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I think that most teenage moms, particularly those who haven't graduated high school, cannot do a better job than a mother that has. There are a lot of moms that are in their 30s, 40s and not doing a good job. But still the odds are definitely in favor for the older moms.

Yes, I agree

Very very true! Payton-it is not that we dont believe in teen mothers. There are a lot of young girls here to whom we post to everyday that are young and are having or already have babies. They work their a$$es off to give their children and unborn children what they can offer at this time. However, when we see posts about young girls wanting to get pregnant just because they want a child for themselves, it is not that we dont believe in the certain individual, it is that we dont believe that what she is doing is very responsible, and like I have said plenty of times, down right selfish.

You aren't only your mother's child as we all will forever be
you are still her baby
if she wanted to give that up and tell you to go for it, what kind of message would that send to you
like I said b4
you want a baby so bad, what if your little girl decided she wanted to quit being your baby girl so early?
Please do not rob your mother or father of the years that she has to look forward to between now and when you will both be ready to welcome a new one into the family

Ok the more life experience you have techincally the better - right?????


However some teen mom's are much better than older moms.

It's not that people don't believe in teen moms at all but that they want teens to have the freedom they can.

Also you body is still developing, pregnancy at a young age can and will put exteme stress on your bones and joints, you are unlikey to have a job or income to support yourself and child either.

It is harder to finish school later, you will keep meaning to go back but things like looking after kids gets in the way.

A womans body continues developing untilaround 21 years of age, puberty only kicks in around 12-13 so why not wait until your body is fully developed?

I think teenage moms can do just a good of a job as long as they are responsible and dedicated to try there best

Mayer-i agree, and that is usually for the most part how it works out. However, most of them did not purpusoly get themselves pregnant just because they wanted to play for a little while

I'm not sure if I believe in teenage mothers, I think thier existance is a conspiracy kept secret by the government, like aliens.

I believe that they can make it through, I dont believe that they can offer their child what an older, stable person can

I guess u could say I had baby fever, after 2 miscarriages and I was using drugs heavily, but I wasnt ready... I wasnt ready for my next miscarriage or even for my son until I was forced into treatment, I know you may not u drugs payton, but still u give everything up. No amount of babysitting, "raising" siblings or neices and nephews can ever prepare u!

Exactly, and in most cases like yours, when the real deal comes, you regret it.

dont get me wrong, I love sami sooo much, but I wasn't ready!

Im not saying that at all! Im saying, when girls try their hardest to get pregnant, they most likely end up regretting it

"however some teen mom's are much better than older moms.", kia briezzze

exactly....Thats sooo tru and at least sum1 understands where we r coming frm...And y do u guys tthink meand payton are the same person

she doesn't mean it is a good idea, she is just saying that there are older people that never grew up and they became parents, unfortunatley for their child
that doesn't mean she is telling you to go ut and get pregnant



because there are too many similarities with the two of you, you both joined at the same time from the same place and you sure didn't act like you knew each other in the ohter topic you posted. Than all of a sudden you did in that same one, you both have the names you want for your girls as your username and they are layed out in the same format, maybe you have a split personality or something....

It is not that people do not believe you can be a good young mother.This advice is coming from some young mothers themselves.They are telling you how difficult it is to be a teen mother.My mom was 17 when she had my oldest sister and her life was so very hard.She had a 10th grade education and her marriage did not last.She raised 3 children on her own.She waited tables and tended bar,all she knew how to do.We made it by the skin of our teeth some months.She did without a decent winter coat so my sisters and I would have warm coats.She is a great mom,but she says that she wished she could have waited until she was older to have kids.My mom is retired now,but still works part-time to supplement her income.All those years of waitressing did not provide her with much for her later years.Please, at least finish high school before you decide to have children.You will not regret your education.Good luck to you.Patty

First, how do we define "good"? "good" and "bad" are subjective terms. We each have our own interpretation of these words and we each have our own ideas about what a "good" mother is. Therefore, discussing whether or not young women make "good" mother's is slightly silly as we will all have our own definition of "good". Also, you cannot generalize an entire group under one heading or another as there is a great propensity for variations within that group. You cannot say that all teen or young mother's are "good" mother's, you must instead view each young woman alone and not lump them all into the same category.

Secondly, given the facts and the world we live in today, it is much, much harder to be a young mother than it is for a woman who is older and more experienced. This is not to say that all young mother's are "bad" mother's it is only stating the fact that they encounter more problems due to their age and inexperience.

Thirdly, if you are doing the absolute best for your child and/or children no matter what your age, then why do you care what other people think? You know you are doing the best you can so whatever anyone else says is irrelevant.

Fourthly, each mother finds unique difficulties to her situation. The difficulties you face are not the same as another woman are facing. So comparing yourself to other women is pointless in this matter.

In my personal opinion, I do believe it is better to wait to have children. I am 22 and am still waiting to have children because now is not the right time. Does this mean that I think you were wrong for having children at a younger age? No. Does this mean I think you will make a "bad" mother? No. It only means that I can see the difficulties you are facing and know that it is not for me.

Exactly, no one ever even said anything about being a good or bad mother anyway, so maybe we should say it is normally better for a more experienced .W.O.M.A.N to be a mother than an inexperienced teenaged girl