#l I don't particualarly care for it myself. #2 give her some time. I don't know how long you have been together. Try to talk to her about it, in a tactful, loving way.

So I guess " suck it health forum " aint the best way to go about it. Na just jokin. We been together for about 3 months

Yeah... That probably wouldn't be the best way. anyway, three months isn't really that long, but I guess a better question would be how serious are you guys? Do you talk to each other about sex or just have sex? Maybe you can hook her up with this site. There are a few posts about how to give your man oral sex. Just a thought.

Make it into a game!!!If you keep it light and not put any pressure on each other-the idea may be more appealing.Make sure that both of you are bathed and smell good,that helps,too!Sometimes.A little chocolate syrup(only on the outside,not inside!!!)can help get things going!Use your imagination,this is supposed to be fun!!!Patty

I totally agree wit' patty, dood, just talk to her about it, my girl was once just like ur'z, till we talked about it....Then she gave in, she told me that she didn't like it :p but I saw different lol

Well we dont talk about sex much. But have sex nearlly everyday for about an hour or so. I guess more time will help. When she gets drunk she says that she'll do it so shes not completely against the idea.

Hey, i've been posting to you on the pregnancy forum too. You had better get your s*&# together with the birth control if you're having sex everyday. Unless ya'll are trying to get pregnant.

Sometimes I like giving it just dont bug her about it or it will take her longer to do it

Well we dont talk about sex much. But have sex nearlly everyday for about an hour or so. I guess more time will help. When she gets drunk she says that she'll do it so shes not completely against the idea.

Well I know I fibb alot w/ giv'en head but.. When I feel like doing it I will ....Since ive been in the mood latly and im will'en to do it so just give her time sooner or later she will

The main point is that she needs to make up her mind to do it,not be forced!!The biggest mistake peole make in a relationship is to not communicate!!I know you are young and may think that talking about issues is stupid,but if a woman is resentful over other issues,you better believe that she will not give you her full attention in the bedroom!You need to talk about your sex life if you want to improve it!!!And as the other person posted,make sure you are using birth control!!Good luck!Patty

Yea I have been thinkin about birth controll (quite alot actually) but from what ive heard I think ill just wait, its my birthday soon maybe shell trat me. Ill to talk to her about it more. This is the first sexual relationship ive been in, alltho I have had a few drunken 1 night stands before ive never had sex with somone ive cared about like I do her. I still feel a little awkward talkin about sex. Thanks for your info.

Ive been with my boyfriend for a year, and we are both still virgins. Were more than ready, just havent done it.

We have oral sex all the time though. At first, I would never blow him because I didnt feel comfortable, but he would say things that sort of lightened the mood.......

I dunno, he started by saying "he wants a kiss" lol, so id kiss it! And then it just went on from there. It took a while, but it happened! Now I love blowing him and do it at least twice a day!

He sounds like a lucky guy!

Well, if she doesn't want to do it, she doesn't want to do it...

Ask her why she doesn't want to? If it's cos she's self concious reassure her that you love everything she does and you know she'll do it great! When she does do it, keep making noises so that she knows she's doing it right and don't thrust or grab her head - that can be very frightening and you might hit the gag reflex. Let her know she's the one in control and she should be less nervous.

Just take things slow and don't push her and she'll probably come around to it.

Ok, so here it is:

first possibility (probability = 50%) she's probably self-concious about her vagina and doesnt feel comfortable with you getting down there. A lot of girls feel uncomfortable with how their vagina's look or b/c they are sexually inexperienced. However, some girls who feel this way are usually more eager to go down on their guys to make em stop bugging them about going down on her. Yet on the other hand, going down on him would make him feel waaay to guilty and he'll wanna go down on her back (unless hes a selfish health questions, which, lets face it, happens often). You will notice this if she reacts abrubptly wny time your head travels anywhere near that area. This is the scenerio where you are more likely to get her to go down on you before u will get permission to go down on her. This takes time and assurance that she is sexy and beautiful and pretty much a ton of complimenting. Also, when she finally allows u down there show major enthusiasm so she has a great time and knows you're enjoying it as well. Most girls, and many guys can only be fully satisfied when they know their partner is also satisfied. When she is more comfortable with you and sure that you will accept her body the way it is she will almost definitely go south on you as well, because she will want to make u happy and won't have that insecurity holding her back.

Second possibility (probability = 50%) she is nervous about her oral capabilities, and doesn't expect u to do her the favor either because then you can pressure her into returning it. This may be b/c she is inexperienced or she was traumatized/embarassed by a bad oral experience (you know, unable to satisfy the guy, was too inexperienced, had a rumor spread around that she was bad, etc etc etc). In this case you let her get really comfortable with you over the next few weeks and if everything is going well, then you can gently bring up the topic. Let me give you some golden advice that even some women won't admit to: we are very co-dependant and you can get us to do pretty much anything if you make us feel needed...Like you can't do something without our help/approval. This gives the woman the impression of importance and control. So tell her that you really need her to talk to you (p.S. This convo should happen when u are completely alone but not having sex cuz she wont take u seriously she'll just think you're horny). Stress that she is doing you a favor and it means so much...Fail-proof. Then just be honest about how this bothers you and how she would make you so happy by doing this and you want to make her just as happy...You get the point. Once she agrees you have to be ultra-supportive and tell her she was great to build her confidence back up.

Third possibility (probabilitry = 10%) she may honestly just not like oral sex. Not b/c of some trauma or insecurity (those can be overcome with time, patience, and affection to build up trust and familiarity), but b/c of a more solid, immovable reason, such as religious/cultural restrictions, penis phobia, compulsively hygenic, or some deep personal revulsion against the act. In such cases, while rare, don't even bother trying to change her min cuz it ain't happening. Take it or leave it.

Good luck dude...Hope u figure this one out!

Hmm that was very helpfull. At the weekend we were getin jiggy and I started to move my head down south and she stoped me sayin she didnt like it, but then she did say she would go down on me. Maybe to stop buggin her like you said. But then soon after she started, her friend knocked on the door sayin that they had to go ( cus she was stayin at her friends house and she had to be in).

I think I need to compliment her more. Plus I think she might think that she will b bad at it ( but she wasnt she was ok ) plus I also think that I will be bad at it but I guess im not as self consious as she is.

Look, man, she doesn't have to do anything she doesnt want to do. Getting laid feels good. You should be satisfied with that.

Honestly, I think that if you are too immature to talk about sex, then you shouldn't be having it. One of my friends says she doesn't like recieving oral, but loves giving it. So, I don't know exactly what's going on with your girl, but you need to be patient and understanding!