and 2. Tell him when you are
ready not when he demands to know.
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l2at24
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Posted: 12-05-04 19:23pm
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I say tell him if/when you find out.
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Megn06
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Joined: 03 Nov 2004
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Location: St. Louis
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Posted: 12-05-04 19:27pm
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I think you should wait until you know for
sure and if you decide to tell him then
but if you don't want to chance him taking
the baby then if you are tell him you are
not. I know it is a little dishonest but
maybe that would be for the best.
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jillie81
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Posted: 12-05-04 19:28pm
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Make him wait!!! He's not being polite,
he's demanding and putting you under more
stress, bugger him, he can wait until you
either know for sure or you're ready to
tell him.
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justacanadiangirl
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Posted: 12-05-04 19:29pm
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I already deleted the e-mail. I am so mad
at him, I don't even want to look at his
name in my inbox. Just when I saw it I
was surprised how much anger filled me....
And I don't know why, but he made me want
to cry  I hate
that....
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justacanadiangirl
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Posted: 12-05-04 19:32pm
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| megn06
wrote: | | i think you should wait
until you know for sure and if you decide
to tell him then but if you don't want to
chance him taking the baby then if you are
tell him you are not. I know it is a
little dishonest but maybe that would be
for the best. |
that's what I was thinking  plus, this way, he
will always wonder. But I don't feel
guilty about doing this. It's his fault.
He said he didn't want to know.
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Tazzy D
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Posted: 12-05-04 19:33pm
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It will be okay hun just take care of
yourself right now and think of you and no
one else until you find out
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Megn06
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Joined: 03 Nov 2004
Posts: 55
Location: St. Louis
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Posted: 12-05-04 19:35pm
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I hope you find out soon and don't let him
bother you just ignore it and take care of
yourself
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justacanadiangirl
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Posted: 12-05-04 20:05pm
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Thanks u guys it's great to hear
ur opinions. And I think ur right. I
should ignore him for the time being and
until I find out for sure, i'm not telling
him anything. Thanks again *hugs*
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Megn06
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 03 Nov 2004
Posts: 55
Location: St. Louis
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Posted: 12-05-04 22:26pm
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I just found out I am kinda going through
the same thing. I think I am pregnant and
my ex and I had decided to be nice and get
along and possibly become friends in the
future and now he calls me bragging that
he already had sex with his new girlfriend
and bragging about how great she was in
bed. If you ever need to call im me or
email me
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justacanadiangirl
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Posted: 12-05-04 22:55pm
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Ok, here's an update... My ex added me to
his msn... And demanded answers.... I
was being civil to him for a while, we
were being nice to each other for a
change...Then he goes and says the worst
things he could possibly say, the things
he knows would get to me, and I hate to
admit, but he's made me cry... I hate
that. After that I told him to f-off and
that he could now worry for the rest of
his life for all I care. I deleted him,
and I never plan to talk to him again.
 I can't believe
i'm crying because of him....I hate him so
much... But thanks for all ur advice
ladies. *hugs*
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justacanadiangirl
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Posted: 12-06-04 01:50am
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Why do men have to be so cruel sometimes?
It seems like they know exactly what to
say to make us hurt. Do they get taught
that or something? I mean, .C.O.M.E.
O.N!!!  I think
i'll go with out dating for a while...
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dreaa
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 21 Nov 2004
Posts: 206
Location: california
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JohnsWifey
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Location: Milwaukee, wi
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Posted: 12-06-04 14:22pm
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I think u should tell him when u find out
for sure but dont keep it from him no
longer than that...He at least has the
right to know even though you guys are not
together anymore...
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l2at24
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Posted: 12-06-04 14:24pm
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sorry
girl. :big hugs:
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justacanadiangirl
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Posted: 12-06-04 14:39pm
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| johnswifey
wrote: | | i think u should tell him
when u find out for sure but dont keep it
from him no longer than that...He at least
has the right to know even though you guys
are not together
anymore... |
he doesn't want to know. When he started
saying all those awful things, I told him
that he was ruining his chance at ever
knowing, and he said he didn't care. I
told him what I knew already before he
started saying stuff... So he doesn't
care anymore.
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