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Mrs_Shipley
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Joined: 25 Nov 2004
Posts: 5
Location: Sterling, Va
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Pregnant And Scared.
Posted: 11-25-04 18:13pm
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 so me
and my boyfriend found out that we were
going to be expecting a little surprise on
july 29, 2005. He's told his whole
family, but I can't even get the courage
to tell my grandmother whom i've lived
with since I was three. My mom had me at
a young age after having a couple
abortions. My mother couldn't take care
of me, so my grandmother recieved coustody
of me. I've tried to think of every
possible way to inform her of this news,
but I can't put into words how I feel.
I'm scared, but I know that I will be so
happy in the long run. I'm excited, but I
know this will really hurt my grandmother.
I need some advice on what I should say.
I know that the first couple words are
going to be, "sorry grandmother, but i'm
pregnant." that's all i've gotten so far.
I've had sex with only 2 people in my
life. I'm 19 and clueless. Please help
me ladies. Y'all probably got better
things to say than I can come up with.
Thanks ladies! 
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Michelle1337
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Joined: 04 Aug 2004
Posts: 1739
Location: Houston, Texas
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Posted: 11-25-04 18:16pm
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The best thing to do is make it short and
sweet...
"i'm sorry grandma but i'm pregnant" will
do fine...And she will probably cry but
then she will want to ask questions...
Just don't beat around the bush, tell her
straight up.
Good luck! I hope everything turns out
great for you! And congrats on the
pregnancy!
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sarahsweet
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Joined: 23 Oct 2004
Posts: 2485
Location: traverse city, michigan
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Posted: 11-25-04 18:20pm
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Well first of all, congrats on the baby!
You will make a wonderful mother. Second,
how to tell your grandmother....Well,
there is no easy way around it. It is
hard telling somone who has high
expectations of you that you are pregnant.
I know, I had to deal with it w/ my
parents. And my grandma was upset w/ me
for a while. It is hard to explain to old
ladies how things are now a days. I
would not say, "sorry grandmother, but im
pregnant" because are you really sorry?
I am pregnant too, and this is not when I
wanted it to happen, but I am not sorry
for my child. I dont think you are
either! Like I said, there is no easy
way around it. Say it bluntly,
"grandmother, im pregnant" see what she
says, and by her reaction you will know
how to handle it from there. Anyway,
that is just my opinion! You know your
grandmother more than anyone else! I wish
you good luck and let us know how it goes!
Keep talking to us for support, this is a
great place to come to in times like
these! Take care!
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Mrs_Shipley
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 25 Nov 2004
Posts: 5
Location: Sterling, Va
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Posted: 11-25-04 18:39pm
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Thanks for the support ladies. I'll take
y'alls advice and just tell her in a
respectful manner, "i need to tell you
something. I'm pregnant." do you think
my boyfriend should be there when I tell
her? He wants to make sure everthing is
going to go okay, and he's worried that
she won't except the good news. He wants
this baby to be excepted by my family as
well as his. His mom is even worried
about me telling my grandmother. Let's
just say she's a "tough cookie"!
Still worried
Last edited by Mrs_Shipley on 11-25-04 18:45pm; edited 1 time in total
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sarahsweet
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Joined: 23 Oct 2004
Posts: 2485
Location: traverse city, michigan
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Posted: 11-25-04 18:40pm
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If you think it would make you feel better
to have him there, then by all means I
suggest you do it! If not...And if you
think that it might bother your
grandmother for him to be there, maybe you
should do it by yourself. Either way,
good luck and let us know how it goes!
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Mrs_Shipley
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 25 Nov 2004
Posts: 5
Location: Sterling, Va
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Posted: 11-25-04 18:45pm
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Definatly will keep y'all updated on the
"tough cookie" situation! 
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sarahsweet
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Joined: 23 Oct 2004
Posts: 2485
Location: traverse city, michigan
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Posted: 11-25-04 18:47pm
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Lol...Good. I know this will work out for
you.
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little_woman
Active User, Really EHEALTHy
Joined: 04 Mar 2004
Posts: 765
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Posted: 11-26-04 03:54am
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Just be honest no waiting be
straightforward
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babyrae
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Joined: 19 Jan 2004
Posts: 2957
Location: Manitoba, Canada
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Posted: 11-26-04 14:25pm
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The sooner u tell, the better. We're here
for u dont worry. Just tell your
grandmother, and sometimes they will get
upset at first, but she'll understand ur
scared and ur sorry.
I hope it all works out!
By the way, u have my due date hehe!
Well.. My due dates past but that was my
baby girl's first due date hehe!
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Mrs_Shipley
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 25 Nov 2004
Posts: 5
Location: Sterling, Va
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Posted: 12-03-04 23:56pm
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Thank you so much ladies! My grandmother
didn't flip out at all...She just wanted
to know when the wedding date was! I'm so
glad that you ladies were here to give me
that advice. I dont' think I could have
done it without you guys! I thank you
sooo much! I'd give all you ladies a
great big hug for being there and giving
me the advice I needed, but it's a cyber
hug!
Thanks
again, 
mrs_shipley
xoxo
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Princess385
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 03 Dec 2004
Posts: 407
Location: Wisconsin
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Posted: 12-04-04 00:00am
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Just to let you know too girlie, you're
19, you're an adult, so you should be able
to have your own decisions from now on.
I mean you should know what the
responsibilties are and everytihng.
You're old enough to have a job and it
seems like you have a good guy standing by
you and i'm sure he'll be a great help as
well. But you are an adutl and you are
able to take care of yourself and a child.
I knwo that you alreayd told your
grandmother, but I do want you to know
that even if she did shun you for it, that
it shoudln't matter, because it is your
life. I just had a little one a little
over a month ago and we're planning number
2. I too am 19 and I know my family,
well my dad's side, won't be too happy
about it, my my hubby's family will just
be over joyed with it!! But I don't care
what they think, they're not hte ones
taking care of the child, I am, you know?
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l2at24
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Joined: 06 Nov 2004
Posts: 1509
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Posted: 12-04-04 00:02am
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| mrs_shipley
wrote: | thank you so much ladies!
My grandmother didn't flip out at
all...She just wanted to know when the
wedding date was! I'm so glad that you
ladies were here to give me that advice.
I dont' think I could have done it
without you guys! I thank you sooo much!
I'd give all you ladies a great big hug
for being there and giving me the advice I
needed, but it's a cyber hug!
Thanks
again,
mrs_shipley
xoxo |
hey I live about 30 minutes from you.
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justacanadiangirl
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Posted: 12-04-04 01:57am
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Mrs_shipley - I knew u could do it  congrats sweetie.
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sarahsweet
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Joined: 23 Oct 2004
Posts: 2485
Location: traverse city, michigan
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Posted: 12-04-04 15:51pm
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Yay! Good girl, im happy for you!
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payton_jewles
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 04 Dec 2004
Posts: 56
Location: California
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Posted: 12-04-04 20:25pm
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Is it scary to have a baby? Does it hurt
or is it just uncomfortable? I am 14
years old and want a baby, so I am trying
to recieve as much advice as possilbe.
Congrats to all the young mothers out
there! Good job, keep on being strong,
because you give courage to all of us who
are confussed and scared.
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sarahsweet
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Joined: 23 Oct 2004
Posts: 2485
Location: traverse city, michigan
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Posted: 12-04-04 20:28pm
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Payton-14 years old and want a baby? Im
sorry...I think you are confused. And
yes, it is scarey to have a baby, it is
uncomfortable, but it is more than that
girl. You are too young to be a parent,
im sorry you want a baby, reconsider this.
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peanutbuttertreasure
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Joined: 09 Nov 2004
Posts: 1226
Location: Georgia
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Posted: 12-04-04 20:37pm
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Yeah...Woah...Wait a minute..Stop and
think bout that..Then get back to us..Lol
14 is wayyyyyy to young
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sarahsweet
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Joined: 23 Oct 2004
Posts: 2485
Location: traverse city, michigan
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Posted: 12-04-04 20:39pm
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She must want to play house
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Tazzy D
Advanced Support Team
Joined: 30 Oct 2004
Posts: 3718
Location: , va
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Posted: 12-04-04 20:46pm
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Congrats to you and your bf.. Im glad
everything went well for you guys.. Keep
us posted and good luck
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Arianna_Capri
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 04 Dec 2004
Posts: 16
Location: Cali
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Posted: 12-05-04 00:43am
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Im 13 and I want a baby and I m asking u
mrs shipley 4 advice...Should i? I have
no clu and im sooo confused but I want a
baby I want t the responsibility of a
mother..How does it feel...Does it
hurt...Plz help me..By the way good luck
with urs
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