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Q: Did He Finally Come to His Senses?

asked by: Lildreamer on October 19th, 2003

Experienced User

Hey everyone hows it going? Im doing alright! My ex-boyfriend from juvie called earlier and he asked my mom if he could talk to me. She of course said no and he started crying to her. She spoke to him alittle bit and she handed me the phone, he told me he still loves me and he takes back everything he said and done to me that hurt me. I wasnt lovie-dovie with him on the phone cuz im stuill hurt but ........He asked me to forgive him once again. His birthday is next month on the 15th................He asked me to marry him on his birthday!!!!!!!!!!!!.....At 17...............I dont know...When I think about it, it makes me giggle. My mother is also hurt by the way he has treated me but for some reason she understands but on the other hand she feels its unexceptable. I didnt get to talk to him about him telling his family to accept us, but maybe he did tell them. I really didnt know what to say to him...!! he said he trusts me about everything and promises to call me tomarrow. I guess ill have to wait and find out what more he has to say.

Sorry for boring you girls about johnny but I really had to get it off my chest about me and him and whats going on. Well what do you girls think...Do you think he really means it?Any encouragement or advice I will deeply appriciate it.

Replies(16)

carvytaph

replied on October 19th, 2003

Experienced User

Please don't marry him. First of all, you are only 17! You have the rest of your life. You may still have feelings for him, but marriage is not easy. Not only will you have to get used to the idea of being his wife and caring for him and your home, but you are still very upset and hurt by him. Don't take the hard feelings into a marriage. A marriage doesn't need added unnecessary stress. Just because he says he's sorry, doesn't mean he won't do it again. He seems like a ladies' man. Sorry to be so blunt. Hope that comment didn't upset you. But it doesn't sound like he's ready to settle down. I would have to see a change not just hear it. Tell him if he loves you he has to stay single for a period of time...And to stay away from the gang and prison, then if he lasts see what happens.

Good luck! Keep in touch!
Carvytaph

smith8500

replied on October 19th, 2003

Especially eHealthy

I Have

I have to agree with her. She said it all. You should wait.

Lildreamer

replied on October 19th, 2003

Experienced User

I Know Your Right!

I know I cant rush into it. He hurt me and he needs to realize he did.Its the whole juvie thing that got us twisted and that stupid bi*ch that started all this. I know hes not a ladies man. We both have nobody but us........Ohh its too long to disscuss.....The thing is im not going to fall for anything until I see some action.To me action means more than words. Until he also gets out of juvie and puts his life on track ill make my decision. Thanx for the advice it really means alot to me. It really helps.

Mommy_2_b

replied on October 20th, 2003

Active User, very eHealthy

Sweetie I dont know what all happened between you two, but at 17 I dont think you really want to get married. It'll seem like a fairy tale rite now but once you get into it... Well are you really ready to become a relationship that does everything together. And where you said he is in juvie... Are you sure he'll be there for you. Please think this over before you rush into it. ~melissa

Mesmerizeu15

replied on October 20th, 2003

Extremely eHealthy

I love you carvy, you said all the right things. I was asked to be married to him because my boyfriend wants to go into the air force. And I told him that I didnt want to marry him right yet. I am still young, and he isnt done "testing"... As my mother would say. Thanks again carvy and good luck to you. Trust us, we are only here to help!!

Mezzy

nikki_caro

replied on October 20th, 2003

Extremely eHealthy

Dream er you have too many guys I cant remember whos who! I thought you were with that guy in jail? Who are these new guys. You fall too fast and you need to take time outfor who you like. From what ive read there are like 3 guys in love with you and they are all drama. Slow down from them. I hope your not even thinking marriage yet.

xmommi2bx

replied on October 20th, 2003

New User

I don't know ur whole story, but zi don;t think u should get married yet. It is just going to be harder on u if things get worse. You will be stuck in a situation and if things don't work out it will be more hassel trying to file for a divorce etc... That is just my opinion though. The best of luck...If u need anything pm me
gabi Wink

aches

replied on October 20th, 2003

New User

Boyfriend

Honey if you marry him you will be jumping out of the skillet into the fire and you will get "burned". Wait till the right man comes along and he will be all you want him to be. You are special and you were created by god and god don't make no junk. He has a life partner for you, ask him to send him to you when he is ready and he thinks you are ready.

Please look at the gods letter to women on the I had and abortion and can't deal with it forum and you will see why you are so special.

Aches

Lildreamer

replied on October 20th, 2003

Experienced User

Nikki!

Nikki....That guy im talking about is the guy from juvie....His name is johnny. I call him my ex now becuase once again he broke up with me becuse of his family. On another posts I wrote about a different ex-boyfriend from the past about he wanting me to be with him and his baby to be born. Theres no one else. Just johnny! Trust I will not marry him(everyone exhale..Lol) untill I see a change and even if we split for sure...It will hurt me so bad.....I dont know what ill do! Will you guys help me through that time if it is to come.You guys really help me build convidence. Thanx for replying!!!!!

Mesmerizeu15

replied on October 21st, 2003

Extremely eHealthy

Didn't read it all again, just throught up something about your forum post, do men e-v-e-r(caps) come to there senses, I doubt it. I am here for you if you need me, we are here for you if you need us!!

Mesmerizeu15 (stacie) (also aol sn!)

Lildreamer

replied on October 23rd, 2003

Experienced User

Thanx Stacie!

I really appriciate it..From the bottom of my heart! Ive never had friends I can count on! Im glad I can count on you guys to help me through this! Much love to u!

carvytaph

replied on October 24th, 2003

Experienced User

You're very welcome, dreamer. We will always be here to help you. I am glad you are thinking through this. You seem very wise.

Best wishes!
Carvytaph

ps thanks mesmerizeu15.

babybooz

replied on October 25th, 2003

Experienced User

For Mesmerize

I dont know what you meant by, guys never come to their senses. Some are born with them, some arent. Guys in juvie and into drugs, wont come clean for love. Been there done that... Sick and tired of the same old thing. I never lowered my standards yet, and I am with the most amazing guy ever created by god. He was born with senses, and he uses them well; for me, him, our relationship, his work, and he uses them to look out for his future. I guess I was a lucky one...
Sarah

Mesmerizeu15

replied on October 27th, 2003

Extremely eHealthy

For Babybooz

Men that have been in juvie can come to there senses for love. But like you and all of us have said some dont. My boyfriend of 4 years, almost 5 was in and out of juvie until about a year ago. We stuck together and when he got out we had a baby..He has stayed out of trouble, has a good job, and moved clear across the country just to be there for me.. I hope that people realize that some men can change, but some men dont... That is what I meant...Thanks!!

Lildreamer

replied on October 27th, 2003

Experienced User

Really? I Didnt Know That!

Is that right mesmerizeu15? How old are you? How old is your guy now? How old was he when he went to juvie? Thats chill how you have a man that got his act straight. How old is your baby? Did you ever visit him in juvie? Im so glad theres someone who said something positive about juvie guys. You are the first one to......Thats chill.

Mesmerizeu15

replied on October 28th, 2003

Extremely eHealthy

:d thats right!! I was 11 when I met my boyfriend, and I am 16 now. He is 17 and will be 18 in june...Our son is 6 months old. He was in and out of juvie his whole life. I wasnt allowed to visit him because I lived far away from there and because he got sent to a place called doc which was even further. I wrote him all the time though and I would call his mom and ask about him, me and his mom have alwyas talked....Well I am glad that I made your day sweetie...Take care...Just because men have been in juvie, doesnt mean they cant change there life around too!!

Mesmerizeu15

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