I Am So Scared!!!!

Payton-i have replied to a lot of your posts, and like I told you before, the reason why your parents would be upset is because they know that you are not old enough to have a baby and you need some growing up to do before you decided to bring another life into this world. Im sorry if this is not what you want to hear, but you are 14, you are way too young girl. Reconsider this, please, for the life of your future child.

Yes..14 is way too yound girl... You need to wait. I know ur prolly dealing with a bad case of baby fever..I've gone through a major bit of it myself lately...And i'm 16..But I would not bring a child into this world until I could take care of myself...Get married...Live on my own..Pay for my bills..Have a good job...Family support. I want to wait until I can tell my parents.. "guess what, ur gonna be grandparents" and them to cry happy because they are gonna be grandparents at a good time..And their grandchilds parents are married..And have set a good foundation for their child.. Instead of having a child now..And them crying because thwy are dissapointed in me


plz wait kiddo

Sweetie when I was 15 my friend (much older friend, she was 35 at the time) had a baby... And I wanted so badly to have a baby of my own, but I didn't act on that. I knew that I couldn't get a job to support my baby, I couldn't live on my own. And I couldn't give the baby everything he/she would need. At 14, u can't drive, can't work, how do u suppose u are going to care for this baby? It's not like playing house, u can't just stop after a while. A baby is for life... I think u should wait a few years until u have a good job, a good life and a good relationship to bring a baby into this world. It wouldn't be fair for u to do it now just because u want a baby. If that was the case, I would have about 5 by now... Don't rush things. U will have kids when it's ur time. And 14 is not the time.

When I was young the thought of having a baby crossed my mind. "crossed" I never tried to conceive or anything like that. Heck I was a virgin until I was 16 and by the time I was 18 had only had sex 4 times so I would have really had to try those four times. But anyway, I really, really wanted a baby. I don't know why, I just did. But, I thought about it and decided definately no and that was that. Well, when I got older and started taking phsycology classes I learned that a lot of teenage girls want babies. There were various reasons for it, but the bottom line was that they really didn't want the baby and the responsibilities that come with it, rather they wanted someone that loved and depended on them. Or they wanted the joys that come along with being a mother, the attention, etc. Therefore, they deep down wanted a baby for the above reasons or for others.
But then there are women who want babies and that is all they want out of life. They don't want college a career or anything else, just children. Then some want college, career and children. It just all depends on the person.
Anyway, my point being, you want a child now, okay. You may keep that viewpoint the rest of your life. But, you may not. If you have a child now, then you will be a mother for the rest of your life. For at least the next 18 years every decision you make will not be for you, but for you and the baby. I am not saying that a 14 year old girl cannot be a great mother, because there are those out there who are. What I am saying is to be true to yourself and to a baby, wait. If possible, wait. You have many childbearing years ahead of you! If you still want a baby this badly at 18,19,20 or whatever, then go for it! I am so glad I held off because now I don't even want children. My life is too spontaneous and exciting and just plain wonderful. Someday I may change my mind and if I do I will have children, but had I gotten pregnant at 14, I wouldn't have that choice now. So, just think things through and try to wait. Good luck.

I have wanted a baby sence I was 10. I have always been with babies, and have always loved them. I have always offered to take care of my baby cousins when their parents went out with the rest of the family. I know that I would have to be a mother for the rest of my life, but that is something I have always felt passionate about is having a baby. I know I would make a good mother, because I am passionate about newborns, and I have felt this way my whole life, I am just so confussed. I guess I am just having a case of baby fever, but what happens if it doesnt go away?

Payton~i know how you feel cuz im 13 and I want a kid soo much...And I think that if you think that you can take kare of a kid..Then you go ahead and do it...Bcuz wen I turn 14 or 15 im having one..And I know my parents would be soooo mad and everything and they would prob kik me out but I really dont kare...I have always wanted a kid since I can remeber and I always said im gonna start a family early...But just dont regret anyrhing u do...And u know who this is..I love u payton....And we could raise our kids 2gether lol....U know what im talking bout well I love u lol
frm arianna capri

Simple, you wait it out! Like I said you may stay passionate about having a child forever and that's cool, but the fact is you don't know that yet. And even if you do, then think about this. Wouldn't you rather (since you want a baby so bad) want the absolute best for your baby? Wouldn't you want your baby having a mother who at least graduated high school, got married to a great man, had a good job and was financially ready to have a baby? No, it doesn't always happen this way and still turns out just fine, but when given the choice (which you have!) this is what you should aim for. If the baby fever doesn't go away then like five or ten years from now, have a baby. Just because you want something (especially something as important as a baby) doesn't mean you have to have it right now, ya know?
Anyway, good luck to you. Just remember there is a huge difference between watching other people's babies and having your own.

Of course I would want the best for my baby!!! I just love the thought of being a mother and supporting a baby.

I know honey. I just am trying to make you think of these things that I know you care about to stop you from having a baby right now, and making you want to wait. There is nothing wrong with wanting to be a mother! Nothing at all. I just want you to wait until you are absolutely sure and ready for it, that's all.

I didnt mean to sound health forum, if I did I am so sorry!!!! I know that my friends would support me and my mom would help me, but if I became pregnant do you think my parents would hate me?

No, you didn't! I just wanted to make sure that you didn't take me that way either! Lol. It's all good!

Ok good. I am glad I found this site, because I was in way over my head. Even though I still want a baby I need to reliaze that I have my whole life ahead of me. Listen to these girls they know what they are talking about, they helped and they can help you with a hug reality check.

Hey yea im 13 and im ready 4 a baby but ill talk to u 2morrow

You guys say you can support a baby.. Technically you can't because you can't even support yourselves yet. You say your ready for a baby, maybe you think you personally are but would your family be? Its not just you. Its your parents insurance and thier finances. Its your and the babies doctor and hospital bills and its thier money. It might be your baby but it is your parents expenses. Clothes, formula, pediatricians. Its not cheap and its not easy and its not all fun.
If your responsible and mature enough for a baby, you would be responsible and mature enough to know now is not the best time for you and wouldn't be the best time to bring a baby into the picture. If you feel like your responsible enough you would also feel your responsible enough to wait.

These ladies talk a lot of wisdom... When I was 14.. I wanted a baby... But due to different circumstances and actions, I fell pregnant for the wrong reasons at the wrong time. And I realized "how am I going to support this child???"
baby-sitting, daycare, nothing compares to the job of a mom. A mom is a 24/7 job. 3am, 9pm, 1am.. Anytime of day that baby needs you, you need to be there. You may feel "passionate" about newborns... But what about the terrible twos toddlers?? Trashing your house and ripping up things, throwing temper tantrums. Sure babies are cute, everyone loves babies! But they're not babies for long... And you have to realize they depend on you for everything!

Just because you "think" you can raise a baby, doesnt mean you can and doesn't give you the right to bring a baby into this world.

Your post is called "i am so scared!". If you are "so scared" then why are you even considering having a baby? I dont udnerstand

To payton and arianna, you say you want a baby.
Wanting a baby is .A.L.O.T. Different then wanting to be a parent
are u ready to be a parent for the rest of your life? Because being a parent is forever.
Or do you just crave being able to hold a little baby and call it your own and show it off?
Think about that.

They dont stay babies forever, that is true

To quote jess........ You need to want to be a parent not just think you want a baby.

Parenting lasts like 18years - that's a hel| of a long time. Especially when they are stroppy argumentative teenagers lol