Ive been with my current girlfriend about a year now. We are both very much in love and have long term plans. The problem is that one of her ex boyfriends is contacting her through email and snail mail on a regular occassion. Usually the notes are about wanting her back and things like that. She tells me abut them and doesnt seem to be hiding anything. But he doesnt stop. She has never responded to my knowledge and im pretty sure I believe her. But there is a flip side. My ex wife had hounded me for quite some time while with my new girlfriend. And I told her on every occasssion that there was no chance because of my new life until it stopped. I dont understand why she cant do the same to him. She gets jealous when I have to be around my ex wife (child visitation) and feels that I want her back sometimes. But like I said not only have I given no indecation of that, ive been turning her away. I love my cureent gf very much and would do nothing to jeoperdize what we have. But I also want to look out for myself. Ive asked her many times why she doesnt tell him not to contact her...And she says she will just leave it alone and it will go away. But the letters emails and now phone calls to her mothers house looking for her have become more frequent. I really dont know how to handle this. Any help would be appreciated. She doesnt ever want to just talk about it or give me any kind of reason.