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pinkxxxstarz
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Location: Rome, GA
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I Have Bad New
Posted: 11-28-04 10:04am
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  my
boyfriend broke up with me last night.
And it was the worst way....He got his
friend to call me and told me that he
didnt want to have anything to do with me
bc he didnt want to be tied down. Then
they hung up and I called back bc I wanted
to talk to him myself. They still wouldnt
let me talk to him. He said he was pissed
and didnt want to have anything to do with
me or the baby. It hurt me so bad. I had
spent the night over at my friends house
and her boyfriend. They live together and
they have ppl coming in and out of there.
Well, most of them spent the night. There
was this one guy who was passed out on the
chair. And he was friends with dustin (my
bf) and I didnt know it. Well, dustins
friend asked if brandon (the guy passed
out) was over there...I was like...Well, I
dont know...Bc I didnt know anyone over
there. So brandon must have told dustin
something....And plus I know dustin was
seeing this girl behind my back...I know I
can do this on my own but I really dont
want to...It just hurts that he would do
this to me when he told me that he wouldnt
leave me...
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pinkxxxstarz
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Location: Rome, GA
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Posted: 11-28-04 10:08am
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I just feel so depressed and now I dont
know if I can go through without anyone
being there....Even though it might be my
ex's bc we had sex before me and my bf
even met...But I dont know...Im suppose to
go to the doctor this next week....I hate
guys! I truely do..I can never find me
the right one...
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Newmommy23
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Location: Dyess AFB, TX
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Posted: 11-28-04 10:09am
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Awww hunny!! I know how u feel! My ex
promised to be here for me and the baby
but now says he wants nothing to do w/us
b/c he is back w/his ex-wife whom I
thought he hated!! Guy's can be so
cruel!! If u need support feel free to pm
me!! You are better off without him if he
is that immature!! Make sure you make him
pay child support thought!! ***b.I.G.
H.U.G.***
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pinkxxxstarz
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Location: Rome, GA
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Posted: 11-28-04 10:11am
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Thanks! I didnt get any sleep last night
just thinking of the possibilities...I
just dont know what to do...I think im
going to be sick...Thanks for the hug!!!
I needed that..
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Newmommy23
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Posts: 727
Location: Dyess AFB, TX
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Posted: 11-28-04 10:14am
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It is really hard I know!! I am 15wks and
I think if only I never would have slept
w/him like 500 times lol. How old are
you? It will be hard but you can do it!!
U will not be alone forever!! Some great
fuy will come along one day and will love
you and ur baby w/all his heart. Don't
give up hope. You don't want someone like
that raising ur child n e ways!! How old
is he?
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pinkxxxstarz
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Posted: 11-28-04 10:22am
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Well...Im 19 and he is 16...I know thats
kinda a big difference....But if it is my
ex's well he is 19 also...Im kinda hoping
it is my ex's bc he is so supportive to me
right now...Him and his mom. I know I
dont need another kid raising my kid!
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Newmommy23
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Location: Dyess AFB, TX
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Posted: 11-28-04 10:24am
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Isn't it illegal for u to date a 16 y/o?
Do you live alone or w/ur parent's? Job?
Does ur ex have a job? Does the 16 y/o
have a job? Sorry so many questions just
trying to get a handle on ur situation.
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pinkxxxstarz
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Location: Rome, GA
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Posted: 11-28-04 10:28am
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Ok, well I was 18 when he had asked me out
or whatever and then I turned 19 in oct.
Ppl havent really said anything about me
dating a 16 year old...I dont have a
job..I quit walmart bc to many ppl causing
to much drama...Dustin doesnt have a job
he is still in school...My ex use to have
a job at georgia power til they let him go
bc of to many workers...He was making like
14.00 an hour too! Do I need to get a job
right now at the rate I am in??
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Newmommy23
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Posted: 11-28-04 10:31am
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I would suggest you get a job!!! What are
you gonna do if neither one steps up to
the plate. I mean one can't get a good
job and the other doesn't have one!! I
think it would be best to be able to
support urself and ur child by urself
incase that is needed!!! Babies r not
cheap!!! Do you live at home?
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pinkxxxstarz
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
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Location: Rome, GA
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Posted: 11-28-04 10:34am
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Yes I live with my dad and my step mother
who is a nurse....And I cant believe she
cant tell yet..Bc you know since I havent
told them yet.. 
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pinkxxxstarz
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Location: Rome, GA
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Posted: 11-28-04 10:35am
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I am about to leave to go to church I will
be back on later!
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Newmommy23
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Location: Dyess AFB, TX
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Posted: 11-28-04 10:36am
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Girl u need to tell them!!!!!!!!!!!! What
are you going to do if u have to get an
apt.?
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mommax3
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Location: Virginia
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Posted: 11-28-04 10:51am
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18 is still illegal to date anyone under
18
watch out girl, if this baby is his it
could cause a lot of drama with his
family, even if they said it was fine b4,
once they get mad and decide it isn't so
fine anymore it won't be, ya know what I
mean? I wish the best for you. I bet
this kid is scared too honey, he is young
and boys mature slower than girls, think
back to how you were at age 16, then take
another 2 yrs off as well!!! That is
probably about where he is right now in
his mentality for a situation like this.
I know the way he is acting is not at all
right, but stress affects people
differently. Hopefully you can make
peace with him and help him to understand
all that is involved in this and that you
are scared too... I don't know what else
to tell you, but as scared as you are and
as pissed off as he is making you,
remember he is scared too, not trying to
take up for him at all, just trying to get
the "red" out of your vision and for you
to understand that he needs help coping
with htis too, okay hun?
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pinkxxxstarz
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Location: Rome, GA
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Posted: 11-28-04 14:41pm
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Thanks mammax3 that really helped me a
lot...Thanks again :d
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mommax3
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Posts: 1134
Location: Virginia
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Posted: 11-28-04 18:18pm
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| pinkxxxstarz
wrote: | | thanks mammax3 that really
helped me a lot...Thanks again
:d |
seriously, or did I make you mad, I hope
I did help.....You can't always tell if
someone is being sarcastic on here sorry,
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Nikki n Rudy
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Joined: 09 Nov 2004
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Location: Fort Worth, Texas
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Posted: 11-28-04 18:29pm
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There was a time I didn't hear from my
first son's daddy and I completely felt
alone. But he just wasn't home at the
times I called or went by (weird) and he
was working at night. But, you dont need
a man to help you. All you need is a job
and strength to get you through it. I was
19 when I was pregnant with my son, and
had him at 20. I am still with his daddy
and we are having number 2 in january. I
suggest you try to remember dates so that
you can get yourself set up for child
support when the baby is born. Also,
.D.O.N.T. Put anyone but yourself on the
birth cert. Either. Because if you do,
he has rights to run off w/ him and there
isnt anything you can do about it. Same
goes for you. But if you only have your
name there, then he can get into a lot of
trouble for even .T.H.I.N.K.I.N.G. About
it! Cheerp up girl, it will be ok 
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mommax3
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Posted: 11-28-04 18:34pm
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| nikki n rudy
wrote: | | there was a time I didn't
hear from my first son's daddy and I
completely felt alone. But he just
wasn't home at the times I called or went
by (weird) and he was working at night.
But, you dont need a man to help you.
All you need is a job and strength to get
you through it. I was 19 when I was
pregnant with my son, and had him at 20.
I am still with his daddy and we are
having number 2 in january. I suggest
you try to remember dates so that you can
get yourself set up for child support when
the baby is born. Also, .D.O.N.T. Put
anyone but yourself on the birth cert.
Either. Because if you do, he has rights
to run off w/ him and there isnt anything
you can do about it. Same goes for you.
But if you only have your name there,
then he can get into a lot of trouble for
even .T.H.I.N.K.I.N.G. About it!
Cheerp up girl, it will be ok |
good advice
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Nikki n Rudy
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Posted: 11-28-04 18:44pm
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I never knew this stuff until this past
july. My son's dad (we had a fight after
I moved out...)and he was trying to take
him away from me. So when we both learned
that...Neither of us wanted the other to
have him.
But the birth cert. Is kind of scarey.
You know? One day you know the person who
fathered your child and the next, he and
baby are gone and there isnt a damn thing
about you can do (if you arent married).
Sucks. But we are ok now and he pays his
75/wkly (300/mth). Sees him every weekend
and what not.
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nmmama2005
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Location: New Mexico
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Posted: 11-28-04 18:54pm
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That's the scary part. I think that might
happen to me if I find the dad and then
put him on the b.C. I dont want him to
know at all.I know I sound selfish, but I
honesty dont wanna share my baby with his
dad. But I need to tell him just in case
something happens and so I can have some
help. I have lots of support. But really
sucks all the baby stuff I have is from my
mom and friends. I get so exhusted at
work, even though I only work 4hrs, 5days
a wk. I dont make enough money to but my
baby stuff. I hate it. All my money goes
to rent and bills. Even being a single
mom, i'll make it and so will the other
single moms we will make it. We will
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l2at24
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Posted: 11-28-04 19:04pm
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| nmmama2005
wrote: | | that's the scary part. I
think that might happen to me if I find
the dad and then put him on the b.C. I
dont want him to know at all.I know I
sound selfish, but I honesty dont wanna
share my baby with his dad. But I need
to tell him just in case something happens
and so I can have some help. I have lots
of support. But really sucks all the
baby stuff I have is from my mom and
friends. I get so exhusted at work, even
though I only work 4hrs, 5days a wk. I
dont make enough money to but my baby
stuff. I hate it. All my money goes to
rent and bills. Even being a single mom,
i'll make it and so will the other single
moms we will make it. We
will |
the problem with this is that one day your
'baby' will be old enough to ask about
his/her daddy. And you don't want to
ever say I never told your dad about you.
Ouch.
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