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payton_jewles Experienced User
December 4th, 2004
I want a baby so bad! The only thing stopping me is how my family will responed. I am scared that if I become pregnant, that my family will regect me and my baby. I am 14 years old and I have always wanted a baby, and I always babysit and take care of my baby cousins, and I am really good with babies. Does anyone share the same thoughts?? I really need to talk to someone about this. I want a baby, but I don't want to loose my family. Does anyone understand what I mean? Please write your opinions. Thanks
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sarahsweet
replied December 4th, 2004
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Maybe your family wont be supportive because they know that you are way too young to have a baby and that you have much more life to live. Sure babies are fun, but they arent babies forever. I think you are confused.
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JohnsWifey
replied December 4th, 2004
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Sweetie you are still a baby yourself....U are only 14...U arent even old enough to get a job so how will you support this child??? And let me tell you something....Taking care of someone elses kids is nothing like taking care of your own....U only watch them for periods of time....When u have your own, that is a 24/7 job....U dont get any sleep and you are cranky and you cant go out and have fun anymore....You arent really even old enough to do anything to fun yet....Wat are you gonna do when u turn 18 and 21 and u can really start having fun but you cant because u have a child with no babysitter...You need to think about all the effects a baby will have on you....I really think you should wait and finish school and have fun a little while before you thinking about giving your life to someone else....Im not tryin to sound rude or anything im just giving you the facts sweetie....
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sarahsweet
replied December 4th, 2004
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I totally agree. Its not like a doll where you can put it away in the closet when your done. I hope you reconsider this.
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kristynchase
replied December 4th, 2004
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Having a baby isnt just all fun and games they are a human being like they said you cant even get a job right now to support your baby and your family will have to. You dont want to miss out on your teenage years. I want to have a baby and I am 19 and I still think that I would be to young. The best advice is right now dont try to have a baby.
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Tazzy D
replied December 4th, 2004
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Re: I Want to Have a Baby, But I Am Scared About the Family!
payton_jewles wrote:
i want a baby so bad! The only thing stopping me is how my family will responed. I am scared that if I become pregnant, that my family will regect me and my baby. I am 14 years old and I have always wanted a baby, and I always babysit and take care of my baby cousins, and I am really good with babies. Does anyone share the same thoughts?? I really need to talk to someone about this. I want a baby, but I don't want to loose my family. Does anyone understand what I mean? Please write your opinions. Thanks



i understand where you are coming from and how you feel.. It is natural to want a child, but you need to look at alot of things.1. How will I support my child 2. Where will I live can I afford a place for us to live on my own, becuz im making a decision as if im an adult so I should be ready to live as an adult 3. Can I feed us.. And what if my baby gets sick can I afford ins. 4. Can I afford clothes for myself and the baby... There is alot more than just making a baby and trying to be a mom. Hun wait for a whle get some education a nice ob maybe some college or trade. Get your own place then have a family... I hope this doesnt sound mean but in your case you are not pregnant now so try to make the best choices for your life
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PattyV
replied December 4th, 2004
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Sweetie,stay in school and educate yourself.You will have time for having babies later.An education will always help you support a family and allow you to see what the world has to offer you.If you have a baby so soon,you will not have the opportunity to experience many things that will help you to be a well rounded person.No amount of babysitting can prepare you for children of your own.It is a full time job and you do not get a break for 20 or so years.Use all the energy you are spending on wanting a baby to educate yourself and be the best person you can be.In 10 years,you will have something to offer that child.A junior high school education will not get you very far in the world.Please rethink your plan.Patty
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payton_jewles
replied December 5th, 2004
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I have always been passionate about having a baby, because I am passionate about children. I am wrong to feel this way?
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Tazzy D
replied December 5th, 2004
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payton_jewles wrote:
i have always been passionate about having a baby, because I am passionate about children. I am wrong to feel this way?




your not wrong for wanting a baby... And I understand your passion, but it is for all the wrong reasons right now to try if you are not all ready pregnant. I hope you understand
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payton_jewles
replied December 5th, 2004
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I am a little confussed. What do you mean I want a baby for all the wrong reasons?
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kristynchase
replied December 5th, 2004
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I think what she is trying to say is that there is more to being a mom then what you think. You need to take on all of the duties of being a mother. Dont bring a child into this world if you cant take care of it properly. I bet you would make a great mother.. But right now is not the best time for you right now. Please reconsider your choice. Enjoy your teenage years while you can. Just think when all of your friends want to go out when they are about 18 and you cant because you are stuck without a babysitter. Do you want to miss out on what your friends are doing enjoy your teenage years while you can cause they will be gone before you know it.
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payton_jewles
replied December 5th, 2004
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I love babies and I have been around them all my life and I have taken care of them sence I was 10 or 9. If I were to concieve do you think my baby would have problems during labor?
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kristynchase
replied December 5th, 2004
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I think what she is trying to say is that there is more to being a mom then what you think. You need to take on all of the duties of being a mother. Dont bring a child into this world if you cant take care of it properly. I bet you would make a great mother.. But right now is not the best time for you right now. Please reconsider your choice. Enjoy your teenage years while you can. Just think when all of your friends want to go out when they are about 18 and you cant because you are stuck without a babysitter. Do you want to miss out on what your friends are doing enjoy your teenage years while you can cause they will be gone before you know it.
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kristynchase
replied December 5th, 2004
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There is a chance that you would... Because you are young.. Please reconsider your choice...
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payton_jewles
replied December 5th, 2004
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I still want a baby really bad. Is that ok? Thanks for all your help.
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kristynchase
replied December 5th, 2004
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I think you really need to think about it yeah you took care of your cousins but they went home after you were done there is no going back once you do I advise you strongly not to.... Mad
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l2at24
replied December 5th, 2004
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Everyone has already said enough. I will just say I hope everything works out for you.
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kristynchase
replied December 5th, 2004
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Yeah that is right it is your choice hopefully everything goes well with you.. Good luck with whatever you do
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manytravels
replied December 5th, 2004
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If you were mature enough to be ready for a baby you would be mature enough to know you need to wait
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bluebubble888
replied December 5th, 2004
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I think you need to think of some things before you go through with any kind of decision.....Ask yourself these questions...

1. Who's is going to support the child? (it's not fair for your parents to be resbonsible for this)
2.Will there be a father in their lives?
3.How will you pay for insurance for yourself and the baby?
4. Do you live on your own and pay for your own things?
5. Do you have a car that you can tranport yourself in and a drivers liscense?
6.What about your education.


Babysitting is totally different from the real deal!
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