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payton_jewles
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Location: California
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I Want to Have a Baby, But I Am Scared About the Family!
Posted: 12-04-04 22:41pm
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I want a baby so bad! The only thing
stopping me is how my family will
responed. I am scared that if I become
pregnant, that my family will regect me
and my baby. I am 14 years old and I have
always wanted a baby, and I always babysit
and take care of my baby cousins, and I am
really good with babies. Does anyone
share the same thoughts?? I really need
to talk to someone about this. I want a
baby, but I don't want to loose my family.
Does anyone understand what I mean?
Please write your opinions. Thanks
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sarahsweet
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Joined: 23 Oct 2004
Posts: 2485
Location: traverse city, michigan
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Posted: 12-04-04 22:49pm
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Maybe your family wont be supportive
because they know that you are way too
young to have a baby and that you have
much more life to live. Sure babies are
fun, but they arent babies forever. I
think you are confused.
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JohnsWifey
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Joined: 01 Nov 2004
Posts: 117
Location: Milwaukee, wi
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Posted: 12-04-04 23:04pm
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Sweetie you are still a baby yourself....U
are only 14...U arent even old enough to
get a job so how will you support this
child??? And let me tell you
something....Taking care of someone elses
kids is nothing like taking care of your
own....U only watch them for periods of
time....When u have your own, that is a
24/7 job....U dont get any sleep and you
are cranky and you cant go out and have
fun anymore....You arent really even old
enough to do anything to fun yet....Wat
are you gonna do when u turn 18 and 21 and
u can really start having fun but you cant
because u have a child with no
babysitter...You need to think about all
the effects a baby will have on you....I
really think you should wait and finish
school and have fun a little while before
you thinking about giving your life to
someone else....Im not tryin to sound rude
or anything im just giving you the facts
sweetie....
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sarahsweet
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Joined: 23 Oct 2004
Posts: 2485
Location: traverse city, michigan
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Posted: 12-04-04 23:07pm
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I totally agree. Its not like a doll
where you can put it away in the closet
when your done. I hope you reconsider
this.
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kristynchase
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 03 Nov 2004
Posts: 179
Location: Michigan
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Posted: 12-04-04 23:13pm
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Having a baby isnt just all fun and games
they are a human being like they said you
cant even get a job right now to support
your baby and your family will have to.
You dont want to miss out on your teenage
years. I want to have a baby and I am 19
and I still think that I would be to
young. The best advice is right now dont
try to have a baby.
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Tazzy D
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Joined: 30 Oct 2004
Posts: 3718
Location: , va
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Re: I Want to Have a Baby, But I Am Scared About the Family!
Posted: 12-04-04 23:21pm
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| payton_jewles
wrote: | | i want a baby so bad! The
only thing stopping me is how my family
will responed. I am scared that if I
become pregnant, that my family will
regect me and my baby. I am 14 years old
and I have always wanted a baby, and I
always babysit and take care of my baby
cousins, and I am really good with babies.
Does anyone share the same thoughts??
I really need to talk to someone about
this. I want a baby, but I don't want to
loose my family. Does anyone understand
what I mean? Please write your opinions.
Thanks |
i understand where you are coming from and
how you feel.. It is natural to want a
child, but you need to look at alot of
things.1. How will I support my child 2.
Where will I live can I afford a place for
us to live on my own, becuz im making a
decision as if im an adult so I should be
ready to live as an adult 3. Can I feed
us.. And what if my baby gets sick can I
afford ins. 4. Can I afford clothes for
myself and the baby... There is alot more
than just making a baby and trying to be a
mom. Hun wait for a whle get some
education a nice ob maybe some college or
trade. Get your own place then have a
family... I hope this doesnt sound mean
but in your case you are not pregnant now
so try to make the best choices for your
life
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PattyV
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Location: Chicago area
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Posted: 12-04-04 23:21pm
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Sweetie,stay in school and educate
yourself.You will have time for having
babies later.An education will always help
you support a family and allow you to see
what the world has to offer you.If you
have a baby so soon,you will not have the
opportunity to experience many things that
will help you to be a well rounded
person.No amount of babysitting can
prepare you for children of your own.It is
a full time job and you do not get a break
for 20 or so years.Use all the energy you
are spending on wanting a baby to educate
yourself and be the best person you can
be.In 10 years,you will have something to
offer that child.A junior high school
education will not get you very far in the
world.Please rethink your plan.Patty
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payton_jewles
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Joined: 04 Dec 2004
Posts: 56
Location: California
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Posted: 12-05-04 00:14am
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I have always been passionate about having
a baby, because I am passionate about
children. I am wrong to feel this way?
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Tazzy D
Advanced Support Team
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Posts: 3718
Location: , va
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Posted: 12-05-04 00:17am
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| payton_jewles
wrote: | | i have always been
passionate about having a baby, because I
am passionate about children. I am wrong
to feel this
way? |
your not wrong for wanting a baby... And
I understand your passion, but it is for
all the wrong reasons right now to try if
you are not all ready pregnant. I hope
you understand
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payton_jewles
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Posts: 56
Location: California
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Posted: 12-05-04 00:38am
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I am a little confussed. What do you mean
I want a baby for all the wrong reasons?
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kristynchase
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 03 Nov 2004
Posts: 179
Location: Michigan
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Posted: 12-05-04 01:02am
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I think what she is trying to say is that
there is more to being a mom then what you
think. You need to take on all of the
duties of being a mother. Dont bring a
child into this world if you cant take
care of it properly. I bet you would make
a great mother.. But right now is not the
best time for you right now. Please
reconsider your choice. Enjoy your
teenage years while you can. Just think
when all of your friends want to go out
when they are about 18 and you cant
because you are stuck without a
babysitter. Do you want to miss out on
what your friends are doing enjoy your
teenage years while you can cause they
will be gone before you know it.
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payton_jewles
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Posts: 56
Location: California
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Posted: 12-05-04 01:03am
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I love babies and I have been around them
all my life and I have taken care of them
sence I was 10 or 9. If I were to
concieve do you think my baby would have
problems during labor?
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kristynchase
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
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Posts: 179
Location: Michigan
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Posted: 12-05-04 01:05am
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I think what she is trying to say is that
there is more to being a mom then what you
think. You need to take on all of the
duties of being a mother. Dont bring a
child into this world if you cant take
care of it properly. I bet you would make
a great mother.. But right now is not the
best time for you right now. Please
reconsider your choice. Enjoy your
teenage years while you can. Just think
when all of your friends want to go out
when they are about 18 and you cant
because you are stuck without a
babysitter. Do you want to miss out on
what your friends are doing enjoy your
teenage years while you can cause they
will be gone before you know it.
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kristynchase
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
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Location: Michigan
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Posted: 12-05-04 01:06am
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There is a chance that you would...
Because you are young.. Please reconsider
your choice...
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payton_jewles
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
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Posts: 56
Location: California
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Posted: 12-05-04 01:24am
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I still want a baby really bad. Is that
ok? Thanks for all your help.
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kristynchase
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
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Posts: 179
Location: Michigan
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Posted: 12-05-04 01:27am
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I think you really need to think about it
yeah you took care of your cousins but
they went home after you were done there
is no going back once you do I advise you
strongly not to.... 
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l2at24
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Joined: 06 Nov 2004
Posts: 1509
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Posted: 12-05-04 01:28am
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Everyone has already said enough. I will
just say I hope everything works out for
you.
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kristynchase
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 03 Nov 2004
Posts: 179
Location: Michigan
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Posted: 12-05-04 01:31am
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Yeah that is right it is your choice
hopefully everything goes well with you..
Good luck with whatever you do
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manytravels
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Joined: 16 Nov 2004
Posts: 159
Location: TN
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Posted: 12-05-04 02:48am
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If you were mature enough to be ready for
a baby you would be mature enough to know
you need to wait
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bluebubble888
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Joined: 21 Oct 2004
Posts: 499
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Posted: 12-05-04 02:54am
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I think you need to think of some things
before you go through with any kind of
decision.....Ask yourself these
questions...
1. Who's is going to support the child?
(it's not fair for your parents to be
resbonsible for this)
2.Will there be a father in their lives?
3.How will you pay for insurance for
yourself and the baby?
4. Do you live on your own and pay for
your own things?
5. Do you have a car that you can
tranport yourself in and a drivers
liscense?
6.What about your education.
Babysitting is totally different from the
real deal!
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