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what do u think i should do?
tell him
make him wait (if i tell him at all)
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Q: What Do U Think?
asked by: justacanadiangirl on December 5th, 2004
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Ok, I might as well fill u in a little first on what has happened. About a month again I missed my period (about 4 or 5 days after my bf dumped me) and after a few days of not having it, I wondered if I might be pregnant. So I tested a week after and nothing....So I waited a while longer and still no period, so I decided to tell my ex that I might be pregnant. At first he says to me "who else were u sleeping with?" (but not phrased so nicely) seeing as he's the only one i've ever slept with, if i'm pregnant, it has to be his. So we decided to be civil to each other til I found out...But that didn't last long.

A few days later he writes me saying "do u know yet? Why did u do this to me if u don't even know?" and me being in the worst mood at the time says back to him "oh, that's right, i'm sorry, i'm sure this is so stressful....For u." (i'm very sarcastic a lot of the time, especially when i'm mad) so I told him "u have been worrying about it for 2 days, I have been worrying about it for 2 weeks! Let me know when ur as stressed as I am!" well he didn't like that very much, and he says to me "fine, don't ever contact me again. I don't want to ever hear from u again." which is fine with me, he's a jerk, good riddance. Annnyways.... Last night I got an e-mail from him saying this:

"some news would be nice.Eather you have gone and don't know yet,you haven't gone,or you know. I 'd like some information."

so what do u think I should do? Should I write back to him and tell him I still don't know for sure or should I make him wait, suffer for his choice? I don't hate a lot of ppl, but I have no more pleasant feelings for him. If I am pregnant I don't want him to be able to take my baby... He's not fit to.
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sarahsweet
replied on December 5th, 2004
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I would wait to tell him until you find out forsure...But I still think you have nothing to worry about! I dont think you are preggers.....
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mommax3
replied on December 5th, 2004
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I say wait only because he told you not to contact him again, and you respected his wishes, and then when he decided he want some info, he didn't go about it very nicely... Ya know?
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justacanadiangirl
replied on December 5th, 2004
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mommax3 wrote:
i say wait only because he told you not to contact him again, and you respected his wishes, and then when he decided he want some info, he didn't go about it very nicely... Ya know?


yeah that's what I was thinking. He definitely needs to learn how to ask for things politely.
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Tazzy D
replied on December 5th, 2004
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mommax3 wrote:
i say wait only because he told you not to contact him again, and you respected his wishes, and then when he decided he want some info, he didn't go about it very nicely... Ya know?


i second that right now I wouldnt even reply to his email 1. Becuz you dont know yet and 2. Tell him when you are ready not when he demands to know.
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l2at24
replied on December 5th, 2004
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I say tell him if/when you find out.
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Megn06
replied on December 5th, 2004
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I think you should wait until you know for sure and if you decide to tell him then but if you don't want to chance him taking the baby then if you are tell him you are not. I know it is a little dishonest but maybe that would be for the best.
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jillie81
replied on December 5th, 2004
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Make him wait!!! He's not being polite, he's demanding and putting you under more stress, bugger him, he can wait until you either know for sure or you're ready to tell him.
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justacanadiangirl
replied on December 5th, 2004
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I already deleted the e-mail. I am so mad at him, I don't even want to look at his name in my inbox. Just when I saw it I was surprised how much anger filled me.... And I don't know why, but he made me want to cry Crying or Very sad I hate that....
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justacanadiangirl
replied on December 5th, 2004
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megn06 wrote:
i think you should wait until you know for sure and if you decide to tell him then but if you don't want to chance him taking the baby then if you are tell him you are not. I know it is a little dishonest but maybe that would be for the best.


that's what I was thinking Smile plus, this way, he will always wonder. But I don't feel guilty about doing this. It's his fault. He said he didn't want to know.
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Tazzy D
replied on December 5th, 2004
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It will be okay hun just take care of yourself right now and think of you and no one else until you find out
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Megn06
replied on December 5th, 2004
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I hope you find out soon and don't let him bother you just ignore it and take care of yourself
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justacanadiangirl
replied on December 5th, 2004
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Thanks u guys Smile it's great to hear ur opinions. And I think ur right. I should ignore him for the time being and until I find out for sure, i'm not telling him anything. Thanks again Smile *hugs*
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Megn06
replied on December 5th, 2004
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I just found out I am kinda going through the same thing. I think I am pregnant and my ex and I had decided to be nice and get along and possibly become friends in the future and now he calls me bragging that he already had sex with his new girlfriend and bragging about how great she was in bed. If you ever need to call im me or email me
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justacanadiangirl
replied on December 5th, 2004
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Ok, here's an update... My ex added me to his msn... And demanded answers.... I was being civil to him for a while, we were being nice to each other for a change...Then he goes and says the worst things he could possibly say, the things he knows would get to me, and I hate to admit, but he's made me cry... I hate that. After that I told him to f-off and that he could now worry for the rest of his life for all I care. I deleted him, and I never plan to talk to him again. Mad I can't believe i'm crying because of him....I hate him so much... But thanks for all ur advice ladies. *hugs*
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justacanadiangirl
replied on December 6th, 2004
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Why do men have to be so cruel sometimes? It seems like they know exactly what to say to make us hurt. Do they get taught that or something? I mean, .C.O.M.E. O.N!!! Evil or Very Mad I think i'll go with out dating for a while...
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dreaa
replied on December 6th, 2004
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Sad
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JohnsWifey
replied on December 6th, 2004
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I think u should tell him when u find out for sure but dont keep it from him no longer than that...He at least has the right to know even though you guys are not together anymore...
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l2at24
replied on December 6th, 2004
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Crying or Very sad sorry girl. :big hugs:
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justacanadiangirl
replied on December 6th, 2004
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johnswifey wrote:
i think u should tell him when u find out for sure but dont keep it from him no longer than that...He at least has the right to know even though you guys are not together anymore...


he doesn't want to know. When he started saying all those awful things, I told him that he was ruining his chance at ever knowing, and he said he didn't care. I told him what I knew already before he started saying stuff... So he doesn't care anymore.
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