This may sounds bad but it may be she is getting it somewhere else. I know personally when I go from sexual to not sexual something is going on with me. It's not just stress for 12 weeks, if there was really something that wrong with she then she should be seeing a doctor. Is she acting strange in any other way? Girls are crappy in the sense we don't say how we feel and tend to just do things and that's all. I hope this is not the case, but it's what it sounds like to me.

Yeah, are you all together a lot? Have you noticed her lying about things? It sucks, but you have to be sure she's not sneaking around on you. You seem very concerned and really want to fix things, while she doesn't really to seem to hear you when you tell her about it. You don't want to put your all if she's not into it.

However, my boyfriend tells me I do the same things to him sometimes. We were long distance and saw each other every two weeks or so and were just all over each other (except we werent have sex), now we live together and we have sex, but he says i'm still not very affectionate. He tells me that I don't ever try to kiss up on him or touch him sexually or anything. Honestly, I never even realized I was doing this to him. I love this man to pieces and there is no question about wanting him or ever cheating on him. Honestly, I just never thought I wasn't showing him affection. He brought it to my attention and he says i've improved, but he still complains to me. Sometimes, i'm just not into it. Sometimes, I just don't feel like doing it. Sometimes my mind is full of things I have to do, and unknowingly- I reject him. Your girl says it's stress- well, it might be. It might come and go for her. One thing that helps is that no matter how rejected he feels, he still comforts me and rubs on me and keeps his affection intact. Usually when he takes things into his own hands, I follow up and remember to do the same to him. I know it sounds bad that I need a reminder..But really, a lot of times, my mind is just in a different place. If she's worth it, don't give up! But don't run yourself ragged trying to get her to do things, she just might not want to do.

Hope i've helped, although I might of just confused you more! Good luck!

Thanks so much you are a big help! Right now I think it is because of the stress. We are going on a little break so she can sort through her stresses. I am going to stick through it because I love her.

Good luck and I hope things work out. I know when I lose my sex drive it is mostly because I am don't care about the person as much (in a long term realtionship that is) otherwise it needs to be exciting or new. I am on several meds that also hinder my drive, but I was with one man for a year and couldn't ever get enough, so I think it's how much you care and love the person.

I dont know if this will help, but I havent had sex with my boyfriend of 7 months (he gets jealous because I have had sex before, just not with him). I started taking the pill so we could but then my sex drive took a nosedive..I partly blame it on that.

Just because she doesn't want to do it might not mean shes getting it somewhere else. Maybe she's scared or maybe there's another reason you don't know about.....
Good luck!

Umm, I really hate how just because a woman has a low/no sex drive that she is automatically getting it somewhere else. Even though she switched pills, 11 or 12 weeks is only three months and it could take her body six months or more to get normal after being on the pill that lowered her drive.
Stress also has a lot to do with it. A lot. When you are stressed out and tired the last thing you want to do is have sex.
Also, not to be mean, but has your sex always been good? I am not trying to be mean or hurt your ego, but seriously. I mean, do you do enough/good foreplay? Last long enough? Please her? I know that when you have a man who only lasts ten or fifteen minutes or less and isn't pleasing you then the thought of sex makes you so sick that the kissing, holding hands everything stops.
I am not saying that you aren't pleasing her I am only asking you to consider it along with many, many other things.
I really don't believe she is cheating. I think she is just stressed out and still has a low sex drive from that pill.
Also, you said that she doesn't care about your needs, and you don't mean just sexually, also oral making out, kissing, etc. That is all sexual honey. I mean if she doesn't feel like having intercourse and getting/receiving pleasure then why in the world would she want to give you oral which does nothing for her?

Waiting is up to you. If you really love her you wouldn't even be questioning it. If you love her, you will talk to her about it until you figure out the problem, and then you will wait through it.